Miscarriage/spontaneous abortion from the past can affect interview??

[fira 0]

I don't believe that USCIS has the right do disclose her medical information at an interview due to the The Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act (HIPAA). And if she were to seek any medical treatment in the USA she has the right to privacy, even from her husband unless she signs permission for him to know.

It's up to the OP to decide to tell him.

the only reason i post in this forum is to know if my miscarriage issue can be a topic in my interview? since it was from the past..i didnt cheat or get pregnant while im engaged to my man.. i want to know if they will open this issue in my interview here for the k1 visa or in my interview in US when i get there.. becoz i actually wanna make it private and planning to keep it to myself but when people tell their opinions that its better to tell my fiance, then im planning to tell him but i dont get the timing or the right time to do it.. it really scares me. i cried at night because of this.. i am haunted by my own ghost ..i dont want to end up my good relationship just because of this.. if USCIS still respect the privacy of one individual then i really hope they will never open about it(since past is past).it happen when im not yet in a relationship with my present partner but we are on the stage of started talking and seeing each other ..

[uktousa 2]

Not wanting to tell your fiance about a miscarriage means you're hiding something in your past other than the miscarriage. Does your fiance think you're a virgin? Did you get pregnant after meeting your fiance, and your fiance wasn't the father? Was the father another foreigner that you were previously dating?

Here's a scenario to ponder...

You come to the United States. You marry your fiance within 90 days. You file for your adjustment of status. You get selected for a green card interview. At the interview the IO is reading the results of your medical exam and says "So, you had a miscarriage on <date>?". You say yes. Your husband is dumfounded. The IO sees your husband's reaction, and realizes your husband didn't know anything about your previous pregnancy. The IO immediately separates you and your husband and calls another IO to assist. The two IO's now question you and your husband separately for more than two hours. The IO's switch places and repeat the questioning. In the end, you're told that you'll get a decision within 60 days. As you're leaving you realize the decision is probably not going to be good.

This is not how you want your green card interview to go. This is not how you want your fiance to find out about your previous pregnancy and miscarriage. This is not the sort of thing you keep secret from your future husband.

[Xanax 349]

I really don't think they will bring up your medical, but if you are unsure you could contact the USCIS and ask them.

Edit: also if it is the K-1 interview, your fiance doesn't have to be there does he?

Edited July 28, 2012 by Xanax

[QueenE 174]

hi vj im new here..i finished my medical ysterday i think i passed coz i already got vaccine..im on k1 visa.. now my problem is.. when i had my medical on the physcal examination..the doctor ask me if i had a baby baby.i said none but i do have a miscarriage.. and she called it "spontaneous abortion" ..my question is, would this be a problem on my interview?? are the CO opening topics about abortion or can i fail my interview jst because i had miscarriage,coz they call it spontaneous abortion, what if they make an issue or ask some proofs that i didnt really abort and i just had miscarriage? has anyone here also had miscarriage but went fine in the interview,,and one more thing..my fiance doesnt know about my miscarriage in my past life and i dont have any plans on telling him since he never ask me too..are there any possibilities that he will know when im already in US? like do i have a follow up medical procedure in the US what if i get pregnant the ob will surely ask about everything.. but i can say i never had a baby if we went in diff doctor, but if its the same hospital or they have my records here in PHilippines then im toast!!

pls help me im so worried.. are the CO tackle issues like this in the interview?

just so you know spontaneous abortion is the medical term reference for a miscarriage.

[Ryan_and_Priscy 16]

Dear,

I was abused when I was little, by an "stranger" who pretended to be a friend of the family. Your situation, I do not want to know under what circumstances you got pregnant, when or why... what it matters here that you are entering a new stage in life of love, trust, and communication. I understand the fear and decide to keep this secret but, you will soon to marry and your husband most likely will become your best friend and confident (because that is how I consider my husband and has helped me a lot). There are scars and wounds that do not heal soon and can remain forever. But forgiveness to yourself is the first step, and then that will lead you to trust and talk about it with the person you love. I am sure he will appreciate that you trust him and there is no fear about the past, that you face now your new life with honor and courage. If he is a man of character and integrity he will understand. It will hurt but forgiveness will come as well. I was afraid my husband would react mad for the things I did unwillingly in the past. But he was very understanding, and became more supportive. And I am not afraid anymore to say how great is to feel forgiven and move on with life. I am grateful to God that he gave me the best husband too.

[fira 0]

I really don't think they will bring up your medical, but if you are unsure you could contact the USCIS and ask them.

Edit: also if it is the K-1 interview, your fiance doesn't have to be there does he?

Yes ma'am , im on k1 interview..myfiance will not attend the interview with me.. HE is in US and he is goin to wait my arrival there if ever i get a chance of getting a visa..

