Advice for voluntary deportation and divorce

[John J 10]

I have completely had enough of my USC wife and want to go back home to England. I don't have the money to fly back home and I can't borrow it. My only option is to call immigration and have them fly me home. Thought of doing VAWA but it would take too long and seems like a bigger nightmare to go through than what I'm already in.

Does anyone know the time frame from going into deportation to getting back home, or other useful information?

Extra information:

Married 4 years, 3 step children 2 children of our own.

Started Adjustment of status did medical and have not done anything else since, can not afford to complete Adjustment of status now.

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

I have completely had enough of my USC wife and want to go back home to England. I don't have the money to fly back home and I can't borrow it. My only option is to call immigration and have them fly me home. Thought of doing VAWA but it would take too long and seems like a bigger nightmare to go through than what I'm already in.

Does anyone know the time frame from going into deportation to getting back home, or other useful information?

Extra information:

Married 4 years, 3 step children 2 children of our own.

Started Adjustment of status did medical and have not done anything else since, can not afford to complete Adjustment of status now.

Don't rush to make major decisions mate. Some of us have been where you are at now and believe me this requires a cool head.

I'm not saying stay with your Wife but consider how you can at least stay in the US so that you can see the children.

I sense your desperation (I know that feeling as I've been) and it pains me.

[Boiler 45,516]

Put it on a CC quicker and easier.

[BethandBilly 86]

SingleDad2usc, you are something else, you don't work, you take from the state, thousands of dollars, entered the US illegally and remain in the US illegally, yet you have the gall to give this man a hard time, take a good look at your life before throwing stones. Just wondering how you can afford $200 when you are constantly pleading poverty and demanding the state pay for everything for you.

JohnF, it seems like you are having a hard time, but don't give up on kids, they didn't ask for the situation you guys are in now. There is a lady on here that may be able to give you some excellent advice on the VAWA, her name is Sandranj I think, she is a pro at VAWA and has given some great advice on here. You may not want to go the VAWA route, but there is more in this situation than just you, you have your children to think of and can you in all good conscience just walk out on them and leave them to God knows what?

Like GOWON I sense your desperation, but something else to think about is the guilt you may feel further on down the road if you just leave your children.

How long have you been in the US, are you Out of Status, if so by how long? Depending on how long you may be Out of Status depends on what could happen to you, as in you may be banned from entering the US for at least 3 years. Think, if you are banned from entering the US you may not see your children for years, how are you going to feel about that, how are they going to feel about that.

Is there anyone you can talk to, anyone close by that can offer you help?

Is your wife abusive, physically, mentally, if so do you have proof of it?

How did you enter the US?

Edited July 20, 2012 by BethandBilly

[Glyn and Kathy 288]

Some great advice here. Take a deep breath before you do anything rash like leaving the country and leaving your kids behind. Once you leave...think about how hard it may be to get back to see them.

[Darnell 8,478]

My only option is to call immigration and have them fly me home.

Disagree. There are other options for getting home.

However, since yer here on an overstay, please show up at yer local USCIS office, ask for the ICE Shift Supervisor, and let them know you are an overstay and want to be deported, after being held in the ICE jail ..

Good Luck! Don't bother to pack a kit - just show up this morning.

Edited July 20, 2012 by Darnell

[BethandBilly 86]

SingleDad2usc, I fully understand ticket prices as I worked in the airline industry for many years, thanks very much.

Ok so you entered the US legally, but have remained illegally for years on the backs of your kids, only now after all these years are you trying for a GC. You do voluntary work, I get it you're a GOOD person

I think mate you need to be more caring, at least as much as you are expecting others to be of your situation, yes I've read it don't you worry.

JohnF, really think hard about your options, you leave your kids to the hands of Lord only knows and they may never forgive you, nor you forgive yourself.

Don't go the deportation route, biggest mistake you could make.

Good Luck!!

[belinda63 3,038]

How bouts you contact your embassy and see if they can help. Remember if you have been out of status you will have a hard time returning to the US ever.

SingleDad2US what I want to say to you would get me banned so

[Redflame2012 32]

I understand your position. If this marriage can't work and you have not AOS'd yet, go home. You are not in a financial position to stay in USA for your children. At least returning to England you can obtain employment to support them. Those are the facts.

Personally, I would contact the British embassy and tell them of your plight to get some robust advice before informing the authorities that you are 'out of status'. Who knows, the embassy may be able to help you with a flight. If not, handing yourself in for deportation is the last option, not ideal but at least it will get you home.

Good luck!

Redf.

Edited July 20, 2012 by Redflame2012

[Sweetcheeksss 91]

I agree with BethandBilly and Belinda - seems like since SingleDad2US has gotten all he can from his other threads (18 pages of him asking for info/help) now his newest pastime seems to be belittling others that sincerely are looking for the VERY same thing he wanted in his other threads...

Compassion, empathy and information.

How about just leaving your negativity/judgement at the door OR if you can't (or don't want to) just don't say ANYTHING.

[belinda63 3,038]

The OP has never stated he will not provide for his children or maintain contact with them. He is simply expressing that he cannot continue to live in his current conditions and wishes to return home. He is not in status, cannot work legally, and has no future here. Of course he could continue to live here illegally, work under the table, and live off benefits intended for his USC children, but some people are more honest than that and want to make a real life for themselves.

I suggest contacting the embassy first and give this some thought as it will have long term ramifications.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

I have completely had enough of my USC wife and want to go back home to England. I don't have the money to fly back home and I can't borrow it. My only option is to call immigration and have them fly me home. Thought of doing VAWA but it would take too long and seems like a bigger nightmare to go through than what I'm already in.

Does anyone know the time frame from going into deportation to getting back home, or other useful information?

Extra information:

Married 4 years, 3 step children 2 children of our own.

Started Adjustment of status did medical and have not done anything else since, can not afford to complete Adjustment of status now.

I understand this is probably not an easy decision for you. I will point out given your overstay you will get a 10 year ban so you'll not be able to come back here to see kids and unless you fly them to you (which requires your wife's permission), you probably won't see them for a LONG time. I'm sure you've thought of all this but I just wanted to put that out there.

To answer your question, I would also agree with contacting your embassy. A friend of mine was stuck in the UK and he walked a heck of a long way during winter to get to the embassy. They first asked whether a friend or family member could help with the flight costs and my husband got a call. The amount was only a hundred or so. Have you asked friends/family back home? Do you have a credit card you could use? Can you get a loan?

[amberlynnloves 125]

If you are still a UK citizen, your embassy must help you. Its their job. I was reading that if you are ever in trouble in a foreign country to contact your country's embassy. They will help you in some way. Just explain your situation.

Overstaying though = 10 year ban.

And SingleDad...you STILL haven't been banned from this site yet or taken away by ICE officials? Surprising.

[Ban Hammer 13,340]

thread closed for review

[Ban Hammer 13,340]

one member thread banned for hijacking the thread. half a dozen posts removed for being off topic.

the op asked for advice - let's try to contain posts to that end.