Need help, I am very worried...

[tru_loves_journey 117]

Sorry to hear your situation. Please be prepared for not so positive things coming your way. Many Egyptian men change their mind in wanting to be with an American. This is nothing new for one of them to just disappear even within the US after they arrive here. I've seen this happen too often. So many keep secrets like having a fiance or even the fact they're married there. Some of them are liars and players. BEWARE! Yes, It's so horrible that they can betray someone like that. I wish you the best in finding an answer to where he might be. I hope for your hearts sake you receive good news soon. Good Luck to you

Edited July 2, 2012 by tru_loves_journey

[Mithra 1,185]

I'm a little confused because her post says he's in Egypt visiting his parents. Like he was here now he's there. Or maybe he's visiting his parents in another part of Egypt?

OP, is your fiance living in Egypt currently?

Her profile says she lives here; he lives in Egypt. They've never met yet.

[msheesha 548]

Ok, this may seem kind of bizarre... But there are no Arabic-speaking people in my area, so I couldn't think of anything else...

Can someone help me find out if my man is ok? I am worried about him. Right now he is in Egypt visiting his parents. But I am in the USA.

Suddenly, I have not been able to contact him! He is never online, never answers my IM's or emails. And that is extremely unusual for him! Normally he always does. I called his cell phone (I've spoken to him on it lots of times before, so I know I have the right one). Last time, some people answered in Arabic, but it wasn't him. I don't speak Arabic, so I don't know what they are saying. Usually he answers, and he always has his phone with him.

The last I heard from him, he said he was going to have a big confrontation with his ex wife's uncle and father, he said they were coming to his house. It was over property/money matters, because they are still fighting about all that, and they are being very nasty with him, like threats and all.

He has very severe asthma, and when he is in situations that upset him, sometimes he has an attack. One time he nearly died on the way to a hospital. So I am just very worried. I'm thinking a confrontation could have upset him too much, or things could have gotten physical with those men (because a week ago they tried to hit his brother!).

I'm worried since I haven't been hearing from him. So is there any possible way I could get someone to call the number and just say they are a friend, and ask how he is doing, if he is ok? Preferably a man? Culturally I don't know if his family would think much of a woman calling, and we haven't officially announced our engagement yet. We were gonna wait until I visited there, to announce it. I can't understand what the people on the phone are saying, so it doesn't help for me to call. I need someone who speaks Arabic to tell me what they say.

I need to know, did something happen? Or is his internet out? He lost his phone? Something? I guess what worries me, is that if it were just bad internet or a lost phone (and strange it would be both at the same time!), he would have found another way to contact me and let me know. So that scares me...

Help? I don't know any other way.

Bolded part above indicates she's not been there and his family doesn't know about her. Combined with the profile, it seems like they've not met in person yet.

[R and F 34]

Why exactly would he be talking to his ex wifes parents? As hard as this is to hear this, if a man is in love with you,not heaven or earth or skywriting will keep you apart. My guess is he is fine and probably with his own people at this point and YES I have been where you have been and the truth is usually as unpretty as it gets. If you have been together for a while and he is not contacting you , he may be getting ready to leave you when he returns to the states because NOT contacting you is NOT a good sign honestly. You need to brace yourself for a split when he returns.. NOT contacting you is a very very very bad sign for your relationship and you dont need to be blindsided with grief and pain when he arrives home. I am so sorry to be the one that tells you this but for whatever reason, alot of the women here havent been in the marriages long enough or after they have been dumped, stick around long enough to tell anyone else what happened. My guess is hes busy. You need to find something to occupy your time and if you are really engaged or this is something that is real....he will let you know. He might be getting engaged to a woman from back home or had second thoughts about your relationship..He has his status .. and most likely he is going to get someone from back home if anyone to be with , not an american that he cant be bothered to contact.

Sorry.. its horrible and hurtful but its better coming from another american than you living in la la land making up bs excuses for his piss poor behavior

Wow I remember going through this also with an online guy I met and who married another American while I we were still speaking on the net. He was gone for three weeks and during that time I had someone else investigate him and they told me he had married another woman. They have since divorced and he tried to contact me after getting to the states and I declined his offer. silliness indeed b :bonk:

Edited July 2, 2012 by R and F

[Mithra 1,185]

From the blurb in her profile she hints at needing to visit him more but it sounds like she has visited before. It's all kind of sketchy to me. Like he's visiting his parents in Egypt but he lives there and she needs to visit more but sounds like she's never been before. And now this whole story of him disappearing. It's odd.

[talean nawaz 41]

Does sound like an unpaid mahr...

Yes, I was thinking the same thing.

[Lisamarie 79]

I noticed that too, because from her profile it sounds like she's already been there. But her post contradicts that. I took it that he lives in Egypt but not near his parents? It's pretty confusing.

From the blurb in her profile she hints at needing to visit him more but it sounds like she has visited before. It's all kind of sketchy to me. Like he's visiting his parents in Egypt but he lives there and she needs to visit more but sounds like she's never been before. And now this whole story of him disappearing. It's odd.

[msheesha 548]

It must be my selective reading! I read it as before she files for the visa, she has to visit him "first"; it actually says visit more "more"!

Oooops - Monday morning reading. Sorry!

[Mithra 1,185]

If she never visited him before I would say maybe he did lose interest and he didn't know how to tell her so he just stopped answering his phone and IMs. It wouldn't be the first time this has happened.

Edited July 2, 2012 by Mithra

[msheesha 548]

It's too hard to tell with the little info given. However, one thing that sticks out is that his family doesn't know about her. Eh, not the greatest sign, imho.

[Mithra 1,185]

Definitely not the greatest sign. Esp. if they did meet in person already.

[~PalmTreeGurl~ 154]

I hope someone is able to help and find out.... my mind went back to the time Monicas hubby passed away while he was in Morocco and she was here. I hope its not a similar situation. Maybe the OP will come back and update us all!

[wife2be. 7]

Does he is your fiancé or husband?

is this question suppose to help her ?? huh

[bombyjuly 13]

is this question suppose to help her ?? huh

i just asked,because it seems contradictory she said he is in Egypt visiting his parents and she is here in usa,that sounded like if they were living here together and he is in travel now there in Egypt,and also she said his family dont know nothing about they engagement,and yes,for your curiosity this question can help her

[And_Sam 44]

Perhaps her SO works out of the country like in Saudi Arabia and is back in Egypt visitng his family.....It does happen.

Hope all is well.