Edited July 28, 2012 by hana.fira

[fira 0]

Dear,

I was abused when I was little, by an "stranger" who pretended to be a friend of the family. Your situation, I do not want to know under what circumstances you got pregnant, when or why... what it matters here that you are entering a new stage in life of love, trust, and communication. I understand the fear and decide to keep this secret but, you will soon to marry and your husband most likely will become your best friend and confident (because that is how I consider my husband and has helped me a lot). There are scars and wounds that do not heal soon and can remain forever. But forgiveness to yourself is the first step, and then that will lead you to trust and talk about it with the person you love. I am sure he will appreciate that you trust him and there is no fear about the past, that you face now your new life with honor and courage. If he is a man of character and integrity he will understand. It will hurt but forgiveness will come as well. I was afraid my husband would react mad for the things I did unwillingly in the past. But he was very understanding, and became more supportive. And I am not afraid anymore to say how great is to feel forgiven and move on with life. I am grateful to God that he gave me the best husband too.

thank you for sharing this with me..just like i said.. im just getting a right time to tell him about this..i just dont wnt him to know about it from the embasy or anyone from USCIS..its my private life..i just wnna make sure that they wont open the topic..and i wanna gather information thru experience of other people if they had miscarriage before they had their relationship now, and if any of the CO or USCIS staff discuss this issue in interviews.

[Que Saudade 284]

the only reason i post in this forum is to know if my miscarriage issue can be a topic in my interview? since it was from the past..i didnt cheat or get pregnant while im engaged to my man.. i want to know if they will open this issue in my interview here for the k1 visa or in my interview in US when i get there.. becoz i actually wanna make it private and planning to keep it to myself but when people tell their opinions that its better to tell my fiance, then im planning to tell him but i dont get the timing or the right time to do it.. it really scares me. i cried at night because of this.. i am haunted by my own ghost ..i dont want to end up my good relationship just because of this.. if USCIS still respect the privacy of one individual then i really hope they will never open about it(since past is past).it happen when im not yet in a relationship with my present partner but we are on the stage of started talking and seeing each other ..

NO, the spontaneous abortion will not be a part of the evaluation process. NO, a doctor can not tell you have been pregnant before nor had a SA. There are thousands of women who have been pregnant and not even known it, because their body quickly aborted for a plethora of reasons. None of which were the person's fault. I have been in the healthcare industry for over 25 years.

Your decision to keep it personal is totally up to you. I think that there has been enough posts to give you a perspective on the "backlash" effect it may have if you decide not to tell your husband. First of all, a spontaneous abortion is NOTHING to be ashamed of. It can be grieved of course. But ashamed? Never. However, a lot of women do feel ashamed from this and they need to be counseled to realize there is nothing to be ashamed about.

This is pure speculation, and please don't answer this here on this post. Just ask yourself if the reason you want to keep this from your husband is because you just don't want him to know that you have been pregnant by another man? This would be a totally different situation But that is for you to answer to yourself only.

As for the miscarriage (AKA spontaneous abortion), there is no reason to have any feelings of shame.

I hope you find resolution with yourself and come to a good decision for your relationship.

P.S. your statement "if they had miscarriage before they had their relationship now, and if any of the CO or USCIS staff discuss this issue in interviews." It is against HIPAA to discuss ANY medical related information to another person without your expressed consent. Of course, the people adjudicating your process can see it, but they can't say anything to your husband or there would be a HUGE HUGE lawsuit. HIPAA is taken extremely serious here.

Edited July 28, 2012 by Que Saudade

[Peter_Pan 661]

As far as I am concerned, that information is mine, and mine alone, and if I don't want to disclose it then I won't. There's no one's business what happened to my body before I met him.

[akatheone 6]

wow people here are so judgmental,and give so much wrong information, some are even psuedo doctors. just wait till you get here to let your fiance know , just do it at a time when you feel comfortable, ease your mind and step away from this forum thread its not doing you any good to read these post just adding to your stress level. This question will never be part of your interview. Just wait to tell your husband in person.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

As far as I am concerned, that information is mine, and mine alone, and if I don't want to disclose it then I won't. There's no one's business what happened to my body before I met him.

It didn't happen "before" she met him. It happened while they were dating (but before they were serious).

[VanessaTony 3,567]

the only reason i post in this forum is to know if my miscarriage issue can be a topic in my interview? since it was from the past..i didnt cheat or get pregnant while im engaged to my man.. i want to know if they will open this issue in my interview here for the k1 visa or in my interview in US when i get there.. becoz i actually wanna make it private and planning to keep it to myself but when people tell their opinions that its better to tell my fiance, then im planning to tell him but i dont get the timing or the right time to do it.. it really scares me. i cried at night because of this.. i am haunted by my own ghost ..i dont want to end up my good relationship just because of this.. if USCIS still respect the privacy of one individual then i really hope they will never open about it(since past is past).it happen when im not yet in a relationship with my present partner but we are on the stage of started talking and seeing each other ..

