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darcness   3

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I'm really having a hard time not stressing out about all of this right now. If you need some background on me and my wife and where things stand, check out my previous threads. I will give the cliffs notes again.

Met on a forum online, visited Canada many times and vice versa

Wife had .48 grams of marijuana in purse, was fined (not arrested) by CBP early 2010

Wife visited many times after this fine, no issues other than being in secondary EVERY time

Got married Nov. 26th 2011 in USA

Sent in AOS paperwork June 26th 2012

Basically when we got pulled into a random secondary, she had that small amount of marijuana in her purse. She had no idea it was even there, it was an ex's stuff anyway, not even hers. Unfortunately she did write on the paperwork that, paraphrased, "She some times used it back home to help her with insomnia." Other than this single incident she has no prior or since convictions, arrests, fines, use, or anything relating to drug offenses what so ever. Her criminal record in Canada is completely clean.

She wrote a letter of explanation of all of this with her I-485 form and we also included all the paperwork from this incident. There was no way we were going to hide anything because after all, it's all on file with the port of entry and no doubt USCIS now anyway.

At this point I'm just sick. I can't stop worrying about this. Reading some other stories here on VJ and other places hasn't helped either. The worst part about it is that she only said what she did because we were both terrified. They wanted some kind of explanation of why she had the marijuana and after being in secondary for 4 hours, separated, basically strip searched, and interrogated, she just wanted to go home.

How could she possibly even comprehend what ramifications that might have for us now? How would either of us know such a thing? How can we even begin to explain any of this to the IO if it's brought up (which I KNOW it will be) during our interview.

So far we've been honest about everything. We've given them full disclosure. I just can't see how we are going to get through this.

I've been through a divorce already once and it was one of the hardest things I've ever done in my life. I don't want to go through this again. If we end up apart, I can't see how to make things right. We love each other dearly and I WANT to spend the rest of my life with her, but can I really throw everything I have away here in the US to be with her? I can't see any other way if she gets denied. I'm so anxious about all of this. I can barely function at work and my mind is racing. It's only been two days! :help:

Sigh, all this because of one simple piece of paper that she HAD to write that on. If only we could turn back time...

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May 2009: Started talking on a forum online

June 2010: Met in person in Toronto Canada

April 2011: Proposed in Toronto (she accepted!)

September 2011: Last entry into the US (Michigan)

November 2011: Married in Michigan

6/26/12 Sent in I-130 and I-485 packets to Chicago Lock Box

6/27/12 Package delivered to Lock Box (FedEx tracking confirms)

7/02/12 NOA1 email and text message

7/03/12 Checks cashed for I-130 and I-485

7/06/12 Hard copy for NOA1's

7/09/12 Hard copy notice for biometrics on 7/30/12

7/30/12 Biometrics done (Detroit)

8/20/12 Hard copy for interview date on 9/18/12

9/18/12 Interview Date

10/31/12 EAD/AP card received

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Newbie608   103

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Just take a deep breath and relax. Everything will ok. You just have to wait and see what happens..It might even turn out to be not that serious. Just have faith and believe

Good luck...you should also join the Late May- June report progress forum so we can follow your timeline and support each other...:-)

AOS from F-1(Married to USC
06.08.12 - AOS mailed
09.18.12 - Interview.....Approved!!

ROC- Divorce Waiver
05/09/14- I-751 packet mailed to CSC
05/12/14- NOA1 Receipt date
07/01/14- Biometrics Appt

08/11/14- RFE received

09/08/14- RFE response received by USCIS

09/22/14- 10yrs GC Approved!!

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darcness   3

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Thank you so much for the kind words and voice of reason. I'm just having so much trouble with all of this. I hate to let my wife know because I need to be strong for her through all of this. If worse comes to worse, and I have to, I will move to Canada because I won't lose her. She's an amazing person and the best thing that's ever happened to me.

May 2009: Started talking on a forum online

June 2010: Met in person in Toronto Canada

April 2011: Proposed in Toronto (she accepted!)

