2012 re-authorization, Male VAWA, children VAWA

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

You don't have a case for a U visa, and now you are showing signs of destructive. This woman has given up her legal rights to the children and has moved on, here you are bringing her back into your and the childrens life by trying to find a out for yourself.

No lawyer would take your case, unless they are in it just for the money, they all will say this individual has no bearing on any case that you are trying to establish.

Please understand, this missing indiviual has no bearing on your case. She has been MIA.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

Except for making threatening calls and being present on internet in bondage.

As to giving up rights to these two children: she never officially did. She just stopped showing up for supervised ACS visits allotted to her, and to Family Court's neglect hearings - where her court-assigned lawyer eventually asked to be excused. Her failure to either plan for children's return or to officially give up resulted in children being held in foster care for over a year - before the Judge threatened ACS to fine them $1000/day for any longer

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Except for making threatening calls and being present on internet in bondage.

As to giving up rights to these two children: she never officially did. She just stopped showing up for supervised ACS visits allotted to her, and to Family Court's neglect hearings - where her court-assigned lawyer eventually asked to be excused. Her failure to either plan for children's return or to officially give up resulted in children being held in foster care for over a year - before the Judge threatened ACS to fine them $1000/day for any longer

Sir, none of this matters to immigration, I know it matters to you, but NOT to immigration. The threating phone calls, how and why would you continue to be a part of it. Do you get some pleasure out of it, a simple call to change your phone number stops all of it. Now, if you are hoping that the mother has a chnage of heart and wants to come back to be a part of the children lives, then continue on with the calls. Since only you know the contents of the phone calls, and what is being exchanged between the 2 parties on the line, everyone opinions as subjective to what you are saying.

But for immigration you have not shown any thing that would warrant a U visa, and the VAWA petition is very iffify. This has been a long 17 page post of you repeating the same things and strangers keeping you entertained.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

Same Judge ordered ACS supervision of father to ensure "legal residence" among other. ACS has never done anything about "legal", only noting every year at conferences that "mother should be paying Child Support".

The absurdity of ACS reality, under pressure of budget cuts and constantly throwing this case from one branch to another, culminated with a butchy-looking supervisor at new branch walking into the 2010 conference and asking "where is the mother? a father with two children here - nonsense! kids should be with the mother!"

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

ACS actions are action

taken on behalf of the USC children

, their actions has no burden on your illegal status in the US.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

Life'sjourney, your assessment is appreciated - as it helps to look at the circumstances from the other side, or from un-informed side. You are absolutely correct that the system is not geared to easily handle a case like this. The system tries to efficiently dispose of cookie-cutter cases. There is place for this topic to help with male VAWA and children VAWA cases

[Sandra G. 5,047]

To qualify to obtain U visa YOU,not your US citizens,must be the victim of a violent crime. The mental abuse the indivual suffered MUST BE RELATED WITH VIOLENT CRIME. Cases of extortion,blackmail must be related with a violent crime as well. There are just 10.000 available per year. You don't have a case to file U visa.

[Sandra G. 5,047]

Single dad i told you 1000000 times and I won't repeat again fraud,abandonment,failure to pay child support is not ground for Vawa. I rest my case,lol.

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Life'sjourney, your assessment is appreciated - as it helps to look at the circumstances from the other side, or from un-informed side. You are absolutely correct that the system is not geared to easily handle a case like this. The system tries to efficiently dispose of cookie-cutter cases. There is place for this topic to help with male VAWA and children VAWA cases

Sir to say I am un-informed is a mis-statement on your part. As I stated you have no case for a U visa, and based on your own facts VAWA is iffy. I will not entertain you with legal advise, because you needs to be seeking the advise of a certified lawyer. One VJ member has been kind enough to give you some guidance with the caveat that you should be seeking the aid of a professional provider. You have choosen to ingnore this advise.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

I hope, btw, that other single fathers or single parents forgive my honesty: single parenthood sucks. It shouldn't exist. I would never wish myself or anyone else to be put into these circumstances. I've had no problem romancing before starting a family; but since becoming the sole custodian of my two kids - no woman that caught my eye wanted to ever consider serious relationship. Moreover that Jr has so many issues...

