Frustrated at this broken, broken system

[Bill and Suus 2]

I was talking to my stepsister who got married to a guy while he was in the US on a tourist visa... they got married and simply adjusted status, no problem. A coworker of mine called a USCIS office and the person he called actually TOLD him to get his Russian Fiancee here on a business or tourist visa, marry her, and then file for adjustment of status.

I feel like a moron now. I've been without my fiancee for almost five months now, may have to postpone our wedding (and thus ensuring her parent's can't make it because they already bought tickets for that date) because the process is taking so long. I just responded to an RFE and am still waiting for the NOA2. Why didn't I just marry her when she was here on the visa waiver program to visit me? Why is it easier to do it the wrong way? Separating couples like this is a hardship on relationships, finances, and plans for the future. We need to fix this already...

Anyway, this is just outright whining, I'm sorry, I just had to vent. Every day I check my email for something from USCIS, even on the weekends when I know it's useless. I just want to see her again but I can't exactly afford the 2 grand it costs to fly to Holland and back.

[GandK 168]

I know the feeling. The wait is hard but it will end.

I know a lot of people have got married on tourist visa and adjusted status successfully but everyone's story and circumstances are different.

What kept us from doing it that way and from getting frustrated hearing about people who took shortcut that way is suppose there is a 1% that your AOS on tourist visa will be denied and maybe I'd get banned for misrepresentation.

Would you bet your entire future on that 1% odd?

We wouldn't because the consequence will be catastrophic for us. Even the risk is low, it is still not worth it.

[D N Medellin COL 75]

IMHO the system is not broken rather you have people, such as your sister in law, who have committed fraud and got away with it, not to mention the other extreme end of the lax system with the terrorist on a visa, this should be the focus of your angst.

My hats off to the men and women in our government who have the training and sense to weed out this scum!

The saying is correct that "Patience is a virtue", a characteristic that is BROKEN and LOST in our society today!

Good luck to you both.

[QueenE 174]

IMHO the system is not broken rather you have people, such as your sister in law, who have committed fraud and got away with it, not to mention the other extreme end of the lax system with the terrorist on a visa, this should be the focus of your angst.

My hats off to the men and women in our government who have the training and sense to weed out this scum!

The saying is correct that "Patience is a virtue", a characteristic that is BROKEN and LOST in our society today!

Good luck to you both.

Oh give me a break! Someone cant be patient but have days of frustration because they miss the person they love? Is he suppose to be happy about being apart. Save the preaching on the flaws of our society for a situation that makes sense

[Mariya and Tim 5]

I feel you.. Same with us.. No NOA2, no real wedding at all this year.. everything fell apart...

[JohnR! 5,495]

For better or worse, the system is what it is.

I don't want to take your situation lightly, but fact is that the process takes time and you can't count on a y particular schedule. Plans can be rescheduled and tickets canbe changed, so just roll with punches and readjust your schedule to fit in with the process.

It is frustrating but if you give in to your anxiety it will only make matters worse, for it will not make it happen any faster.

Hang I there and in a few months it will all be over, for this leg of the journey.

Best of luck!

[berhanu 10]

hire more people. hire more people

[Ryan H 3,812]

Moved from Process & Procedures to Progress Reports.

[Sirdaniel42 86]

IMHO the system is not broken rather you have people, such as your sister in law, who have committed fraud and got away with it, not to mention the other extreme end of the lax system with the terrorist on a visa, this should be the focus of your angst.

My hats off to the men and women in our government who have the training and sense to weed out this scum!

The saying is correct that "Patience is a virtue", a characteristic that is BROKEN and LOST in our society today!

Good luck to you both.

:thumbs: :thumbs:

I understand your frustration we had a few down moments during our wait, like others said it is the right way to go and the reward is waiting for you both.

Edited July 22, 2012 by Sirdaniel42

[Fight for Love 98]

I was talking to my stepsister who got married to a guy while he was in the US on a tourist visa... they got married and simply adjusted status, no problem. A coworker of mine called a USCIS office and the person he called actually TOLD him to get his Russian Fiancee here on a business or tourist visa, marry her, and then file for adjustment of status.

I feel like a moron now. I've been without my fiancee for almost five months now, may have to postpone our wedding (and thus ensuring her parent's can't make it because they already bought tickets for that date) because the process is taking so long. I just responded to an RFE and am still waiting for the NOA2. Why didn't I just marry her when she was here on the visa waiver program to visit me? Why is it easier to do it the wrong way? Separating couples like this is a hardship on relationships, finances, and plans for the future. We need to fix this already...