September 2011: Last entry into the US (Michigan)

November 2011: Married in Michigan

6/26/12 Sent in I-130 and I-485 packets to Chicago Lock Box

6/27/12 Package delivered to Lock Box (FedEx tracking confirms)

7/02/12 NOA1 email and text message

7/03/12 Checks cashed for I-130 and I-485

7/06/12 Hard copy for NOA1's

7/09/12 Hard copy notice for biometrics on 7/30/12

7/30/12 Biometrics done (Detroit)

8/20/12 Hard copy for interview date on 9/18/12

9/18/12 Interview Date

10/31/12 EAD/AP card received

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Newbie608   103

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Also if it was that serious, they would send her back to Canada or even send her to jail, but none of that happen so just be positive throughout the whole process...

AOS from F-1(Married to USC
06.08.12 - AOS mailed
09.18.12 - Interview.....Approved!!

ROC- Divorce Waiver
05/09/14- I-751 packet mailed to CSC
05/12/14- NOA1 Receipt date
07/01/14- Biometrics Appt

08/11/14- RFE received

09/08/14- RFE response received by USCIS

09/22/14- 10yrs GC Approved!!

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I know the feeling of bieng anxious,but in the end worry won't by you any extra time.. In our minds we always have a plan on how we want our lives to be. But we are never , ever fully in control are we? If you have been blessed with a satisfying life here why wouldn't the creator bless you in Canada also?? So as the saying goes.. why worry if your going to pray.. It will all unfold how it should.. be strong, we have no other choice, do we? :thumbs:

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Peace ,

Chi

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darcness   3

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You are right Chi. This whole thing is just so nerve wracking. I was fine until we actually sent in the paperwork. Now all I do is worry all day.

May 2009: Started talking on a forum online

June 2010: Met in person in Toronto Canada

April 2011: Proposed in Toronto (she accepted!)

September 2011: Last entry into the US (Michigan)

November 2011: Married in Michigan

6/26/12 Sent in I-130 and I-485 packets to Chicago Lock Box

6/27/12 Package delivered to Lock Box (FedEx tracking confirms)

7/02/12 NOA1 email and text message

7/03/12 Checks cashed for I-130 and I-485

7/06/12 Hard copy for NOA1's

7/09/12 Hard copy notice for biometrics on 7/30/12

7/30/12 Biometrics done (Detroit)

8/20/12 Hard copy for interview date on 9/18/12

9/18/12 Interview Date

10/31/12 EAD/AP card received

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darcness   3

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Woke up today and the first thing I did was check here. Such will be my daily routine most likely for the next couple of months! :bonk:

May 2009: Started talking on a forum online

June 2010: Met in person in Toronto Canada

April 2011: Proposed in Toronto (she accepted!)

September 2011: Last entry into the US (Michigan)

November 2011: Married in Michigan

6/26/12 Sent in I-130 and I-485 packets to Chicago Lock Box

6/27/12 Package delivered to Lock Box (FedEx tracking confirms)

7/02/12 NOA1 email and text message

7/03/12 Checks cashed for I-130 and I-485

7/06/12 Hard copy for NOA1's

7/09/12 Hard copy notice for biometrics on 7/30/12

7/30/12 Biometrics done (Detroit)

8/20/12 Hard copy for interview date on 9/18/12

9/18/12 Interview Date

10/31/12 EAD/AP card received

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Woke up today and the first thing I did was check here. Such will be my daily routine most likely for the next couple of months! :bonk:

Soon you'll have your case numbers, and then you check the USCIS website obsessively too! :)

Good Luck! :thumbs:

AOS

5/16/2012 - Package delivered to Chicago Lockbox at 1:33pm

5/21/2012 - Email/text notifications received at 4:50 p.m.

5/26/2012 - NOA hard copies received for I-130, I-485 and I-765

6/19/2012 - Biometrics completed.

7/02/2012 - Text/email/hard copy notification of interview.

7/30/2012 - EAD card production ordered.

