Obtain proof of Spouse's status

[SingleDad2usc 71]

I'm swept by your amiable language! Still trying to stay level-headed: my priority is shifting toward soonest filing. I'm not as worried about the strength of my case, as I'm about anecdotal signs of rapidly deteriorating VSC timelines. People appear reporting near-halt!! I'm beginning to wonder if next legislative squabble over VAWA abuses might spill over time into more cynical VSC M.O.

I'm trying to stick to what's required for non-delayed prima facie. I have:

1. 100% evidence of Marriage in 2000

2. 100% evidence of good-faith Marriage

3. 100% evidence of living together in US 2000-2003

4. 100% evidence of both spousal and child Abuse 2002-2003

5. Copies of Children's birth certificates with father blank

6. 2005 Court Order that both children are of this Marriage, 2005 Final Order of Custody on mother's default

7. My non-US birth certificate, my Canada passport; do I need 2 photos of certain format?

After I first see pro-bono Immigration Lawyer in about two weeks, with all this in hand - how long will it take Lawyer/me to:

1. Receive Police Clearance

2. Receive Nationwide Divorce Record

3. Receive (is it possible before filing?) USCIS report of wife's status by her A#

Anything else required to send VSC and receive non-delayed Prima Facie?

I'm saying it would give you proof positive of the biological link to your children.

The assumption of paternity because of marriage is something that individual states do. That's not a federal law, meaning it's not a requirement of all 50 states. That is common knowledge and surely Immigration officials know it, too. The birth certificates don't support your paternity claim, just as the judge's order that you be given care/custody and access to copies of the birth certificates don't support paternity.

And, if you think about it from the not-emotionally-attached, outside point of view, DNA tests are credible evidence and there's no unringing the bell; nobody can take it away from you. Also, you could use the DNA test results along with that free filing option in family court to get an order to have your name put on the birth certificates. That would be far easier than trying to get a judge to go back and revisit the wording of something he did years ago.

[Boiler 45,519]

I would have thought the DNA tests could be done in less than 2 weeks.

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

I would have thought the DNA tests could be done in less than 2 weeks.

SD, how are you doing this is you are here illegal?

P.S. For those who are not in dire emergency and who have stabilized already: I run an amazing program covering the entire Eastern Time Zone, from NorthEast all the way to Key West (that's only 90 miles North of Cuba!) I take families to Disneyworld using multi-passenger vehicles, during school breaks only (and that's the highest seasons) totally non-profit, sometimes even at zero price! Right now my program is back-logged dozens of families, waiting for me to renew my DL. Sorry, I'm not aware of anyone else running this on the East Coast.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

I don't have to comment, but I want to. This may be educational to many, and thus helpful.

I've never qualified, applied or received any benefits. If there are benefits (disability or other) for U.S. citizens, which you consider excessive - you should lobby your elective representatives to propose reductions. When Representative Payee gets chosen, approved, regularly re-certified etc. - it's a lot of work for the Payee. The Payee may be one (me) or another - but there will be payee, and children will receive benefits they need.

Now, something entirely different - and I hope my frankness doesn't undermine my VAWA case. I loathe single parenthood, I think single parenthood is totally idiotic and should not exist. I've had great romantic success before becoming single parent, and I've been shifted to the opposite side of that field by virtue of what's commonly referred to in romantic circles "the baggage". I even wonder sometimes (what Ex- doesn't?): how would the dice roll with that Criminally Insane love of mine, if she weren't initially coerced by ACS to abscond. But this is what happened in 2002-2003: ACS convinced her, in confidence, that her best path in life had as little as possible to do with Husband and Children. They totally assured her that she could simply walk away from entire family, have her total choice of official or one-time relationships in her officially adapted America, and never-ever be called back for any responsibility. Total immediate clean break. No need for any dealing with any court ever. They even offered free sterilization to boot! So, anyway, once they saw a flaky mother, who just got US status with all amazing asylee benefits like possibility of acceptance into great university - they saw chance for themselves of potential private adoption for a pair of children!

So what do you know: with this "good" "official" advice in her new country - she goes bunkers! She feels confident enough not just to be calling 911 to give up children, but also calling 911 to remove the Husband, when she'd "invited a date over" and Husband doesn't co-operate.etc, etc. She is effected by PPD, hitting babies and Husband... She wasn't mentored in the opposite sense - that morals, humanism and Law deems all this wrong. That this can never be the easiest path in life... Anyway, once Adultery and abuse (like Ginnie) leaves the bottle - how can you EVER shove it back? Gone.