Yes it can be a topic. YOU say it's from a time before you were together, but there is no proof of that. They have been known to ask about chats with other people before the immigrant even met their new love. In fact there's one lady who mentions that her husband was asked about another USC he hadn't chatted to for 4 years. Luckily she knew about it. They were testing to see if he was "fishing for USC's"

The truth is it might come up. It's not necessarily a HIPAA issue because they could rationally assume that the miscarriage during your present relationship (even though it was till new) was HIS child and ask how he felt about that and how you stayed together because of it.

I personally DO NOT agree that you should wait until you are here on the K1. If you wait he could be upset that you "tricked him" into bringing you here. This is nothing to be ashamed of and if he leaves you because of it then you will have bigger issues. You don't know why you miscarried, it may come up years from now if it doesn't in the interview. This isn't a small thing. This isn't an affair that you don't need to tell him about but it IS a significant event in your life. it could be a sign that something is medically wrong and he might surprise you with how supportive he is and it will bring you closer together.

Maybe instead of telling him outright, mention it in the form of a friend to find out how he feels about miscarriages and stuff like that and THEN tell him. I think you need to tell him before you get here because I know I would be more upset if my husband had waited to tell me something like that.

[jasonofape 17]

Skeletons always find a way out of the closet. Just be open and honest. If he is a good guy with a good heart, he will understand. If he doesn't, do you want to be with someone like that the rest of your life? What makes you think he wouldn't understand? Too much speculation.

It is much better to get things out in the open BEFORE the wedding. That way, if anything negative does happen, doesn't cost as much as a divorce.

I am confident your soon to be spouse will understand. While it is a personal decision, I think that most honest and intelligent people will say that honesty is the best policy. That saying has been around a very long time for very good reasons. I have found that being dishonest always comes back at some point in time to haunt you. It may be 10-15 years, but it catches up with you.

Good luck with your decision. I sense your nervousness. Everything will be ok.

[fira 0]

Yes it can be a topic. YOU say it's from a time before you were together, but there is no proof of that. They have been known to ask about chats with other people before the immigrant even met their new love. In fact there's one lady who mentions that her husband was asked about another USC he hadn't chatted to for 4 years. Luckily she knew about it. They were testing to see if he was "fishing for USC's"

The truth is it might come up. It's not necessarily a HIPAA issue because they could rationally assume that the miscarriage during your present relationship (even though it was till new) was HIS child and ask how he felt about that and how you stayed together because of it.

I personally DO NOT agree that you should wait until you are here on the K1. If you wait he could be upset that you "tricked him" into bringing you here. This is nothing to be ashamed of and if he leaves you because of it then you will have bigger issues. You don't know why you miscarried, it may come up years from now if it doesn't in the interview. This isn't a small thing. This isn't an affair that you don't need to tell him about but it IS a significant event in your life. it could be a sign that something is medically wrong and he might surprise you with how supportive he is and it will bring you closer together.

Maybe instead of telling him outright, mention it in the form of a friend to find out how he feels about miscarriages and stuff like that and THEN tell him. I think you need to tell him before you get here because I know I would be more upset if my husband had waited to tell me something like that.

if ever they come up with the topic aboutmy miscarriage,, why they will talk about so much of my privacy about that..and even if they "think" that it might be my fiance's child they shouldnt talk about this much right? coz it will just create a big sadness to the aplicant.. well just my opinion..they are being over investigating.that we can never hide even private matter to them.. i thought they will just ask how strong my relationship from the start to now..

[VanessaTony 3,567]

if ever they come up with the topic aboutmy miscarriage,, why they will talk about so much of my privacy about that..and even if they "think" that it might be my fiance's child they shouldnt talk about this much right? coz it will just create a big sadness to the aplicant.. well just my opinion..they are being over investigating.that we can never hide even private matter to them.. i thought they will just ask how strong my relationship from the start to now..

You stated the miscarriage was while you were in a relationship with your present boyfriend/fiance, at the very beginning of the relationship yes, but still when you were together.

They might not mention it. They might. They can ask you about sex, last position, birth control etc. They could ask in your AOS interview once you're here about it as well. They ask about previous girl friends, boy friends, marriages and divorces.

We regularly advise to be COMPLETELY honest with your other half because in the event it comes up at interview with him there and he has no idea what the're talking about, they could decide that your relationship isn't genuine.

On a more personal note though... you should not be scared to tell him something. Especially not something like this and especially not when you are going to be married.

Edited July 29, 2012 by Vanessa&Tony