8/02/2012 - Interview @ 2:00

8/02/2012 - Email notification of GC production at 5:30pm

8/07/2012 - Second GC production email

8/07/2012 - EAD received.

8/08/2012 - GC mailed.

8/09/2012 - Welcome letter and I-130 approval letter received.

8/10/2012 - Green card received. :)

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darcness   3

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Soon you'll have your case numbers, and then you check the USCIS website obsessively too! :)

Good Luck! :thumbs:

Oh goodie, I look forward to it... :blink:

By the end of this process I'm sure we with both have a little more grey hair. I'm just praying everything goes well. My wife really misses her family and friends back home so it will be great when/if she can travel freely again. Just waiting for that NOA1 right now. :whistle:

May 2009: Started talking on a forum online

June 2010: Met in person in Toronto Canada

April 2011: Proposed in Toronto (she accepted!)

September 2011: Last entry into the US (Michigan)

November 2011: Married in Michigan

6/26/12 Sent in I-130 and I-485 packets to Chicago Lock Box

6/27/12 Package delivered to Lock Box (FedEx tracking confirms)

7/02/12 NOA1 email and text message

7/03/12 Checks cashed for I-130 and I-485

7/06/12 Hard copy for NOA1's

7/09/12 Hard copy notice for biometrics on 7/30/12

7/30/12 Biometrics done (Detroit)

8/20/12 Hard copy for interview date on 9/18/12

9/18/12 Interview Date

10/31/12 EAD/AP card received

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people have done far worst crimes than that and have gotten through without any problems

6/29/12 AOS Package mailed Chicago Lockbox

7/01/12 Package delivered

7/09/12 NOA email notification

7/14/12 Received hard copy of NOA in the mail

7/16/12 Received biometric appointment letter for 8/01/12

7/23/12 Successful walk in Biometrics

8/15/12 Received email for interview notice

8/17/12 Received interview notice in the mail

9/10/12 EAD card ordered, (didnt get email or text checked it on USCIS website)

9/18/12 EAD card received in the mail

9/18/12 Interview done, approved on the spot!

9/19/12 Got email that approval notice was mailed out on 9/18/12

9/22/12 Received Approval notice in the mail

9/24/12 Got email that greencard was sent in the mail

9/26/12 Received greencard in the mail, thank you lord!

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Good luck OP, try hard not to stress, stress can't make it easier, only harder!

We became a couple : 2011-05-29
I visited him : 2011-10-28 - 2011-11-17
He visited me (and my crazy family) : 2012-02-05 - 2012-02-17
I-129F Sent : 2012-02-05
I-129F NOA1 : 2012-02-14
I entered on VWP to stay 3 months: 2012-04-11 - 2012-07-03
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Went to get my medical done for interview in Australia (much cheaper in the US and I was already here):2012-05-20
Medical issue diagnosed
K-1 petition cancellation request sent to CSC : 2012-06-01
Married: 2012-06-21
Filed for AOS : 2012-08-08
NOA1 : 2012-08-10
Biometrics : 2012-09-14
EAD approved : 2012-10-16
Applied for SSN : 2012-11-01
Received SSN : 2012-11-13
Received interview notice :2012-12-27
Interview- APPROVED :2013-01-28
Green card received :2013-02-04
Baby girl born :2013-03-09

Filed for ROC :2014-12-05
NOA :2014-12-11
Biometrics : 2015-01-15

ROC Approval : 2015-05-14

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Thank you both so much for the kind and encouraging words. I'm starting to calm down a little bit about it now. Had a talk with my wife about it and let her know how I was feeling. Sometimes I try to hold in my emotions and that only makes things worse in the end. I just feel like I'm the man, I should be the strong one. However, she's seen me at my worst and so I know she isn't going anywhere and it's nothing she hasn't seen before.

Xanax, funny user name. I have GAD myself and so I'm familiar with the whole medication thing. On Zoloft right now though and doing pretty well. Just stress about things like this now, as I probably should to a certain extent.

May 2009: Started talking on a forum online

June 2010: Met in person in Toronto Canada

April 2011: Proposed in Toronto (she accepted!)

