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How does that translate to you possibly being scammed by one of those Greek men? Were any of the compliments you recieved disingenuous? If so, did you feel that you were possibly the target of a scam?

That translates as a reluctance to take Greek compliments seriously, since they throw them about so easily.

Another example: many of my Arab students told me they loved me. Did they? Of course not, they throw love in very fast in most dealings they have with people. In my culture, we hardly ever say those words, so an Arab professing his love to me so fast would have moved me, had I not met so many.

Like it or not, we tend to judge other cultures by our own standards.


USCIS [*] 22 Nov. 2011 - I-129 package sent; [*] 25 Nov. 2011 - Package delivered; [*] 25 Nov. 2011 - NOA1/petition received and routed to the California Service Center; [*] 30 Nov. 2011 - Touched/confirmation though text message and email; [*] 03 Dec. 2011 - Hard copy received; [*]24 April 2012 - NOA2 (no RFEs)/text message/email/USCIS account updated; [*] 27 April 2012 - NOA2 hard copy received.

NVC [*] 14 May 2012 - Petition received by NVC ; [*] 16 May 2012 - Petition left NVC.

EMBASSY [*] 18 May 2012 - Petition arrived at the US Embassy in Bucharest; [*] 22 May 2012 - Package 3 received; [*] 24 May 2012 - Package sent to the consulate, interview date set; [*] 14 June 2012 - Interview date, approved.

POE [*] 04 July 2012 - Minneapolis/St.Paul. [*] 16 September 2012 - Wedding Day!

AOS/EAD/AP [*] 04 February 2013 - AOS/EAD/AP package sent; [*] 07 February 2013 - AOS/EAD/AP package delivered; [*] 12 February 2013 - NOA1 text messages/emails; [*] 16 February 2013 - NOA1 received in the regular mail; [*] 28 February 2013 - Biometrics letter received (appointment date, March 8th); [*] 04 March 2013 - Biometrics walk-in completed (9 out of 10 fingerprints taken, pinky would not give in); [*] 04 April 2013 - EAD/AP card approved; [*] 11 April 2013 - Combo card sent/tracking number obtained; [*] 15 April 2013 - Card delivered.

[*] 15 May 2013 - Moved from MN to LA; [*] 17 May 2013 - Applied for a new SS card/filed an AR-11 online (unsuccessfully), therefore called and spoke to a Tier 2 and changed the address; [*] 22 May 2013 - Address updated on My Case Status (finally can see the case numbers online); [*] 28 May 2013 - Letter received in the mail confirming the change of address; [*] 31 July 2013 - Went to Romania; [*] 12 September 2013 - returned to the US using the AP, POE Houston, everything went smoothly; [*] 20 September 2013 - Spoke to a Tier2 and put in a service request; [*] 23 September 2013 - Got "Possible Interview Waiver" letter (originally sent on August, 29th to my old address, returned and re-routed to my current address); [*] 1 October 2013 - Started a new job.

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That translates as a reluctance to take Greek compliments seriously, since they throw them about so easily.

Another example: many of my Arab students told me they loved me. Did they? Of course not, they throw love in very fast in most dealings they have with people. In my culture, we hardly ever say those words, so an Arab professing his love to me so fast would have moved me, had I not met so many.

Like it or not, we tend to judge other cultures by our own standards.

Those of us in relationships with Chinese women are wise to learn early that they "decide" to whom to GIVE their love, as opposed to "falling in love". The romantic love usually comes later. It's a little like how an American woman might decide about a second date.

Most of the people I know would NEVER consider marrying somebody they hadn't already determined through direct experience was "sexually compatible", yet there's a whole vast world of cultures out there that wouldn't think of having sex before or outside marriage. Some will condemn you to death for it. Most people I know are not much like me and only I, actually AM me.

Again, traditional in person, meetings (bar, party, wedding, workplace) are a minority of VJ members.

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Exactly! Women who arent very exposed & lonely should read your last statement!

That translates as a reluctance to take Greek compliments seriously, since they throw them about so easily.

Another example: many of my Arab students told me they loved me. Did they? Of course not, they throw love in very fast in most dealings they have with people. In my culture, we hardly ever say those words, so an Arab professing his love to me so fast would have moved me, had I not met so many.

Like it or not, we tend to judge other cultures by our own standards.

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That's correct. Don't know why Gary said that. If he has a question he sends me an email. When people PM me for advice I encourage them to post their questions in the applicable public forum where others can benefit from the discussion. Then, if they want to PM me a link to the question, I'll take a look.

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That translates as a reluctance to take Greek compliments seriously, since they throw them about so easily.

