Divorce Help (not sure where to post this)

[soinlovewithyou 1]

i bet you guys are NEWLY WED.. AND JUST STAY OR LIVE TOGETHER... it's normal to have some few fights and misunderstanding.. you guys need to talk about some lil problem or big issues... getting married here in philippines is not a joke and it's true that we dont have a divorce here.. i dont judge anyone here.. not you neither your wife.. you have to think about the wonderful memories you had.. WHERE ARE THIS WORDS DURING THE TIME YOURE WAITING FOR YOUR VISA TO GET APPROVED?

"many wish for things this Christmas.... it is my birthday this upcoming Saturday as well as the upcoming Christmas... sad to say it but the thing I want for either of these, no one can give. I want the past to be the present. I want things to be undone to reveal a better future. I want to right my wrongs, and relive my life through the eyes of my better self.... this current path is the one I have chosen and the one I hate, and can only wish I could wish it away....

Alas no one can grant this wish of change, so I wish for nothing this birthday, I wish for nothing this Christmas. I just want my wife with me soon... I wish she can fill the gap of loneliness this entire year has brought, the loneliness my entire life has sought. She is the angel I have been waiting for, and so only she can grant my wish(es), and in return I can only hope to grant hers!"

"Still waiting on 2nd Notice from visa :/ HURRY UP DAMNIT!! The completion is so close, I want to be with my wife!"

you have to think all those wishes and pains during the time you both are eager to be together.. and waiting for the visa to arrive... there is always a solution and break ups or divorce is not a solution right away.. you both need to talk when you both calm down.. dont let the anger or evil pushes your vows split your marriage... i am very anti with the divorce... try to talk and settle things.. if things really not working out or if she really is mean.. then let go.. but dont make some decisions right away.. i guess you guys need to have a vacation .. PROBLEMS/ MISUNDERSTANDING / CONFLICTS ARE ALWAYS PART OF THE MARRIAGE... in the marriage it's not always beautiful, rainbows, or sweet.. trials always arrive to test how strong is your relationship.. i hope this will wake you up... and realize something... specially this words...

"

I miss my love more than enough, I miss what we had, it is more than rough.

I seek not solitude, nor pleasure, nor gain. Without my love, my life seem with pain. I miss her smell, her laugh, her smile. I miss the fun times we shared in awhile. I wish we could be together soon, so we could share a romantic night under the moon.

It seems so cheesy I know, but for not, this poem I show. I love my wife with so much glee, that before I had pledged, and still I give with certainty... my heart, my soul, my love I swear. For you, love, I hold so dear. You are my life, my reason for living... There is nothing in this world, other than you worth saving.

I love every moment that we share, I love every moment that we bare. I could not stand without you in this world, for I would fall part, for sure. I would see that without you, this world is never pure.

You are the angel, within my life, you are the angel, my love, my wife. And I shall forever love you...

I am yours... within Eternity.

Share · October 25, 2011 at 11:30am · "

where are this words???? DON'T ASK SOME ADVISE HERE.. it's not worthy... people give advise without even knowing what really happens..

Glenn C. Mundee

Only 3 months left till I see my wife again. I'm so excited! Counting down the days

Share · September 1, 2011 at 7:05pm via mobile ·

2 people like this.

Zeny Talaboc Puyong Yehey

September 1, 2011 at 7:16pm

Glenn C. Mundee Yay is right! I'll see ALL of you guys again. Especially mama and papa hehe. I can't wait..

September 1, 2011 at 7:18pm

Zeny Talaboc Puyong We cant w8 2 c u again glenn. Im sure ur papa and mama wil hapi also

September 1, 2011 at 7:21pm

Glenn C. Mundee ‎

September 1, 2011 at 9:25pm

Jessica Lavinia Tirrado aww .. that would be christmass right? i want to be with my husband too .. so bad

September 1, 2011 at 10:23pm

Glenn C. Mundee I'm hoping Xmas, but all depends on the visa process. May not get there till first couple weeks of January

September 2, 2011 at 1:26am

what a shame if you just file a divorce after this sweet words.......... think of it MR.

nice, your advice touched my heart...i hope everyone in this journey thinks the same way as you do...

