American Men Not Loyal?

[Utha 10]

If he was watching porn now, he was watching it before he met you. You just wasn't aware of it.

Go easy on the male bashing, not all crayons in the box are of the same color. That'why people love the rainbow, no 2 stripes are the same.

He is what you got, may not be right but only you can know if his behavior works for you.

Yes, i think i wasnt aware of it. I found everything after i married him. Yes, i think if i wanna continue the marriage, i have to go easy with this, but should i go easy when he call the girl on the online cam? (dizzy mode on)

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Yes, i think i wasnt aware of it. I found everything after i married him. Yes, i think if i wanna continue the marriage, i have to go easy with this, but should i go easy when he call the girl on the online cam? (dizzy mode on)

Now that is a different issue.

[Utha 10]

You have two separate issues, at least I think if the underline and is really an and not a while.

1) I don't speak to my Ex Wife (and I share 4 children with the Cretin) by choice. I think most Men that speak to their Exs do it for the sake of the children. Those that are talking to the Exs and not because of Kids are doing a disservice to their current Spouse. I say to them to go and make new friends and not be friends with people they used to stoop. So find out why your Spouse is still speaking to his Ex. If no kids involved you need to let him know that it is not a mild annoyance but a staunch unacceptable. This is easy.

2)Watching porn is a great American past time. In 2007 it was estimated to be a $12billion industry, they didn't make that money by not being in the mainstream. The truth is most Americans watch porn and your Husband included. Now is he watching decent (if there is such a thing in your acceptables) or is he watching stuff that bothers on child porn, bestiality, violent porn, bondage or other squirmy stuff? I think soft porn is okay but between consenting Spouses, it may even help foster connectivity between couples. So since you don't like him watching porn then talk to him about it and decide together.

You need to choose your battles carefully though. On the face value this doesn't sound so bad to me. Had you said he was going to happy hour with the next door neighbors Wife, or your finding remnants of opium in the house then that is another story entirely.

I wish that my Fiancee would have a chance to live together with me and learn all my habits before she packs up and move here, but that is the curse of us non VWP people.

Good luck but so far you haven't shown that your Husband is not loyal to you.

Like i said, that i already talked to him about it, the problem is since i never do what he did, makes a longer scar in my heart. Yes, i think letting your fiancee know the habit of your life in real is a good decision.

[Utha 10]

Invest in some lingerie, super mini's, and high heels.

I did. I just dont like he called his ex and watch porn and talk to them behind my back.

[Bad_Daddy 2,209]

I did. I just dont like he called his ex and watch porn and talk to them behind my back.

If the guy is calling his ex and he's watching some chick on live webcam along with calling her then he sounds like a real piece of work. I would have a talk with him...be open and tell him how you feel and what you expect and then ask him what his answer is. If he's going to keep it up then I would look for greener pastures. I mean if my wife was pulling that kind of ####### that your husband is I would tell my wife to go kick rocks.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

If the guy is calling his ex and he's watching some chick on live webcam along with calling her then he sounds like a real piece of work. I would have a talk with him...be open and tell him how you feel and what you expect and then ask him what his answer is. If he's going to keep it up then I would look for greener pastures. I mean if my wife was pulling that kind of ####### that your husband is I would tell my wife to go kick rocks.

Yeah, and tell him he can schtup his MIL, but calling one of those live porn cam girls is a definite no-no.

[AmyWrites 593]

I think American men generally don't respect women enough to stop watching porn and stop other negative habits that they have, hence why I married a foreigner... I'm sure there's some good ones out there but my experience with them was that I always had to shut up and settle and take their #######.

BUT, there's a HUGE difference between normal porn and calling a webcam girl. The former will piss me off (I'd only leave him for it if it was a constant issue), the latter, I might leave him. That's really just cheating.

[Utha 10]

I think American men generally don't respect women enough to stop watching porn and stop other negative habits that they have, hence why I married a foreigner... I'm sure there's some good ones out there but my experience with them was that I always had to shut up and settle and take their #######.