Male VAWA/children VAWA are much more complex than typical VAWA. Men appear to be judged for mere attempt to seek LEGAL solution. Like I was just thouhtfully and somewhat rightfully advised: just give it up! To hell with OFFICIAL EVIDENCE, justice, best for society/community and innocent children. Just let the children fend for themselves, let fraud and violence win, and let the beaurocrats rejoice with status-quo. It's too hard to win changes

[Ihavequestions 419]

Life'sjourney, your assessment is appreciated - as it helps to look at the circumstances from the other side, or from un-informed side. You are absolutely correct that the system is not geared to easily handle a case like this. The system tries to efficiently dispose of cookie-cutter cases. There is place for this topic to help with male VAWA and children VAWA cases

I agree that the child support collection system is slovenly and money-driven. However, I can't imagine where you got the notion VAWA is only adjudicated when it's "easy."

Again, do you have reason to believe that she has left the state of New York? And, again, if she has, there may be legal remedies available to you for child support collection.

Are you going to answer me, or are you going to continue emoting?

[SingleDad2usc 71]

I would never mean you un-informed. You are by definition FRIEND. I was pointing out that un-informed about the case people, officials are likely to react this way. Your contribution is invaluable to people striving for LEGAL change. Your contribution is objective and honest

Sir to say I am un-informed is a mis-statement on your part. As I stated you have no case for a U visa, and based on your own facts VAWA is iffy. I will not entertain you with legal advise, because you needs to be seeking the advise of a certified lawyer. One VJ member has been kind enough to give you some guidance with the caveat that you should be seeking the aid of a professional provider. You have choosen to ingnore this advise.

[Ihavequestions 419]

I hope, btw, that other single fathers or single parents forgive my honesty: single parenthood sucks. It shouldn't exist. I would never wish myself or anyone else to be put into these circumstances. I've had no problem romancing before starting a family; but since becoming the sole custodian of my two kids - no woman that caught my eye wanted to ever consider serious relationship. Moreover that Jr has so many issues...

You're preaching to the choir.

Been there, done that, two children and more than 20 years later, I can say this:

I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

It is possible to raise happy, well-adjusted children alone. I did it. The backbone of the child support collection system is we are all responsible for the decisions we make and who we choose to reproduce with. Is it horrid when they bolt and run, leaving you holding the bag? It can be. It's all about perspective, though. Not having to co-parent with someone who consistently makes bad life choices, or doesn't want to parent at all, isn't the worst thing in the world.

Again, if you believe she has left the state of New York, you do have other legal remedies available.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

Very tough question. I know that she would never need DL as she can't handle a car. I suspect she'd changed not only name but SSN as well.

Incredibly, for a few months after her Support Court stunt she kept posting (and with pictures) on NYC websites looking for new husband, looking for "daddy, because her last daddy is in jail", looking for "substance" whatever that meant... Then the phonecalls started...Then in 2010 I ran into her in my regular subway car (on a night I was going home exceptionaly late- and got another threat, this time in person... And it appeared that occasion might have prompted her to move

I agree that the child support collection system is slovenly and money-driven. However, I can't imagine where you got the notion VAWA is only adjudicated when it's "easy."

Again, do you have reason to believe that she has left the state of New York? And, again, if she has, there may be legal remedies available to you for child support collection.

Are you going to answer me, or are you going to continue emoting?

[Ihavequestions 419]

Very tough question. I know that she would never need DL as she can't handle a car. I suspect she'd changed not only name but SSN as well.

Incredibly, for a few months after her Support Court stunt she kept posting (and with pictures) on NYC websites looking for new husband, looking for "daddy, because her last daddy is in jail", looking for "substance" whatever that meant... Then the phonecalls started...Then in 2010 I ran into her in my regular subway car (on a night I was going home exceptionaly late- and got another threat, this time in person... And it appeared that occasion might have prompted her to move

Google and read the following:

Child Support Recovery Act of 1992

Deadbeat Parents Punishment Act of 1998

Federal law 18 U.S.C. 228

Project Save Our Children (PSOC)

If you have questions, send me a private message as I don't want this thread to go off topic.