September 2011: Last entry into the US (Michigan)

November 2011: Married in Michigan

6/26/12 Sent in I-130 and I-485 packets to Chicago Lock Box

6/27/12 Package delivered to Lock Box (FedEx tracking confirms)

7/02/12 NOA1 email and text message

7/03/12 Checks cashed for I-130 and I-485

7/06/12 Hard copy for NOA1's

7/09/12 Hard copy notice for biometrics on 7/30/12

7/30/12 Biometrics done (Detroit)

8/20/12 Hard copy for interview date on 9/18/12

9/18/12 Interview Date

10/31/12 EAD/AP card received

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Thank you both so much for the kind and encouraging words. I'm starting to calm down a little bit about it now. Had a talk with my wife about it and let her know how I was feeling. Sometimes I try to hold in my emotions and that only makes things worse in the end. I just feel like I'm the man, I should be the strong one. However, she's seen me at my worst and so I know she isn't going anywhere and it's nothing she hasn't seen before.

Xanax, funny user name. I have GAD myself and so I'm familiar with the whole medication thing. On Zoloft right now though and doing pretty well. Just stress about things like this now, as I probably should to a certain extent.

Indeed...I very much doubt it will be a big issue. Relax...breathe in....breathe out.

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July 2005 - met my awesome, hot, amazing love in Lousiana.
July 2006 - Married said love and moved to Canada.
June 2011 - Entered US to visit family, decided to stay.
Feb. 2012 - Sent paperwork to Chicago.

May 2012 - Received green card.

Day 0 - Package sent to Chicago Lockbox - 02/27/2012
Day 2 - UPS Tracking Confirmation - 02/29/2012
Day 4 - NOA Emails Received - 03/02/2012
Day 7 - All Checks Cashed - 03/05/2012
Day 11 - Hard Copy NOA's Received - 03/09/2012
Day 11 - Biometrics Appointment Received - 03/09/2012
--------- - Booked for - 04/03/2012 (day 36)
Day 35 - Early Biometricts Walk-in - 04/02/2012
Day 44 - Received Appointment Letter - 04/11/2012
Day 58 - EAD Approval Online - 04/25/2012
Day 63 - EAD in the mail - 04/30/2012
Day 65 - EAD in hand - 05/02/2012
Day 77 - AOS Interview - 05/14/2012
Day 77 - AOS Approved!
Day 84 - Green Card In Hand - 05/21/2012

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Inadmissible is inadmissible. It applies for non-immigrant as well as immigrant admissions. If they admitted her multiple times after that incident then CBP obviously doesn't consider her to be inadmissible. CBP probably has her flagged for secondary inspection because a second incident would make her inadmissible without question. USCIS should allow her to adjust status.

12/15/2009 - K1 Visa Interview - APPROVED!

12/29/2009 - Married in Oakland, CA!

08/18/2010 - AOS Interview - APPROVED!

05/01/2013 - Removal of Conditions - APPROVED!

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This is true Jim, thank you for helping to rationalize this whole thing. I just gave my wife a huge kiss and told her how much in love with her I am. I can't wait until all this is behind us. No matter what though, we will be together and we will make it through. Thanks to VJ it only strengthens our resolve! :thumbs:

May 2009: Started talking on a forum online

June 2010: Met in person in Toronto Canada

April 2011: Proposed in Toronto (she accepted!)

September 2011: Last entry into the US (Michigan)

November 2011: Married in Michigan

6/26/12 Sent in I-130 and I-485 packets to Chicago Lock Box

6/27/12 Package delivered to Lock Box (FedEx tracking confirms)

7/02/12 NOA1 email and text message

7/03/12 Checks cashed for I-130 and I-485

7/06/12 Hard copy for NOA1's

7/09/12 Hard copy notice for biometrics on 7/30/12

7/30/12 Biometrics done (Detroit)

8/20/12 Hard copy for interview date on 9/18/12

9/18/12 Interview Date

10/31/12 EAD/AP card received

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