BUT, there's a HUGE difference between normal porn and calling a webcam girl. The former will piss me off (I'd only leave him for it if it was a constant issue), the latter, I might leave him. That's really just cheating.

Wish i knew u before so i could learn a lot abt American men.

[Harpa Timsah 13,258]

The US us a culture where porn is freely available and the culture prises men for how many babies he can put in how many bellies. This has caused a great deal of the population to feel they are justified in playing around. Do all men do this , NO do a large number , YES.

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This is definitely not true. I have only heard of this in poor communities, but I believe that anyone has the power to change bad things for the better.

I think American men generally don't respect women enough to stop watching porn and stop other negative habits that they have, hence why I married a foreigner... I'm sure there's some good ones out there but my experience with them was that I always had to shut up and settle and take their #######.

BUT, there's a HUGE difference between normal porn and calling a webcam girl. The former will piss me off (I'd only leave him for it if it was a constant issue), the latter, I might leave him. That's really just cheating.

Amy, aren't you Puerto Rican? Latin men and machismo culture are a whole different kettle of fish.

Wish i knew u before so i could learn a lot abt American men.

Utha, please don't fall into a trap and paint all American men in the same way. America is a huge place, and there are many different places in the country with many different cultures (yes, different ones!), and add to that each person is their own person with their own behaviors and will act their own way. There are plenty of good American men. What you have is a problem with your husband, and with him only. Not all American men act like him, and pretending to "learn" about "American men" as if they are all the same will only be a distraction from the problem at hand.

And you do not need to fix this issue from an "American standpoint" but from a personal one. What you, Utha think, matters the most. I would talk to your husband (that is very American advice I suppose) and maybe attend marriage counseling. Also, a live webcam girl is not the same as porn. I think all people here agree that is very much more serious.

I have a question for you, how did you meet? Online?

[JohnR! 5,495]

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I found my husband was calling his ex wife and watching porn streaming video online while am back home. For me, i never call any man since i married him coz when i decided to marry him it means that i close the door for all of the man in the world. I only belong to him wether in front or behind him.

Is it true that most of American men not loyal?

Perhaps he is talking to his ex because they ended their marriage in good terms and enjoy a good relationship with her. It is very natural and it doesn't mean he is cheating on you. He would not need to cheat on you for that. He could have married her again if he so wished.

In regards to Internet porn, he is a guy. We always want to see something naked. Moreover, it really shouldn't matter where he gets his appetite, so long as he brings it home to mama for dinner!!!

[Thomas&Cleofe 358]

Perhaps he is talking to his ex because they ended their marriage in good terms and enjoy a good relationship with her. It is very natural and it doesn't mean he is cheating on you. He would not need to cheat on you for that. He could have married her again if he so wished.

In regards to Internet porn, he is a guy. We always want to see something naked. Moreover, it really shouldn't matter where he gets his appetite, so long as he brings it home to mama for dinner!!!

Now, this comment pisses me off...!!! This is wrong in all aspects of the word wrong...!!!

[JohnR! 5,495]

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Now, this comment pisses me off...!!! This is wrong in all aspects of the word wrong...!!!

It was not my intention to be offensive. Accept my apologies.

[Thomas&Cleofe 358]

It was not my intention to be offensive. Accept my apologies.

Apology accepted.....but this is very offensive. I understand that America has lost most of its family based morals...and that is very sad. But please do not inject me into that group.

[JohnR! 5,495]

Apology accepted.....but this is very offensive. I understand that America has lost most of its family based morals...and that is very sad. But please do not inject me into that group.

My post was not directed at you. I was replying to the OP.

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I think American men generally don't respect women enough to stop watching porn and stop other negative habits that they have, hence why I married a foreigner... I'm sure there's some good ones out there but my experience with them was that I always had to shut up and settle and take their #######.

BUT, there's a HUGE difference between normal porn and calling a webcam girl. The former will piss me off (I'd only leave him for it if it was a constant issue), the latter, I might leave him. That's really just cheating.

You're living in a fantasy