K1 VISA WIFE LEFT BEFORE AOS

[Sandra G. 5,057]

I do not believe at all that she left the Country. ShelterS NEVER get involved to the point to go to someones house and take the person to the airport. Her friend LIED TO YOU. Shelters offer a safe place to stay and if the person is in danger they call the cops.I do not believe in a single thing her friend told you.

[jandk 7]

Sorry this happened to you...There is always 2 sides of the story and I dont think she will end up coming on VJ to vent her frustrations. She obviously didn't love you enough to stay and work it out. Sounds like she was young and naive, at the same time I/we are not sure where she is from but sounds like their expectations over all were high. Did you maybe set her expectations to high before her coming here? Sometimes women from other countries require some patience and understanding from your part.. IF indeed you showed her a different side of you, and if indeed her kind of behavior frustrated you, i would personally settle for an American woman, they can put up with that kind of behavior from you, but also your children. It seems us Americans are used to it. Hope everything else is good...take care.

[Sandra G. 5,057]

Jandk you said " i would personally settle for an American woman, they can put up with that kind of behavior from you", which rock did you crawl out of?. There is no one single freaking difference between american and foreign women. Character has no face or nationality.

Edited July 5, 2012 by sandranj

[Shoot Em Straight 385]

Yes. She did mention that "by the time I am finished with you, you will NEVER be able to bring another woman to the USA."

In a marginal note~

JUST maybe, that might be good advice.

[Pitaya 2,577]

IMHO,

Obtain legal counsel, protect yourself as best as you can from her present and likely future legal attempts to hurt you (more), obviously don't file the AOS paperwork, initiate divorce proceedings and move on with your life.

Good luck.

[masipag 6]

Hi,

I agree with sandranj post,the only thing you can do is divorce her.then move on.if her friend lied to you saying she went back home but truth is she stil in the us,then its her problem.she ran away too early!she cannot adjust her status without you even though she marries you.Yep seems like she expect too much in the Us.I am sorry to hear your sad story...Move on!

[jandk 7]

Jandk you said " i would personally settle for an American woman, they can put up with that kind of behavior from you", which rock did you crawl out of?. There is no one single freaking difference between american and foreign women. Character has no face or nationality.

First of all, calm down, to be truthful there is a HUGE difference with the way the women are in America and the way the women are in other countries with the exception of a few. You obviously haven't spent the time to know either culture. I have heard this story time in and time out not only from the OP but from others in the same situation. It's a sad situation to be in, I think I went through that when I was like 15yrs old. As you get older/wiser you will know that you have to not classify all religion/culture the same as the rest, because what one believes in and the experience that each individual goes through in life, may vary from person to person

One's personality includes a set of mental characteristics which reflect the way in which a person thinks, acts and feels. Therefore, heredity establishes the limits of one's personality traits that can be developed, while the environment - represented by the cultural, social and situational factors - influence the actual development within the limits.

Hope you rest easy. OP let her go...I don't come here to sugar coat the situation...But with OP's situation, you may not be able to provide her with that she needs and wants..Call her selfish but then again I would call her smart for leaving.

Edited July 5, 2012 by jandk

[bigdog 376]

Sorry, better sooner than later, you file for divorce.

[LSnBigBear 61]

Sorry you went through this. I would double check and make sure she left the country as another pointed out. I would also work on countering with as much information and documentation you have and that you can get a hold of that you prooves you did not abuse her. Make sure you clear your name for current and future issues. I would check internet history, obtain any spywear software to see where her history was. Most people do not come to USA and divorce without having a contingency plan. From what you are saying this does not pass my smell test for sure as she seemed to be evil but wise to immigration laws. Remember, if she claims and can prove abuse then she does not have to depart the country. My guess is if she claimed abuse then she is looking for a way to stay in the country as why claim abuse if she is just wanting to leave the country??? She can do leave without claiming abuse. My guess she is somewhere in the country and maybe with her friend you mentioned. Get an Attorney as each state has different divorce laws. With you not knowing her wearabouts should make divorce easy. Good luck.

[LSnBigBear 61]

I do not believe at all that she left the Country. ShelterS NEVER get involved to the point to go to someones house and take the person to the airport. Her friend LIED TO YOU. Shelters offer a safe place to stay and if the person is in danger they call the cops.I do not believe in a single thing her friend told you.

Well said. Great Advice Sandran. I was thinking the same thing

[6060842s 1]

Thank you for the replies. The woman who gave me the information IS a liar and the only reason I got what information I got was because of her husband when he checked her phone calls on line. Someone took her to the airport 2 hours away and provided her a cell phone. I don't think the police would do that.

You may be right as far as her going to a shelter. We briefly talked to one of my friends and they had a private conversation with serious looks on their faces. She hugged her and said she would take care of her. Maybe that was where the 2 hour ride came from. I was told she just wanted to leave and not get me in trouble.

She knew my financial situation before she came. I explained everything thouroughly. I told her about my family situation and that there had to be some contact with the ex-wife. Everything was ok with the Kids until she demanded their family pet dog was sent off. Then, a break down occurred where I was in the middle having to take sides.

I think her expectations were very high. Her friend was always talking about going to the gym and beach and riding her bicycle to the store when she wanted. She wanted such a life and I could not provide it due to limited funds and location. She could not drive and get out to meet people and wanted to pick her own friends.

Yes. There are 2 sides to every story.

She is home now and said she would write. Perhaps she will tell me really what happened and will tell me what. she wants.

Thanks for the responses.

Edited July 5, 2012 by 6060842s

[jandk 7]

Thank you for the replies. The woman who gave me the information IS a liar and the only reason I got what information I got was because of her husband when he checked her phone calls on line. Someone took her to the airport 2 hours away and provided her a cell phone. I don't think the police would do that.

You may be right as far as her going to a shelter. We briefly talked to one of my friends and they had a private conversation with serious looks on their faces. She hugged her and said she would take care of her. Maybe that was where the 2 hour ride came from. I was told she just wanted to leave and not get me in trouble.

She knew my financial situation before she came. I explained everything thouroughly. I told her about my family situation and that there had to be some contact with the ex-wife. Everything was ok with the Kids until she demanded their family pet dog was sent off. Then, a break down occurred where I was in the middle having to take sides.

I think her expectations were very high. Her friend was always talking about going to the gym and beach and riding her bicycle to the store when she wanted. She wanted such a life and I could not provide it due to limited funds and location. She could not drive and get out to meet people and wanted to pick her own friends.

Yes. There are 2 sides to every story.

She is home now and said she would write. Perhaps she will tell me really what happened and will tell me what. she wants.

Thanks for the responses.

I understand.. I hope you do well, I hope she does well.. Take care of you, your kids, your life. Best regards

[RobbyUSA 26]

she did you a favor because she is a LIAR!

remember, all women are a risk and when you mary a foriegn woman I would say about 50% of the time it's to live a better life here in the USA. It's all about survival, etc....

Just like most American Women mary for money, etc.

I know from experience. and yes... it works both ways!

(Men mary women on looks alone)

best of luck to you and be very carefull next time.

[rade2rising 205]

there is no way she went back. be careful.

[bestofboston 36]

What country is she from and what town are you from?