Opinions? Possible Marriage Fraud

[Jessi Smie 0]

I'm going to share the story of my best friend, would like to hear other people's opinion on it...

My friend met her husband in December 2010 on a dating website, he's the son (then 20) of a student visa holder from England. They were engaged in March 2011, and married in November 2011 (he turned 21 in December).

Admittedly, the meeting, engagement, and marriage happened in quite a fast pace..

Now, after the marriage, my friend said that his (her husband's) behavior immediately changed. He went from loving and caring to selfish and argumentative instantaneously (according to her)...A number of events led to her throwing him out of the apartment, and asking for a separation (granted this was late June). I was there on the occasion that prompted her to ask him to leave, very violent, he slammed all kinds of doors, threw a glass and smashed it in the kitchen, and verbally assaulted my friend, all in front of her three year old (not good at all).

Since she asked to him leave, she was been harassed constantly by him, and his family, about signing his immigration documents, continuing with the process...

A little more on the background of her husband....His mother has been living here in the states since he was 9 years old, so for the past 12 years or so, on this student visa. He and his mother were living with his grandparents (US citizens who immigrated her from England as well). Also, his aunt is also living in the states, she is a citizen (immigrated), and also an immigration lawyer >_< My friend feels used, as her husband told her when they met that he had no idea he would have to return home when he turned 21, and no one in his family told him so. This is what they've told immigration, and now my friend is worried about it appearing like she lied to immigration.

Question, does this appear to be fraud? Or just two immature people involved in a very adult relationship? Should she try to seek out marriage counseling, or notify immigration of the harassment she is receiving from him and his family about keeping up, what she considers to be a lie?

Just looking for other people's input on the situation, I've never really had an experience like this, we don't know what to think, it's just so weird..

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

Your friend needs to file for divorce and distance herself from him . He is trying to bully her into co operation with his goals. Get a new phone number and a restraining order.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

He's been here on a student visa for 13 years? I've never heard of a visa lasting that long. I think he MIGHT have had a visa at some stage but I wonder if it expired a long time ago. Has she seen it?

She is under NO OBLIGATION to continue with the process nor to report that she suspects him of fraud. BUT here lies the problem. He could try accusing her of abuse in order to get his greencard that way. For that reason i WOULD report him to ICE and that she found out that he pushed for the wedding so that he could remain in the US. That's not to say he didn't actually love your friend, or doesn't, but given his behaviour I'd wonder...

[Boiler 45,519]

Ditto

[aaron2020 11,651]

She needs to document the abuse. She needs to file for a temporary restraining order against him and his family. She needs to protect yourself.

She needs to file for a divorce. She needs to stop the immigration process. She needs to file an alert on her credit report with all three reporting agencies. She needs to remove him from any bank accounts.

Edited July 25, 2012 by aaron2020

[Mark + Melissa 49]

I'm going to share the story of my best friend, would like to hear other people's opinion on it...

My friend met her husband in December 2010 on a dating website, he's the son (then 20) of a student visa holder from England. They were engaged in March 2011, and married in November 2011 (he turned 21 in December).

Question, does this appear to be fraud? Or just two immature people involved in a very adult relationship? Should she try to seek out marriage counseling, or notify immigration of the harassment she is receiving from him and his family about keeping up, what she considers to be a lie?

Just looking for other people's input on the situation, I've never really had an experience like this, we don't know what to think, it's just so weird..

She met him on a dating site... What do you think? It's not like he asked her to move to HIS country....

Edited July 25, 2012 by mseifman

[Darnell 8,478]

here's my advice for her...

file for divorce, including temporary court orders for him to vacate her abode (which will be in force till the divorce is finalized)

file for a restraining order and

if she's filed any immigration paperwork that included an I-864, have her withdraw the petition via letter to local USCIS office and national USCIS office, using the receipt notice numbers (there should be two, one for the I-130 and one for the I-485) in that letter.

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[ceadsearc 516]

Could be fraud, could be young love/stupidity. She should report it if she suspects it, but don't expect ICE to do anything without very strong proof. Still, get it on record to cover her own back.

[Jessi Smie 0]

He wasn't here on a student visa, he was a dependent of his mother who was on a student visa...Once he turned 21 he lost status..

Thank you for your opinions. It's been really hard for her, to say the least

Thanks for the input on having a court order for him to leave her home until the divorce is finalized, she was worried about issues like that..

[Shiobhan 235]

For love or fraud she should divorce him now, if she keep this marriage of benifits going it will be

like she married his family also, Y dont the atty family member do his papers via the mom, This is no good

for her child, eventually he will psysically abuse if he is breaking stuff, fax uscis to shut the papers down, document harassments, and call the police if they keep it up.