Of course, two years later she discovers that no "ACS heaven" was allowed to happen by the Judge - who ended threatening ACS fine $1000/day, if children were delayed any longer from discharge to father. She just opened her door to OCSE server! She must fork up 25% of her before-tax income and can't do whatever she wants (like simply go ahead and register another marriage, claim to never have had children)- when she'd been promised clean break, like that marriage and children never even existed. OMG, they haven't been wiped off the face of the Earth...yet. And of course, who knows what kind of drugs she's on now - after all of those free new daily exersizes, hundreds of kinky partners, hard core S&M

To heck with it, I'm looking forward now. So Life'J, what can't you understand? Until it just came up for 8y renewal, I had the same DL as yours. I've been fortunate to give the gift of Disney to hundreds of kids who would never reach Orlando otherwise. All I got paid for it were smiles and love of the community. Most of us strive for US status with more cliche dream in mind. I teach my children: the richest are not the ones who have the most. They are the ones who need the least

[Boiler 45,519]

I think he was wondering how you fund all of this?

You are not allowed to work and like you say the benefits go to the children's care.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

No worry Boiler. When u frugal u frugal. No mark-ups, no government subsidy. No fat. No profit all the way. Don't pitty my deficits friends - just help my procedures

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

You can fool all the people some of the time, and some of the people all the time, but you cannot fool all the people all the time.

Abraham Lincoln

Good luck

[SingleDad2usc 71]

Cool. That's why I'm filing in a couple of weeks.

All I need is to understand how (quick) can my future Lawyer get Abuser's status proof

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

I do find it strange that you have an orginzation that deals with taking children inter-state have never had a problem with background checks. Everyone who deals with children, are required to have background and finger print checks on a yearly basis. ummm

Your illegal status never raised a red flag. uuum

[SingleDad2usc 71]

Back up...No organization and no children travel without parent. Your assumptions went a little wild.

So if your family needs a ride, I'll let you know when I'm on the road again. Unless you're safe enough driver to join the team - got a vacancy!

Friends, lets go back to my question: how does DV agency/Lawyer find out Abuser's status before filing VAWA?

Edited August 10, 2012 by SingleDad2usc

[belinda63 3,038]

Yep, story is getting stranger and stranger. You have been involved with ACS for 10 or more years, the children(best I can guess)were in foster care for a while, you have no source of income, yet you have the money to buy a vehicle and drive up and down the East Coast giving free transportation to children to Disneyland (BTW did you have insurance?).

BIG QUESTION......where were your children while you were meandering around the East Coast doing all these good deeds? They are too sickly for you to move them to Canada but they can go riding around the country for days or weeks at a time?

Boiler was right, this would make a really good lifetime movie.

Edited August 10, 2012 by belinda63

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Back up...No organization and no children travel without parent. Your assumptions went a little wild.

So if your family needs a ride, I'll let you know when I'm on the road again. Unless you're safe enough driver to join the team - got a vacancy!

Friends, lets go back to my question: how does DV agency/Lawyer find out Abuser's status before filing VAWA?

Family just happens to know a friend who knowns a friends that happens to be going to Disney World.

I buy that.....SFU..

[SingleDad2usc 71]

Again unneeded assumptions. No vehicle bought, no children shuffle. Standard insurance like you have when you carpool. But you know what - I'm not giving your family a ride - unless you answer my question on Abuser Status Verification!

P.S. One of my children, born with 5 birth defects now commonly attributed to pregnancy Prozac, is super sensitive to cold. He takes to FL vacations well. He should never be moved to LIVE in colder climate. The other child is just fine, thank you. She'd won Ms. Jr New York Times and been elected Student of the Month more than anyone in her school - which happens to be the school with highest grade average of all public schools in NYC. Both children had 100% attendence record vs. 72% NYC average, according to their report cards

[SingleDad2usc 71]

You too, LifeJ. No ride, if you don't come back to Abuser's Status Verification subject

Family just happens to know a friend who knowns a friends that happens to be going to Disney World.

I buy that.....SFU..

[belinda63 3,038]

So it's ok to cart the kids around for weeks or months at a time (BTW I hear some parts of Canada are warmer than New York).......and where do you get the money for this? Your story is getting harder and harder to believe and no one here can answer your question, that is what an attorney is for.

Let's clear the air a little bit. I don't know how NY calculates child support but in KY it is based upon the income of BOTH parents. There is no "set percentage" a parent has to pay of their income, you keep stating she owes 25% of her income as fact. Since you don't work and if she doesn't work (assuming she is still in the US) there is a set minimum of child support due per month, usually about $25 to $60 per month. As I have said before, if the children's mother is ever ordered to pay child support, which according to you she has not been, most if not all of it will go to the State of New York to reimburse them for the children's care, ie. medical, food stamps, etc. You would probably never see a penny of it.

Edited August 10, 2012 by belinda63