2012 re-authorization, Male VAWA, children VAWA

[Boiler 45,519]

I am sure it is inadvertent, but you give the impression that you do not have the core proof required and are trying to make up with volume.

I am sure there is an art in putting such a case forward, something a lawyer would be familiar with and something that would vary slightly from case to case.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

Yes. If there were an official incident within the last 5 years, my whole VAWA envelope could be mailed for 49 cents, lol

But, thankfully, mental abuse has remained just that to date

[SingleDad2usc 71]

And YES, this is my explanation to Lifejourney's idea that mental abuse could be prevented by mystifying my phonenumber. If I ever gave her a reason to panic, the physical outcome might be fulfilled. But as long as she's been hearing exactly what she wanted - that I'm not doing anything, that if anyone half-heartly attempts to pursue her, it's not me (and will never get my testimony)...the status quo is just that

[SingleDad2usc 71]

2-day postponement...Jr's interaction with other psychiatric out-patients is not too friendly: he made them cry, while I was filling out extensive questionnaire. We were rushed into the intake room - but psychiatrist interrupted that interview, before Jr destroyed her office. She said she's noted enough of his behavioral patterns, and I'm now scheduled to return during Tue school-time by myself to complete family history

[SingleDad2usc 71]

So first psychiatric clinic considered Jr's case too serious to handle, and referred to another - where intake is scheduled 6 days from now. Neurologist did another EEG today: it showed epileptic activity still. He requested psychological and psychosocial evaluations, and a new blood test (previously, it required 3 staff to draw 16 vials from this 9y.o. - I don't think he likes me after this)

[Sandra G. 5,048]

wow singledad...Don't worry,he will always love you no matter what,you are a good father.

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

So first psychiatric clinic considered Jr's case too serious to handle, and referred to another - where intake is scheduled 6 days from now. Neurologist did another EEG today: it showed epileptic activity still. He requested psychological and psychosocial evaluations, and a new blood test (previously, it required 3 staff to draw 16 vials from this 9y.o. - I don't think he likes me after this)

16 VIALS, YOU CAN DO 100 DIFFERENT BLOOD TEST OUT OF 1 VIAL. WOW

[SingleDad2usc 71]

You may be right in theory - and therein is another lesson... What makes perfect sense to us - may not come out of (professional) action. The next thing I heard after they got done drawing 16th vial (and that was at a major city hospital): you know, dad, these four tests among what your Doc requested - are unavailable at our lab!!! I say "why didn't u say so, when we were waiting an hour in reception? why did u never tell me u'd draw 16 vials (I expected maybe 2-3)? Give me my blood, please?" No dad, it's ours now. We'll report to your Doc in a week... Then Doc looked at it a month later - when I reminded he'd ordered it

16 VIALS, YOU CAN DO 100 DIFFERENT BLOOD TEST OUT OF 1 VIAL. WOW

[SingleDad2usc 71]

Psychiatric, psychological and psychosocial evaluations for my 9y.o. with 3 different therapists are set for next week. He attends (special ed)summer school, but I've managed after-school appointments. I don't want to drag my 11y.o. at all, she's so excited with her camp trips!

Family Team Conference at preventive agency, including ACS caseworker, will take place too. My objective is to come out of it with a DOCUMENT that will mention:

1. Agency is concerned with continuing reported threats by Absent Mother.

2. Agency will refer Father to legal clinic.

3. ACS legal counsel will be contacted re: filing to terminate Absent Mother's rights.

With this document, in addition to all medical, police, court and ACS documents 2002-2012, I will see a pro-bono lawyer (hopefully, "Sanctuary") asap. I'm leaning toward self-petition based on LPR mother's abuse of the children in the US.

I'm still amiss about current laws, or lack thereof. Besides documented positive footprint at local level over 10+ years, I have dealt with federal officials (SSA) in person at annual re-certifications and at other appointments they've called for. My son has been a recepient of disability benefits. He wouldn't be, if he were not a residing citizen. SSA has had me as the payee all these years. They wouldn't, if I were not residing here with him, or if there were another custodian or guardian. This is a long-term condition, which is unfortunately likely to extend throughout life. What's amiss: why is there no law to be granted legal status or SSN? How can one federal branch certify me year after year, and the other one pretend I don't exist? If mother died, instead of continued mental abuse, then even VAWA would drop out - then what?

[Boiler 45,519]

Go home?

[SingleDad2usc 71]

No. Boiler at top of this page was constructive: "there is an art in putting such a case forward, something a lawyer would be familiar with and something that would vary slightly from case to case."

Trying to skip one evidentiary step: self-petitioner's therapy

[Boiler 45,519]

If mother died, instead of continued mental abuse, then even VAWA would drop out - then what?

I was answering this question.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

something doesn't add up. There can't be such disparity between two branches of federal gov: USCIS and SSA, who thoroughly interview me year after year after year after year after year after year after year (that many years) and always end the same "You're a good dad, good luck and see you later!" In my experience, those SSA workers are trained and knowledgable. I suspect we're all here missing something, that may pertain to a parent of a disabled citizen minor. There must be some provision deep within some statute (?)

[Ihavequestions 419]

something doesn't add up. There can't be such disparity between two branches of federal gov: USCIS and SSA, who thoroughly interview me year after year after year after year after year after year after year (that many years) and always end the same "You're a good dad, good luck and see you later!" In my experience, those SSA workers are trained and knowledgable. I suspect we're all here missing something, that may pertain to a parent of a disabled citizen minor. There must be some provision deep within some statute (?)

Citizenship isn't a requirement to be the payee of a disabled child. A business entity can be a payee.

[Karee 4,190]

something doesn't add up. There can't be such disparity between two branches of federal gov: USCIS and SSA, who thoroughly interview me year after year after year after year after year after year after year (that many years) and always end the same "You're a good dad, good luck and see you later!" In my experience, those SSA workers are trained and knowledgable. I suspect we're all here missing something, that may pertain to a parent of a disabled citizen minor. There must be some provision deep within some statute (?)

Surely you must be joking. Not laughing at your situation, but your naivete on how the government works.

Case in point. USCIS and NVC obviously don't talk to each other. K-3 applicants file I-130 and I-129F with USCIS at the same time and then USCIS ships both petitions to NVC. NVC kills the I-129F, hence killing the K-3 and forcing CR-1, IR-1 visa track.

You'd think someone at NVC would call USCIS and say, "why do you keep accepting these I-129F K-3 petitions, when we're just gonna close them?"