Canadian Single Dad of 2 young U.S. citizens

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

Also, yeah, why don't you guys move to a warmer climate in the US if you are so concerned about his health, like Florida? If it's too hot, there certainly better climates than NYC like the Pacific Northwest...too many things don't add up here.

It's really quite simple, HE WANTS TO LIVE IN NYC. The kid is just an excuse for him to not move to the place where he can legally live, work and provide a better life for the kids.

I'm moving a deaf autistic child 1,000 miles in 3 weeks. He'll have trouble adjusting to the new environment (going from the suburbs of Chicago to Savannah Ga) and we'll have to find all new service providers for him but after we've all adjusted it will be better for not only the kids but the family as a whole.

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

basically correct, pushbrk. I may:

1. have to continue status-quo

2. have to find a way to legalize

3. have to at least find some DL solution

No more Canada offers please. The only reasons CANADA is present in the OP:

1. To provide truthful history

2. To capture any implication

3. To see if there might be a canadian DL solution (which is becoming doubtful according to posts above)

So what country did you live mos of your life in, except the USA.

If your wife had any type of charges she did not obtain USC, no matter what she might have told you.

[belinda63 3,038]

Even if VAWA were a possible path I think the length of time that has passed would make any claim very hard to approve. So you can marry a US citizen and adjust status, wait until one of the children becomes 21 and have them file for you, or continue to live here illegally. If you want a driver's license you will have to move to a state that does not require you to prove you are here legally.

[Justine+David 218]

It's really quite simple, HE WANTS TO LIVE IN NYC. The kid is just an excuse for him to not move to the place where he can legally live, work and provide a better life for the kids.

I'm moving a deaf autistic child 1,000 miles in 3 weeks. He'll have trouble adjusting to the new environment (going from the suburbs of Chicago to Savannah Ga) and we'll have to find all new service providers for him but after we've all adjusted it will be better for not only the kids but the family as a whole.

Yep, I know. I'm just trying to get the OP to admit it. Really, he just wants to live in NYC and can't put on his big-boy pants to do what's best for his kids. Because, seriously, NYC? Gross, dirty, polluted. I can't think of a worse place for a kid with asthma

[SingleDad2usc 71]

I shall continue with nothing but the truth

1. I'd greatly appreciate any ideas and links

2. I've been on this Forum less than a day: but I see already that some posters here live to make derogatory comments

3. I'd strive to turn even that into a positive: it may help me prepare for all kinds of offical questions

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

There is not much more to the story. And the last thing I've been since these children's birth in the US - selfish. Selfish could be the term to use in re: to birth mother, who surrendered the children to local authorities shortly after birth (with birth defects due to her prescription drug abuse) and who became a USC, and who has never paid a penny in Child Support

IMHO she was not selfish.

She was not only abusing her unborn child but herself also with drugs. Where were you by the ay when all these were going on?

Inability to pay CS is also not selfishness. Did you say she surrendered the kids? If so why would she have to pay CS? Just curious.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

Now, to someone asserting that my wife couldn't have obtained USC:

1. She had Asylum Granted 2002

2. Domestic Assault in second degree, to which she pleaded guilty, was in 2003.

3. She complied with a special Mental Division (of local Supreme Court) program; her case was sealed in 2004.

4. Let's assume she had no later arrests (chancy assumption, but what the heck)

If years later as LPR she applied for USC and has (or hasn't) mentioned the above - would she be denied USC?

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Now, to someone asserting that my wife couldn't have obtained USC:

1. She had Asylum Granted 2002

2. Domestic Assault in second degree, to which she pleaded guilty, was in 2003.

3. She complied with a special Mental Division (of local Supreme Court) program; her case was sealed in 2004.

4. Let's assume she had no later arrests (chancy assumption, but what the heck)

If years later as LPR she applied for USC and has (or hasn't) mentioned the above - would she be denied USC?