Another example: many of my Arab students told me they loved me. Did they? Of course not, they throw love in very fast in most dealings they have with people. In my culture, we hardly ever say those words, so an Arab professing his love to me so fast would have moved me, had I not met so many.

Like it or not, we tend to judge other cultures by our own standards.

Don't most single men anywhere in the world hand out compliments fairly easily whenever they cross paths with a pretty woman, especially Europeans? This isn't something that one would need to actually travel to Europe to understand, it happens everywhere.

It's usually very easy to determine if someone is genuine when they profess their love for you, more importantly it's fairly easy to know if you should or shouldn't feel the same way about that person due to the factors surrounding your relationship. These are gut instincts that we all have, and when they kick in, we need to listen to them. One does not need to have travel experience to Italy to know whether or not that cute Italian guy or woman really loves them, it's in your gut.

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That translates as a reluctance to take Greek compliments seriously, since they throw them about so easily.

Another example: many of my Arab students told me they loved me. Did they? Of course not, they throw love in very fast in most dealings they have with people. In my culture, we hardly ever say those words, so an Arab professing his love to me so fast would have moved me, had I not met so many.

Like it or not, we tend to judge other cultures by our own standards.

Well said. Exactly my point. :thumbs:

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Teddy thats what you would think but when people who arent use to getting compliments are flooded with them all of a sudden they think they are in love. I have witnesses this over and over and over again.

Don't most single men anywhere in the world hand out compliments fairly easily whenever they cross paths with a pretty woman, especially Europeans? This isn't something that one would need to actually travel to Europe to understand, it happens everywhere.

It's usually very easy to determine if someone is genuine when they profess their love for you, more importantly it's fairly easy to know if you should or shouldn't feel the same way about that person due to the factors surrounding your relationship. These are gut instincts that we all have, and when they kick in, we need to listen to them. One does not need to have travel experience to Italy to know whether or not that cute Italian guy or woman really loves them, it's in your gut.

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Teddy thats what you would think but when people who arent use to getting compliments are flooded with them all of a sudden they think they are in love. I have witnesses this over and over and over again.

I agree with you Queen, it happens a lot. Do you think the reason for this is because the person who receives all of these wonderful compliments and suddenly thinks they are in love is full of false hope, or is it because they don't have enough travel experience to the country of their supposed lover?

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Don't most single men anywhere in the world hand out compliments fairly easily whenever they cross paths with a pretty woman, especially Europeans? This isn't something that one would need to actually travel to Europe to understand, it happens everywhere.

It's usually very easy to determine if someone is genuine when they profess their love for you, more importantly it's fairly easy to know if you should or shouldn't feel the same way about that person due to the factors surrounding your relationship. These are gut instincts that we all have, and when they kick in, we need to listen to them. One does not need to have travel experience to Italy to know whether or not that cute Italian guy or woman really loves them, it's in your gut.

If the above statement were true, then no one would get scammed. You used the shell game as an example, think about it. You have to bait the person first before you pull the wool over the eyes. No one is going to try and rip you off on the first try, they have to suck you in to make the real money, the first one is free then it gets harder as you keep playing. Same thing with romance scams, these guys don't email women asking for money right off the bat, they lure them in with sweet talk and other things, and most of the time it's a small amount first just to get them comfortable first. I dated a Japanese woman whose ex-husband was from Camaroon, she showed me the emails he sent while they courted. Now I could see why she fell in love, he tailored them to her writing style and talked to her in the manner that she wanted to hear. Once he got to Japan, it was a wrap, he is now over there without her and its sad becasue she has a kid with him he never sees or take care of.

I agree that it should be easy to see it coming when it comes to love but let's be real. Everyone has been heartbroken at some point in their lives, it happens. Your gut takes a back seat when the heart is driving the bus, or even worse, when your libido is in charge, then it's cruise control until you crash into a wall. If a man or woman is looking for companionship and next thing you know someone is online or IRL in your face fufilling your every wish and desire, it's hard not to fall completely and not see clearly.

I guess I can see the travel aspect of it better because I travelled so much and got to see first hand how the cultures intertwined. How would you know what is right in wrong in a country you have no knowledge about? I had no idea how bad the Nigeria scammers were until I spend the night in Tokyo and saw how they conducted business. And with the compliments from pretty ladies? If I stayed in St. Louis my whole life and then got hit up on the internet by some woman I might be leary, but if she were really good, then I might get taken, it's all in perspective. That is what they mean about cultural norms. You wouldn't know it unless you studied up on it or saw it for yourself.