Anyway, this is just outright whining, I'm sorry, I just had to vent. Every day I check my email for something from USCIS, even on the weekends when I know it's useless. I just want to see her again but I can't exactly afford the 2 grand it costs to fly to Holland and back.

i'll be throwing tantrum pretty soon just like you lol joke i just send my rfe same day when you send it..but no NOA2 yet :crying: i'm guessing maybe anytime next wk will be getting our noa2(i'm praying) they got my rfe reply the nxt day(i used express mail)...did your status change to rfe to rfe response review? i ask becaus thats the time you know they got your reply..goodluck

[Paula&Anthony 3]

Well I have a friend that her cousin was engaged to an american and didn't know about the fiancé visa.

Se went to the US on a tourist visa, got married and when she tried to adjust status they wanted to deport her.

She spent 5 years fighting in court to finally get her greencard. It was a nightmare.

That's how i got to know about the fiancé visa. My friend told me this story back in 2006 and I just found that insane

and never forgot about it. Who knew that i'd be engaged to an american too. (life is crazy!)

Her cousin got her visa either in the end of 2011 or begining of 2012. So there are consequenses

for doing things the wrong way. She probably spent much more than the $1700 of the fiancé visa.

I know it sucks.. but it's the rule.. what can we do?!

[habibi11 16]

I was talking to my stepsister who got married to a guy while he was in the US on a tourist visa... they got married and simply adjusted status, no problem. A coworker of mine called a USCIS office and the person he called actually TOLD him to get his Russian Fiancee here on a business or tourist visa, marry her, and then file for adjustment of status.

I feel like a moron now. I've been without my fiancee for almost five months now, may have to postpone our wedding (and thus ensuring her parent's can't make it because they already bought tickets for that date) because the process is taking so long. I just responded to an RFE and am still waiting for the NOA2. Why didn't I just marry her when she was here on the visa waiver program to visit me? Why is it easier to do it the wrong way? Separating couples like this is a hardship on relationships, finances, and plans for the future. We need to fix this already...

Anyway, this is just outright whining, I'm sorry, I just had to vent. Every day I check my email for something from USCIS, even on the weekends when I know it's useless. I just want to see her again but I can't exactly afford the 2 grand it costs to fly to Holland and back.

I totally agree with you i dont understand why this has to take so long especially when there is plenty of evidence.... it it frustrating being away from ur loved one.... i all have to say atleast there is skype its better than nothing for now.... i just beleive in GOD and pray everyday for a speedy process

[P+J 47]

I totally agree with you i dont understand why this has to take so long especially when there is plenty of evidence.... it it frustrating being away from ur loved one.... i all have to say atleast there is skype its better than nothing for now.... i just beleive in GOD and pray everyday for a speedy process

I will pray that all of you who filed recently will not have to endure the horror that was VSC these past 6 months...Approval was agonizingly close and then retracted from many January filers as we were left to suffer for months with no consistent answers. I just hope to get out of this next week with NOA2 behind me...but even that is not a certainty. I wouldn't wish this torture on my worst enemy because that is what it has become.

[teg 6]

I was talking to my stepsister who got married to a guy while he was in the US on a tourist visa... they got married and simply adjusted status, no problem. A coworker of mine called a USCIS office and the person he called actually TOLD him to get his Russian Fiancee here on a business or tourist visa, marry her, and then file for adjustment of status.

I feel like a moron now. I've been without my fiancee for almost five months now, may have to postpone our wedding (and thus ensuring her parent's can't make it because they already bought tickets for that date) because the process is taking so long. I just responded to an RFE and am still waiting for the NOA2. Why didn't I just marry her when she was here on the visa waiver program to visit me? Why is it easier to do it the wrong way? Separating couples like this is a hardship on relationships, finances, and plans for the future. We need to fix this already...

Anyway, this is just outright whining, I'm sorry, I just had to vent. Every day I check my email for something from USCIS, even on the weekends when I know it's useless. I just want to see her again but I can't exactly afford the 2 grand it costs to fly to Holland and back.

It is a very hard process. It will be two years in August that we started our paper work. I was lucky enought to take three weeks off in March to April to spend with my husband, but it is hard to raise the money to go there and also have the vacation time. We were separated for 1 year and 8 months by the time I could have the time and the money. This system needs to be worked on. I understand how you feel, but I beleive you are in for a shorter ride than I. Good luck and keep the faith.

[HannahP 119]

You'll get over it. Trust me.