Divorce Rate

[Dana and Divine 61]

I think one thing people have to realize is this Visa Journey as we all have experience is hard, painful sad and heartbreakig. Many couples break up. But that doesn't mean there was fraud. Some people have gone through this 2, 3, 4 years or more now they are finally together and sometimes things don't work out.

It's so easy to say fraud and such. I find it funny when its a foreign spouse and it doesn'y work people use the word "fraud". But in the US we call it lying, deceit or cheating.

I think personally the stats are stacked in our favor because those who make it we are stronger because of this journey. Only those really committed to this WHOLE process will make it.

Amen and Amen! Preach it sister!

[LAKY 1]

A long marriage is never granted for anyone You can choose to marry a US citizen and get divorced in a couple of years, same thing marrying someone from overseas. If you are planning to marry your fiance and you're already thinking about a divorce, you should ask yourself why are you getting married after all. Don't think about divorce before even trying. Give yourself a chance to be happy and to feel that reward of being able to fight for your dreams even if they don't last as long as you'd wished. I would say be prepared for anything but do not think negatively or that it will happen to you because we attract what we think and those thoughts can become true. So think positive and think that you guys are going to be happy for whatever time, life keeps you together. I'm just saying....

[memlaura 60]

This is so true. African men (most, not all) want a woman who is not going to question their judgement, their decisions, etc. African women are submissive, passive. An African man wants to provide for his family, but the woman is the real work horse in the family. A successful relationship won't be based on statistics..it is going to be the willingness of both of you to understand each others expectations and then the ability to compromise. I know I have to bite my tongue in certain situations and also not to think that I know more than my husband just cuz Im from America (even when his solution to every ailment is hot water or Andrews Liver Salts lol )..and at the same time, he knows Im never going to walk home from the market carrying the load on my head or take out the garbage..we are a match made in heaven!!

So true. You can’t look for statistics because no two relationships are the same. My husband is very much the MAN and he expects me to understand that. But he has also learned that sometimes I have an opinion and as an American woman I sometimes state it. He has gotten really good with it and sometimes we laugh at each other. He will laugh and say OMG I am in trouble. But it is hard and it is allot of compromise. If you love someone don’t let someone else or statistics dictate your future. This journey and the distance will be hard enough without the outside influences... I thank God for this site all the time because it is a constant reminder that I am not alone in what I am going thru and I can always count on someone’s advice to get thru things... And yes sometimes it is tough love here and you may not like the answer but no one comments with malice it is just to help you out and see different perspective

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

I believe 65% of American "First" Marriages end in Divorce. Meaning that the couples wed each other the first time with no previous. 2nd marriages are pretty strong in terms of % of divorce. I heard it drops to like 25% of second marriages fail.. I have not data to prove this next statement but once heard that foreign relationships have a higher than 65% divorce rate. Now I have not witnessed this in the many I know from living abroad for 5 years. But was told this happens. I can say I was married two times previously. So I told my fiancee I have us covered for divorces so we are good to go statistically lol. I just say use the 90 days when he is here. If it does not smell right then don't marry. I understand your intentions are great. There is a lot of fraud out there from what I read and hear.

Nice topic though to make people think. Good luck

Very bad advice on so many levels.

A long marriage is never granted for anyone You can choose to marry a US citizen and get divorced in a couple of years, same thing marrying someone from overseas. If you are planning to marry your fiance and you're already thinking about a divorce, you should ask yourself why are you getting married after all. Don't think about divorce before even trying. Give yourself a chance to be happy and to feel that reward of being able to fight for your dreams even if they don't last as long as you'd wished. I would say be prepared for anything but do not think negatively or that it will happen to you because we attract what we think and those thoughts can become true. So think positive and think that you guys are going to be happy for whatever time, life keeps you together. I'm just saying....

The OP has stated ad nauseam that this is not the reason why the thread was started. However, Gowon think it's a missed step if couples don't consider the impact of divorce when setting up shop.

So true. You can't look for statistics because no two relationships are the same. My husband is very much the MAN and he expects me to understand that. But he has also learned that sometimes I have an opinion and as an American woman I sometimes state it. He has gotten really good with it and sometimes we laugh at each other. He will laugh and say OMG I am in trouble. But it is hard and it is allot of compromise. If you love someone don't let someone else or statistics dictate your future. This journey and the distance will be hard enough without the outside influences... I thank God for this site all the time because it is a constant reminder that I am not alone in what I am going thru and I can always count on someone's advice to get thru things... And yes sometimes it is tough love here and you may not like the answer but no one comments with malice it is just to help you out and see different perspective

Well stated