Wife misses home

[cassecouilles 3]

Ive heard Belgium and Denmark are lovely places to live and Belgium wasnt even overly expensive if I remember Correctly

In my humble opinion Belgium is lovely but then again I'm biased :-) It's pretty expensive though compared to some other European countries... but cheap compared to Ireland and Switzerland for example. Switzerland is insane... but beautiful.

[The Mean Lady 604]

In my humble opinion Belgium is lovely but then again I'm biased :-) It's pretty expensive though compared to some other European countries... but cheap compared to Ireland and Switzerland for example. Switzerland is insane... but beautiful.

I think at the time I was comparing the cost of living to canada and it didn't seem that bad.

[Karl and Olga 3]

Mu husband was shocked when realized that I don't miss Ukraine at all. though I left there everything - my family, my friends, my work. He even had friends who are married with Russian and Ukrainian women. Lucky him....... I even don't want to meet with Russians, to visit Russian festival or something else. I'm extremely happy being with my beloved husband. I love USA extremely, I admire Americans and respect all your traditions. I would love to say that it was only my husband who did a lot to create a wonderful atmosphere at home, probably I just wanted a wonderful family more then anything else. Unfortunately I can't tell that time will take care of that. My husband's friend's wife came from Russia 8 years ago and she hates it here. She is speaking only about Russia and is almost crazy about going there or bringing her parents here. But it seems to me that everything depends on the person. I can only hope that in some time she will realize that being with you is the most important in her life. The only advise is - take her somewhere where Russians meet? there are a lot of festival and events that take place in Minnesota for Russians. Probably you'll be able to find something in your area. My friend's husband even went to Russian courses, to learn the language , maybe this will help.

Good luck!!!

[*Snowdrop* 604]

Sometimes homesickness doesn't kick in until a long time after arrival. I felt my first bouts of homesickness about 2 years after I moved over here. I think the first year or so was fun and exciting because everything was new. Then in the second year I got pregnant so that was all consuming and kept me busy. Then after the baby was born it suddenly hit me how far away from all my family and friends I was. How much I wished my Mum was there to experience her first grandchild with me. It was a shock to me how homesick I suddenly felt and a shock to my husband too, as I'd settled in so well.

[Brother Hesekiel 2,236]

I like Belgium because I've lived here most of my life, it's home.

That is exactly the reason why "most" people stay where they were born. They know their way around, it's home. Otherwise, why would somebody born in Siberia stay in Siberia, where it's so cold that the blood in your eyeballs freezes when you open them?

It reminds me of a story I heard before.

A husband slaps his wife all the time when having sex. Every time. He's her first, so she assumes it's normal to have sex this way. After her husband dies in a tragic accident and she eventually gets married again, she for the first time has sex without the slapping. She asks her husband why he isn't slapping her, and upon inquiry utters that she likes sex this way, because that's how she's done "it" most of her life.

How many times have you been to Belgium that you feel compelled to bash it that way?

The first time at age 16, when I was hitchhiking all alone through Europe. But I have lived in Denmark, Sweden, Germany, France, Switzerland and Italy for quite some time, have stayed in India for 6 month, and have so far visited 32 countries before moving to the United States, so I can say with confidence that in my not so humble opinion Belgium sucks. i wouldn't want to move there for a guaranteed income of $1 million per year, every year.

Take away the fact that you have lived there most of your life, then compare Belgium to other European countries, and all of a sudden the fact that you don't have natural catastrophes and a pretty good social net doesn't really do the trick anymore. But I agree with your first statement: it's subjective. For me the weather is an essential component of the equation, and when it comes to Europe, there are certainly better places to live. Ever been to Lake Como or Lagio Maggiore or Tuscani or Nice, Monaco, the Carmarque?