[Thomas&Cleofe 358]

i bet you guys are NEWLY WED.. AND JUST STAY OR LIVE TOGETHER... it's normal to have some few fights and misunderstanding.. you guys need to talk about some lil problem or big issues... getting married here in philippines is not a joke and it's true that we dont have a divorce here.. i dont judge anyone here.. not you neither your wife.. you have to think about the wonderful memories you had.. WHERE ARE THIS WORDS DURING THE TIME YOURE WAITING FOR YOUR VISA TO GET APPROVED?

"many wish for things this Christmas.... it is my birthday this upcoming Saturday as well as the upcoming Christmas... sad to say it but the thing I want for either of these, no one can give. I want the past to be the present. I want things to be undone to reveal a better future. I want to right my wrongs, and relive my life through the eyes of my better self.... this current path is the one I have chosen and the one I hate, and can only wish I could wish it away....

Alas no one can grant this wish of change, so I wish for nothing this birthday, I wish for nothing this Christmas. I just want my wife with me soon... I wish she can fill the gap of loneliness this entire year has brought, the loneliness my entire life has sought. She is the angel I have been waiting for, and so only she can grant my wish(es), and in return I can only hope to grant hers!"

"Still waiting on 2nd Notice from visa :/ HURRY UP DAMNIT!! The completion is so close, I want to be with my wife!"

you have to think all those wishes and pains during the time you both are eager to be together.. and waiting for the visa to arrive... there is always a solution and break ups or divorce is not a solution right away.. you both need to talk when you both calm down.. dont let the anger or evil pushes your vows split your marriage... i am very anti with the divorce... try to talk and settle things.. if things really not working out or if she really is mean.. then let go.. but dont make some decisions right away.. i guess you guys need to have a vacation .. PROBLEMS/ MISUNDERSTANDING / CONFLICTS ARE ALWAYS PART OF THE MARRIAGE... in the marriage it's not always beautiful, rainbows, or sweet.. trials always arrive to test how strong is your relationship.. i hope this will wake you up... and realize something... specially this words...

"

I miss my love more than enough, I miss what we had, it is more than rough.

I seek not solitude, nor pleasure, nor gain. Without my love, my life seem with pain. I miss her smell, her laugh, her smile. I miss the fun times we shared in awhile. I wish we could be together soon, so we could share a romantic night under the moon.

It seems so cheesy I know, but for not, this poem I show. I love my wife with so much glee, that before I had pledged, and still I give with certainty... my heart, my soul, my love I swear. For you, love, I hold so dear. You are my life, my reason for living... There is nothing in this world, other than you worth saving.

I love every moment that we share, I love every moment that we bare. I could not stand without you in this world, for I would fall part, for sure. I would see that without you, this world is never pure.

You are the angel, within my life, you are the angel, my love, my wife. And I shall forever love you...

I am yours... within Eternity.

Share · October 25, 2011 at 11:30am · "

where are this words???? DON'T ASK SOME ADVISE HERE.. it's not worthy... people give advise without even knowing what really happens..

Glenn C. Mundee

Only 3 months left till I see my wife again. I'm so excited! Counting down the days

Share · September 1, 2011 at 7:05pm via mobile ·

2 people like this.

Zeny Talaboc Puyong Yehey

September 1, 2011 at 7:16pm

Glenn C. Mundee Yay is right! I'll see ALL of you guys again. Especially mama and papa hehe. I can't wait..

September 1, 2011 at 7:18pm

Zeny Talaboc Puyong We cant w8 2 c u again glenn. Im sure ur papa and mama wil hapi also

September 1, 2011 at 7:21pm

Glenn C. Mundee ‎

September 1, 2011 at 9:25pm

Jessica Lavinia Tirrado aww .. that would be christmass right? i want to be with my husband too .. so bad

September 1, 2011 at 10:23pm

Glenn C. Mundee I'm hoping Xmas, but all depends on the visa process. May not get there till first couple weeks of January

September 2, 2011 at 1:26am

what a shame if you just file a divorce after this sweet words.......... think of it MR.