She doesn't have to mention anything the US govt knows, so she would not have been ale to obtain USC. Also the lie she stated hat she was single, would have surfaced.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

Gowon, thanks for playing Devil's advocate:

1. A non-custodial parent of two children is liable for Child Support = 25% of her gross

2. She took prescription Prozac daily (pushed by Ely Lily as pregnancy-safe at the time) during the entire 37 weeks of second pregnancy. I couldn't force her off it - and her free shrink's prescribed regimen was enough justification for herself to stay on the drug. The result was (opposed to the preceding no-drug pregnancy): 4-5 birth defects NOW sourced to Prozac during pregnancy. Did she or the shrink commit crime: NO. Are they liable: NO. Did she have a choice of not going on that regimen: YES. Was my advice not to go: YES

Lawyers around the US are putting product liability cases against Ely Lily now; I can't even file on behalf of the child, as she is not available for evidence/tests

[juliava 80]

OP - I see that you are not interested in going to Canada. Also, I see that you are considering applying for a DL as a Canadian citizen [at least that's one of the options you have listed earlier].

My question is simple: As you have been living in US for over a decade, I wonder if you have kept in touch with the Canadian authorities to renew your Canadian passport? I hope it's still valid.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

That's easy: they mail you new 5y passport to a Canadian address for $82 or to a U.S. address for $92 - no questions asked

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Gowon, thanks for playing Devil's advocate:

1. A non-custodial parent of two children is liable for Child Support = 25% of her gross

2. She took prescription Prozac daily (pushed by Ely Lily as pregnancy-safe at the time) during the entire 37 weeks of second pregnancy. I couldn't force her off it - and her free shrink's prescribed regimen was enough justification for herself to stay on the drug. The result was (opposed to the preceding no-drug pregnancy): 4-5 birth defects NOW sourced to Prozac during pregnancy. Did she or the shrink commit crime: NO. Are they liable: NO. Did she have a choice of not going on that regimen: YES. Was my advice not to go: YES

Lawyers around the US are putting product liability cases against Ely Lily now; I can't even file on behalf of the child, as she is not available for evidence/tests

The mother of the children gave up her rights when she turned them over to the state. You stated that they were in foster care for a while, until you were granted sole custody. Therefore the mother has no finanical responsibility to these children.

Can't move to another stated because ASC benefits would have to be re-established.

Can't file VAWA because they never established to the US government that they were legaly married.

Can't file for divorce, not sure if the married was valid.

Children can be moved, by parentt not willing to participate in such.

Edited July 7, 2012 by LIFE'SJOURNEY

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Look there is no Canada connection, the Op just picked Canada as a safe haven.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

1. She gave up rights OK - can't give up financial responsibility

2. It's correct that any move would have to re-establish multiple safety issues

3. can't understand VAWA hurdle u imply

4. marriage was valid, and we did live together for 3 years and had 2 babies

The mother of the children gave up her rights when she turned them over to the state. You stated that they were in foster care for a while, until you were granted sole custody. Therefore the mother has no finanical responsibility to these children.

Can't move to another stated because ASC benefits would have to be re-established.

Can't file VAWA because they never established to the US government that they were legaly married.

Can't file for divorce, not sure if the married was valid.

Children can be moved, by parentt not willing to participate in such.

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

1. She gave up rights OK - can't give up financial responsibility

2. It's correct that any move would have to re-establish multiple safety issues

3. can't understand VAWA hurdle u imply

4. marriage was valid, and we did live together for 3 years and had 2 babies

Did she give up these children to the state, then she gave up all rights including finanial responsibility.

Was the marriage valid on paper, any two people can live together and make babies. (called sex education)

VAWA hurdle is this your wife implied that she was single when she obtained political aslum, when did she ever tell the US government that she had a husband.

If she was married when she lied to the USC then all of her immigration benefits now becomes voided. If you apply and bring it to light that she lied, then everyone is sitting in a pile of sh#t. So now the choice is yours, go for it.