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Right, email. That is true, at any rate... If I have a question I ask Pushbrk.

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If the above statement were true, then no one would get scammed. You used the shell game as an example, think about it. You have to bait the person first before you pull the wool over the eyes. No one is going to try and rip you off on the first try, they have to suck you in to make the real money, the first one is free then it gets harder as you keep playing. Same thing with romance scams, these guys don't email women asking for money right off the bat, they lure them in with sweet talk and other things, and most of the time it's a small amount first just to get them comfortable first. I dated a Japanese woman whose ex-husband was from Camaroon, she showed me the emails he sent while they courted. Now I could see why she fell in love, he tailored them to her writing style and talked to her in the manner that she wanted to hear. Once he got to Japan, it was a wrap, he is now over there without her and its sad becasue she has a kid with him he never sees or take care of.

I agree that it should be easy to see it coming when it comes to love but let's be real. Everyone has been heartbroken at some point in their lives, it happens. Your gut takes a back seat when the heart is driving the bus, or even worse, when your libido is in charge, then it's cruise control until you crash into a wall. If a man or woman is looking for companionship and next thing you know someone is online or IRL in your face fufilling your every wish and desire, it's hard not to fall completely and not see clearly.

I guess I can see the travel aspect of it better because I travelled so much and got to see first hand how the cultures intertwined. How would you know what is right in wrong in a country you have no knowledge about? I had no idea how bad the Nigeria scammers were until I spend the night in Tokyo and saw how they conducted business. And with the compliments from pretty ladies? If I stayed in St. Louis my whole life and then got hit up on the internet by some woman I might be leary, but if she were really good, then I might get taken, it's all in perspective. That is what they mean about cultural norms. You wouldn't know it unless you studied up on it or saw it for yourself.

I don't believe that a lack of general travel history (on the part of the USC) will cause a consular officer to look poorly on a case.

I do believe that in high fraud countries, a brief travel history (again on the part of the USC) TO THAT COUNTRY can set off bells for a CO.

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The K-1 was denied which I knew would be a possibility since we hadnt met physically. I already know some people may say how can you marry someone you never met. Like they say you just know when that particular person is THE ONE. Although we had a delay we know God will answer our prayers. We may not always understand the delays in life but we serve an AWESOME GOD who knows what is best for us and when its the best time for us to receive it. We were being obedient to my pastor who said let him come over first and we did the hardship waivers and medical records but to no avail. But this time Im going to Nigeria and I can only go by what God and his and my heart tells us to do. We still have faith and will continue to trust and believe God is going to bring us together. We will not give up on one another, I will continue to give God all the glory and praise.

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I am sorry to read what you've written. Fulfilling the requirements , to be ABLE to file the I-129F, is paramount, prior to filing.

It seems you skipped that step. Did this AWESOME GOD mention that it'd be OK with USCIS? If so, please write more about this.

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Hi man, what if they have met in person and eventually meet the requirements of the USCIS, do such flags still be raised especailly age difference?

Age difference is a huge red flag in Morocco, Casablanca IV Unit, when the USCitizen Petitioner, female, is right at the final edge of her child-bearing years, with the foreign fiance, male, being in his mid-twenties.

Huge Red Flag.

USCIS won't care.

The IV Unit in Casablanca, OTOH, will care, as this one thing pegs the meter for intended visa fraud.

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Interpreted Literally, The Bible is saying that the Man must come to the Woman. There's a journey involved, for the man . The woman is not to facilitate that journey, for the man.

Please get to 3 other biblical scholars in your area, not associated with your church, and ask for another interpretation, soonish.

No my pastor did not give me instructions, only felt that I shouldn't go over first because the bible says A man who finds a wife finds a good thing and recieves favor from the Lord. I was only being obedient. My fiance and I respect men and women of God. I beg to differ praying will get me approved whether you believe it or not. God gives us delays sometimes because at the time we want something it may not be time to receive it, He knows best, but does that mean I should stop praying and having faith when I do not get what I want when I want it. It doesn't work like that. God is an awesome God and He holds all the power and NOTHING is impossible with God. All the proof was there just not the face to face time, but like I said God knows best. Thank you we will be together soon by the grace of God.

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I don't believe that a lack of general travel history (on the part of the USC) will cause a consular officer to look poorly on a case.

I do believe that in high fraud countries, a brief travel history (again on the part of the USC) TO THAT COUNTRY can set off bells for a CO.

In cases of high fraud consulates, I would theorize you should go there at least twice. I was lucky that my ship pulled into Malaysia 3 times so I got to see my wife on the government dime:)

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