[Thomas&Cleofe 358]

nice, your advice touched my heart...i hope everyone in this journey thinks the same way as you do...

well, he is still young, naive, and has no experience with marriage. So it is easy for him to pass judgement onto others.

[Darnell 8,478]

If I'm reading this right, though - the couple is in the middle of visa application process, and the USCitizen Spouse is in the USA, and the Foreign Spouse is living in the PI ..

1. he's withdrawing the Visa Application and

2. she's found someone else to marry and

3. she's trying to muck him about, about an uncontested divorce.

IMO, he has the bigger bargaining chip, as obviously SHE has her own timeline to get remarried.

[LSnBigBear 61]

Looks like you are from Tenn. Just file your divorce online understanding your states laws first. There are no rules that state you must do anything in her home Country. Ultimately she will lose out as you are a USC and have the right to divorce. In her country divorce is not legal only annulments. If she does not cooperate then it is her loss if she ever wants to marry again. You will be divorced and she will be considered married unless she pays the hefty price for annulment there.

This should not cost you much if you do it on line or at your local courthouse.

Good luck

[TheUndreaming 0]

i bet you guys are NEWLY WED.. AND JUST STAY OR LIVE TOGETHER... it's normal to have some few fights and misunderstanding.. you guys need to talk about some lil problem or big issues... getting married here in philippines is not a joke and it's true that we dont have a divorce here.. i dont judge anyone here.. not you neither your wife.. you have to think about the wonderful memories you had.. WHERE ARE THIS WORDS DURING THE TIME YOURE WAITING FOR YOUR VISA TO GET APPROVED?

"many wish for things this Christmas.... it is my birthday this upcoming Saturday as well as the upcoming Christmas... sad to say it but the thing I want for either of these, no one can give. I want the past to be the present. I want things to be undone to reveal a better future. I want to right my wrongs, and relive my life through the eyes of my better self.... this current path is the one I have chosen and the one I hate, and can only wish I could wish it away....

Alas no one can grant this wish of change, so I wish for nothing this birthday, I wish for nothing this Christmas. I just want my wife with me soon... I wish she can fill the gap of loneliness this entire year has brought, the loneliness my entire life has sought. She is the angel I have been waiting for, and so only she can grant my wish(es), and in return I can only hope to grant hers!"

"Still waiting on 2nd Notice from visa :/ HURRY UP DAMNIT!! The completion is so close, I want to be with my wife!"

you have to think all those wishes and pains during the time you both are eager to be together.. and waiting for the visa to arrive... there is always a solution and break ups or divorce is not a solution right away.. you both need to talk when you both calm down.. dont let the anger or evil pushes your vows split your marriage... i am very anti with the divorce... try to talk and settle things.. if things really not working out or if she really is mean.. then let go.. but dont make some decisions right away.. i guess you guys need to have a vacation .. PROBLEMS/ MISUNDERSTANDING / CONFLICTS ARE ALWAYS PART OF THE MARRIAGE... in the marriage it's not always beautiful, rainbows, or sweet.. trials always arrive to test how strong is your relationship.. i hope this will wake you up... and realize something... specially this words...

"

I miss my love more than enough, I miss what we had, it is more than rough.

I seek not solitude, nor pleasure, nor gain. Without my love, my life seem with pain. I miss her smell, her laugh, her smile. I miss the fun times we shared in awhile. I wish we could be together soon, so we could share a romantic night under the moon.

It seems so cheesy I know, but for not, this poem I show. I love my wife with so much glee, that before I had pledged, and still I give with certainty... my heart, my soul, my love I swear. For you, love, I hold so dear. You are my life, my reason for living... There is nothing in this world, other than you worth saving.

