please help me- cannot meet

[pure9 0]

Hey there,

my bf(american) and me (iranian) met online in chat in jan 2011.he is christian and im muslim.we want to get married.of course i cant date him in iran easily and i cant go to usa cause im not eligible for any kinds of visas.we decided to meet in third country or he convert to islam.also we cant easily afford to pay for a trip to meet in a third country.anyway recently i found my bf got severe depression n he is in a bad condition and need help.we love each other and even we never we have lots of common and trust.im so worried about him and want to be with him.how can i meet him.it doesnt seem we can meet he could trvavel anytime soon for his depression.wat can i do to visit him.im like im lost and have no way

[shendon 1]

how come you're not eligible to any kind of visas? is it because of your religion?

[pure9 0]

getting us visa is very hard for iranians.and i cant get tourist visa.

getting us visa is very hard for iranians.and i cant get tourist visa.

[pure9 0]

its like i have no clue when my loved one needs me and i cant be with him.im wondering why borders are killing our soul.

it hurts alot when ur that far form ur love and may have to leave him cause my parents wouldnt let me stay single for long if i dont marry him soon

[canadian_wife 1,822]

Let your USC boyfriend petition for a fiance visa for you, so you can go to the US and marry him

Is that not an option for you?

Applying for a tourist visa IS an option, although difficult, tourist visas are given to Iranians

Good luck

[photomile 101]

Ok if you're asking about the I-129F and filing for a Fiancee visa, then one of the key requirements is that you must have met at least once in the two years prior to filing.

This can be waived but it is exceptionally rare for this to happen and given your only constraints (that you have outlined) are your religion and your financial situations, it's unlikely they would waive this requirement.

On the financial side, if you're unable to afford a trip to Iran to meet then you need to look at the financial requirements for the visa to ensure you can either afford it or have a sponsor available.

It is possible to apply for a visitor visa from iran and it may be worth asking in the Visitors visa forums for some assistance or advice

[pure9 0]

ty guys for your advise i could save up to go to usa to meet him but he is not in a good condtion.he is sick and having lots of trouble.i dont want to let him get worse.we never met and cant meet anytime soon if cant get finace visa or for me a tourist visa.

[Mory 0]

ty guys for your advise i could save up to go to usa to meet him but he is not in a good condtion.he is sick and having lots of trouble.i dont want to let him get worse.we never met and cant meet anytime soon if cant get finace visa or for me a tourist visa.

Ask him to send you invitation letter and a letter that he will provide you with accommodation/expense .Then,apply for a tourist visa.IF you have around $40,000 cash in your account show them statement from your bank, it will boost your chance of getting visa.Worth to try.

Edited July 20, 2012 by Mory

[pure9 0]

worth is i dont have that cash money.its getting a very hard days for him n i think my life and his life cant be saved anyway.

me n him have no way it seems .

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

worth is i dont have that cash money.its getting a very hard days for him n i think my life and his life cant be saved anyway.

me n him have no way it seems .

Unfortunately, there's no way for this to be done cheaply.

You're correct that visitors visas for Iranians are difficult to get. The US government suspects everyone who comes to the US of intending to become an immigrant because a substantial number of people who come to the US as visitors end up staying. In order to get a visitors visa you have to prove you have strong ties to your home country that would compel you to return when your visit is over. A large part of that proof usually involves money - a good job, owning property or a business, etc. If you don't have any money then they will strongly suspect you won't leave the US when you're supposed to. If you have a fiance who is a US citizen then they'll be absolutely convinced you'll try to stay.

A fiance visa absolutely requires that you and your fiance have met, in person, at least one time in the past two years. Waivers for this requirement are very rare.

A spousal visa requires that you are legally married. Some states in the US will permit a proxy marriage; i.e., a marriage where one of the parties isn't physically present or is present by telephone, and the absent spouse is represented by a proxy. However, the US government generally doesn't recognize proxy marriages unless they've been consummated, and that can't happen unless you're physically together.

In short, getting a visa based on a relationship with a US citizen is practically impossible if you haven't physically met.

You also have to consider that this process is expensive. Aside from travel costs, there are well over $1000 in fees involved. Your fiance will also have to prove he has the financial resources to sponsor you as an immigrant. There will definitely be travel costs involved for you because you can't obtain a visa to the US in Iran. The US has no diplomatic relations with Iran, so there's no US consulate or embassy there. You'll need to travel to another country in order to get a visa. Most Iranians go to the consulate in Turkey.

On a personal note, there isn't likely anything you can do to help with his depression. Most depression is clinical, meaning it's caused more by problems with brain chemistry than by life circumstances. A clinical psychiatrist and psychotherapist can probably help him a lot more than you can. You should also consider that depression is often chronic, and severe depression can strain a relationship to the breaking point. You might want to make sure his depression is well managed and he's stable before you embark on a long term relationship with him.

[Bryan and Isabel 29]

Very Well said by JimVA

[pure9 0]

ty i think i can make up my mind more.well abt him he was ok in the past when i first met him and this happend to him

recently and id be selfish to leave him for this. i never thought someone other side of the world would have that common

atitute with me.well he is the one ive chosen to live rest of my life with n without him im broke at all.

im not saying this for help its sth i cant tell my family cause theyd defently stop me being with him.there is no one 2 help us .

i just cant undrestand why such laws are burning our life.the law of borders.n im afraid i have to marry someone i dont love the way my parents want me.such men have money ,might prepare me many things even moving to usa or any countries i want with them but i dont care abt none, all matters to me is simple life they way iam .(((((((

[pure9 0]

Hey

i sent a topic befor n thanx for u guys advises.

My bf is american and im iranian we met online and didnt in person and was trying to meet n because of troubles in his life he have no way to come to meet me and now my parents are forcing me to marry a guy they choose for me.they keep fighting me and want me to do it.i hate them.they r making me want to kill myself.i have no way.what should i do.should i marry someone i cant love when i love another guy?

[Ryan H 3,812]

Moved from K1 Process & Procedures to MENA regional forum; topic is not about the K1 visa process itself. OP's personal situation requires country and region specific insight and advice.

[Penguin_ie 5,994]

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