living like a 'virgin'

[rkk1 34]

I was talking to my husband this morning, as he's in India and I'm here in the US. We haven't seen each other in over 4 months, and it will be another 5-6 months before we can meet again when he comes over here. He was expressing his frustration to me this morning, how much he misses me, and how hard it is for him to be apart from his wife. At one point in our conversation he said "I'm a married guy, but I'm living like a virgin." He said that in frustration, but somehow I found it funny. It's just his English and the way he says things differently. I started teasing him about it, and asked him if he'd end up having an affair on me out of frustration. He told me he would never ever and that he'd die before cheating on me. (We were each other's first partners. I told him that he spent his life before me as a virgin, so why is it such a big deal now? Then he said that once you taste the fruit, you can't go back and will miss it.) He says he is not just frustrated sexually, but that he misses the love, affection, and support that he gets from me. Being long distance is a huge strain emotionally on a marriage, and requires so much effort to communicate with each other well.

I know many of us are badly missing our spouses due to this imposed distance. I just thought my husband's words were amusing, and felt like sharing something silly to help us get through this monotony of being so far away from our spouses.

Edited July 16, 2012 by rkk1

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[Bad_Daddy 2,209]

I was talking to my husband this morning, as he's in India and I'm here in the US. We haven't seen each other in over 4 months, and it will be another 5-6 months before we can meet again when he comes over here. He was expressing his frustration to me this morning, how much he misses me, and how hard it is for him to be apart from his wife. At one point in our conversation he said "I'm a married guy, but I'm living like a virgin." He said that in frustration, but somehow I found it funny. It's just his English and the way he says things differently. I started teasing him about it, and asked him if he'd end up having an affair on me out of frustration. He told me he would never ever and that he'd die before cheating on me. (We were each other's first partners. I told him that he spent his life before me as a virgin, so why is it such a big deal now? Then he said that once you taste the fruit, you can't go back and will miss it.) He says he is not just frustrated sexually, but that he misses the love, affection, and support that he gets from me. Being long distance is a huge strain emotionally on a marriage, and requires so much effort to communicate with each other well.

I know many of us are badly missing our spouses due to this imposed distance. I just thought my husband's words were amusing, and felt like sharing something silly to help us get through this monotony of being so far away from our spouses.

After he has been here for a few years your going to look back on the waiting period and it's not going to seem like it was all that long. It's difficult to explain but when I think about the time that we spent apart it seems more like a distant memory than anything. The key is to keep in contact with each other. It's a major supporting factor.

[Calypso 464]

Spookyturtle is the expert resident adviser when it comes to this topic.

http://www.visajourn...aying-its-toll/

http://www.visajourn...nificant-other/

After he has been here for a few years your going to look back on the waiting period and it's not going to seem like it was all that long. It's difficult to explain but when I think about the time that we spent apart it seems more like a distant memory than anything. The key is to keep in contact with each other. It's a major supporting factor.

The visa process feels a whole lot like going to school to earn a certificate, diploma or degree. While you're at it, days seem so slow then at some point later, you'll look back and you can barely imagine how you've gone through college or high school but hey, you did. It's just gonna seem like a blur.

[spookyturtle 9,465]

Spookyturtle is the expert resident adviser when it comes to this topic.

http://www.visajourn...aying-its-toll/

http://www.visajourn...nificant-other/

I've said it many times, why not have cyber sex? Of course it's not as good as the real thing, but it's sure better than jerkin' off in the closet. Keyboards aren't that expensive either if they get.............oh never mind.

[MyLittlePony 340]

I do cyber sex all the time when the wife dont give it.

[Calypso 464]

I do cyber sex all the time when the wife dont give it.

WTH?

[Darnell 8,478]

virgins don't get penetrated or penetrate. all other activities are 'fair' .

Perhaps he wants , instead, to live as a monk?

[spookyturtle 9,465]

It's time to start reporting all of these stupid picture posts in every thread.

[Ban Hammer 13,334]

two posts not germane to the topic removed, along with one additional pertaining to those two posts.

member thread banned

[Darnell 8,478]

I've said it many times, why not have cyber sex? Of course it's not as good as the real thing, but it's sure better than jerkin' off in the closet. Keyboards aren't that expensive either if they get.............oh never mind.

Mr. Turtle is the #2 Cyber-Sex Coach on the Planet.

No, I'm not kidding.

Is possible to engage him for a 2 hour training session, and IIRC, the first 48 seconds are NOT free.

[spookyturtle 9,465]

All joking aside, why not try internet sex? It's between you and your husband, so why not?

[Darnell 8,478]

Spookies - sssssssssssh - I'm trying to get you a paying gig. I know you love technical support

[abner137 48]

All joking aside, why not try internet sex? It's between you and your husband, so why not?

If that's how you want it, why not.......it's like I've always said.....no one treats me like me.......

[Bad_Daddy 2,209]

The wife made me a couple of hot cam movies. That Logitech cam I got her was the top of the line at the time and it even had zoom.