I love every moment that we share, I love every moment that we bare. I could not stand without you in this world, for I would fall part, for sure. I would see that without you, this world is never pure.

You are the angel, within my life, you are the angel, my love, my wife. And I shall forever love you...

I am yours... within Eternity.

Share · October 25, 2011 at 11:30am · "

where are this words???? DON'T ASK SOME ADVISE HERE.. it's not worthy... people give advise without even knowing what really happens..

Glenn C. Mundee

Only 3 months left till I see my wife again. I'm so excited! Counting down the days

Share · September 1, 2011 at 7:05pm via mobile ·

2 people like this.

Zeny Talaboc Puyong Yehey

September 1, 2011 at 7:16pm

Glenn C. Mundee Yay is right! I'll see ALL of you guys again. Especially mama and papa hehe. I can't wait..

September 1, 2011 at 7:18pm

Zeny Talaboc Puyong We cant w8 2 c u again glenn. Im sure ur papa and mama wil hapi also

September 1, 2011 at 7:21pm

Glenn C. Mundee ‎

September 1, 2011 at 9:25pm

Jessica Lavinia Tirrado aww .. that would be christmass right? i want to be with my husband too .. so bad

September 1, 2011 at 10:23pm

Glenn C. Mundee I'm hoping Xmas, but all depends on the visa process. May not get there till first couple weeks of January

September 2, 2011 at 1:26am

what a shame if you just file a divorce after this sweet words.......... think of it MR.

I think you guys are missing some of the point >.< 1st) I'm kinda creeped out at where you got all that... 2nd) a lot of things change. ESPECIALLY her. When she says she doesn't love me, regrets marrying me and only married me because my grandparents sent the money for the wedding, don't talk to her family, and some other disrespectful bullsh*t I'm not going to post here... and not just ONCE, but every fight we have (which is like every time we talk) is NOT a lover's quarrel... that's pure War Declaration.

All I'm asking for is if she needs the divorce certificate to file the Petition. I know >I< don't file it.

@Bobneith: What's VHA? I get BAH... and considering I been sending her apprx 5-6 times amount of BAH for a year, and then 3x BAH for 6 more months + extra $600 for her vacations... I think I've been more than considerate especially since I've cut most of my own expenses, living nearly on bread on water :\ So... I think no. I was trying to be fair with her and give her a last payment when we seperate if she wants to be cooperative but that boat sailed away with her attitude this last conversation. f*** that.

@himher: Well I still need her to sign/notarize it before I can turn it in.

[TheUndreaming 0]

If I'm reading this right, though - the couple is in the middle of visa application process, and the USCitizen Spouse is in the USA, and the Foreign Spouse is living in the PI ..

1. he's withdrawing the Visa Application and

2. she's found someone else to marry and

3. she's trying to muck him about, about an uncontested divorce.

IMO, he has the bigger bargaining chip, as obviously SHE has her own timeline to get remarried.

meh close... #1 and 3. Things just aren't working out between us (as stated in prev post), she has completely gone off the deep end. I've made a mistake or two, but nothing that goes against the sanctity of marriage, and Fate has it that nothing I plan goes according to plan .. and she automatically assumes I'm a liar for it :\ Just because something didn't go the way she wanted it to. She's really immature and I see now she wasn't ready for marriage (and although I wasn't financially.. I'm still ready to settle down, but not with her anymore). I've completely lost respect and love for her >

[Que Saudade 284]

She will need a certified copy of the divorce decree in order to file recognition of foreign divorce. Without that, she will not be able to marry again. The philippines have that law where they do not recognize divorce. It is iron clad. However, they do have a "special" law for what they call "mixed" marriages. The Philippines now recognizes a foreign decree of divorce granted by a foreign court to an alien spouse of a Filipino. The Filipino is responsible for filing it.

She should recognize that she needs this from you and should be a little more agreeable.

Do what you need to do as far as the divorce is concerned. I would check with a couple more lawyers to find a better price.

Edited August 5, 2012 by Que Saudade

[Ban Hammer 13,349]

@Bobneith: What's VHA? I get BAH... and considering I been sending her apprx 5-6 times amount of BAH for a year, and then 3x BAH for 6 more months + extra $600 for her vacations... I think I've been more than considerate especially since I've cut most of my own expenses, living nearly on bread on water :\ So... I think no. I was trying to be fair with her and give her a last payment when we seperate if she wants to be cooperative but that boat sailed away with her attitude this last conversation. f*** that.

@himher: Well I still need her to sign/notarize it before I can turn it in.

VHA = variable housing allowance. it's usually insignificant unless one lives in a high cost of living area.

BAH is what she's entitled to. a jag lawyer would be the one to advise if VHA is to be included or not.

[Darnell 8,478]

Charles, she's yet to immigrate; these things are still added in ?

[Kathryn41 3,205]

One post containing inappropriate comment has been removed. This is not the Off-Topic forum and off -topic type of comments are not acceptable here.

[Kathryn41 3,205]

While i realize a breakdown in a marriage can leave individuals feeling hurt and betrayed, my personal feelings are that the honourable thing to do would be to make it as easy as you reasonably can for her to obtain the certificate. That doesn't mean you have to pay for it for her, but to provide her with the documents she needs to file for herself.

She will need a certified copy of the divorce decree and, I believe, proof of the law that allows you to divorce her. As long as she has the documentation she needs to apply for the certificate, you shouldn't have to become overly concerned with her applying for the certificate afterwards. Explain to her that you are pursuing the divorce, regardless of her co-operation or not, but that you will make sure she gets the necessary documents so she can file for the certificate herself. Explain to her that you are not allowed to file for it - only she can do that. It is, as was pointed out above, in her own best interests to co-operate, but even if she doesn't, you should still do the honourable thing and make sure she does get the documents she needs to file. The actual filing will be up to her. You will move on with your life and so can she.

You can refer her to the articles I listed in my earlier post to explain the process to her and to determine exactly what she needs.

Edited August 5, 2012 by Kathryn41

[himher 634]

That is incorrect.

You can file for divorce at the family court in your county of residence and your wife does not have to sign anything. The cost (for an attorney to file it, pick a random one who advertises as a family lawyer) is around $500-$750 if there are no children involved and she has already left your residence.

Advised to serve her with a registered delivery that someone has to sign for, you can get it signed for by simply saying that these are the documents she needs (LOL). You otherwise owe her nothing (be advised that you do NOT have to buy this from her and should stop sending her money) and are perfectly entitled to get your divorce and move on with your life.

You will get an original copy when the divorce is finalized and it costs $2-$3 for additional copies. Get one and send it to her.

I think you guys are missing some of the point >.< 1st) I'm kinda creeped out at where you got all that... 2nd) a lot of things change. ESPECIALLY her. When she says she doesn't love me, regrets marrying me and only married me because my grandparents sent the money for the wedding, don't talk to her family, and some other disrespectful bullsh*t I'm not going to post here... and not just ONCE, but every fight we have (which is like every time we talk) is NOT a lover's quarrel... that's pure War Declaration.

All I'm asking for is if she needs the divorce certificate to file the Petition. I know >I< don't file it.

@Bobneith: What's VHA? I get BAH... and considering I been sending her apprx 5-6 times amount of BAH for a year, and then 3x BAH for 6 more months + extra $600 for her vacations... I think I've been more than considerate especially since I've cut most of my own expenses, living nearly on bread on water :\ So... I think no. I was trying to be fair with her and give her a last payment when we seperate if she wants to be cooperative but that boat sailed away with her attitude this last conversation. f*** that.

@himher: Well I still need her to sign/notarize it before I can turn it in.

[Ban Hammer 13,349]

Charles, she's yet to immigrate; these things are still added in ?

immaterial - military rules are spouse has to be supported, and by supported, that means they are entitled to the BAH.

[Darnell 8,478]

Charles - Thanks for the Clearing up !