Less and Less Communication

[january7th 7]

Well I read the posts and use advice and call my fiance.... He doesnt answer phone

first two time. Then Third try he finally answer phone. Then I ask him if he is not

want to talk anymore that much. And he tell me hes too busy now to talk about it.

Then I ask him again, whats the problem about this, why you dont talk to me anymore,

or email again everyday like before. Then he just make excuse about why he cant do that

again. Then I keep asking , just tell me truth about whats all about.

My worst fear is real now, He tell me that hes been spending time with other woman there.

She like him alot , and he just started to go have talk and dinner and thing with her.

Then he said when he alone at her house , she want to have boom boom with him. And he

couldnt resist her temptation. Now he say, he been having boom boom with this other woman

because Im not there yet. And he need to do that, because man need to do that , and cant

wait for me now, but when Im there he only want to be with me then.

Im so mad now about it, Im not sure if I should feel that way now. I think Im understand about

what he say. Maybe man need to do that always, and Im not good fiance because not be able to

take care of his need now, so he need other woman to do that for him until Im there.

Im not sure if I can believe about him Love me now, or if its true yet. I want to marry him

and dont want other woman to be around when Im there . Maybe he still see that woman if Im marry

him, but he said he wont do that.

Im really confused about whats next thing to do now. He said only he do that when Im here , not when

Im there with him married.

Please tell what you think about it.

Im sorry everyone about Bad Topic, I hope your Journey is good one to you.

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WOW!!! I can't believe he did that to you. You know, as I can see.. there's no "love" between of you. He did "boom boom" while you were waiting to come to the US? He cheated on you. If I am in your situation, I will not look forward to see him or wait for the paper to get approve, It doesn't matter anymore. I don't care. I rather stay away or not to talk.. enough explanation from him for telling the truth. He never think of you instead he just let himself playing on fire.

I am also mad to that kind of man. They go hell.

[Andy & Rena 2]

Hi everyone, Im here asking for advice. Im a Filipina in Love with American man.

He is the most wonderful thing that ever happen to me. When he was here with me

I felt like part of Heaven.

He filed for K1 visa in February and still waiting for NOA2. But recently He has not

make good effort to stay in contact with me. He used to email me every day, sometimes

two times day. Now Im lucky if He email me two times week. Sometimes he text me

but not too much. He says I Love You , but now not sure if true.

Im thinking about if he has girlfriend in the U.S. and hes not time for me anymore.

He used to be more willing to email me and contact me everyday. Now not anymore.

Should I ask him about if he has girlfriend ? or should I tell him Im done with relationship,

until he can make better effort with me ?

Im really sad about this, and dont know what to do. He still says , I Love You , but

how can I know if he doesnt want to talk with me.

Please, need help about what to do.

Sorry about that. Being a miles away from you is not an excuse to sleep with other woman, if he loves you he will wait. Its not guarantee that when you come there he will stop seeing this woman. Broke up with him and move on with your life. YOu deserve a good man.

[Emmysaur 29]

Don't settle for a man who uses your absence as an excuse to cheat on you. You deserve better.

[actob99 156]

NEXT!! Time to move on and find a real man.. He is weak and you will only have probems if you stay because there is no trust.

[aaydrian 479]

Just to add. You being in the US won't stop your fiance from boom booming the neighbours, his coworkers, your coworkers, girls he meets on the net or females he meets innocently enough at the grocery store.

[Tahoma 2,292]

Please tell what you think about it.

You should have your head examined for even thinking about marrying a cheater and a liar.

[Cathi 5,795]

Why in the world would you EVER even think of staying with a man who is sleeping with another woman? He is a dog!!!!!!!!!!! Men don't "need" to have sex, he can use his hand and not another woman if he is that desperate. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Not to mention the fact that you have no idea what kind of diseases he could be getting. You are a fool if you even consider staying with this man!!!!!!!

[Mogambi 96]

No need to make personal attacks against this person. Be nice to her. She didn't do anything wrong. When love is involved, rational heads do not prevail. That's why she posted here, she needed guidance. For a lot of people from poorer countries, the promise of a new life with someone they truly love is a strong emotion. Pretty hard I would think to 'walk away' from what you thought would be your entire new life. So be easy on her.

It's very easy for us to say 'My god what a pig, walk away'. And I truly also believe he is not a good man at all for behaving that way, and she should find someone better than him. He is a lying cheater and he will not change.

But we don't need to call her a fool. Show some compassion.

[B_J 2,752]

No need to make personal attacks against this person. Be nice to her. She didn't do anything wrong. When love is involved, rational heads do not prevail. That's why she posted here, she needed guidance. For a lot of people from poorer countries, the promise of a new life with someone they truly love is a strong emotion. Pretty hard I would think to 'walk away' from what you thought would be your entire new life. So be easy on her.

It's very easy for us to say 'My god what a pig, walk away'. And I truly also believe he is not a good man at all for behaving that way, and she should find someone better than him. He is a lying cheater and he will not change.

But we don't need to call her a fool. Show some compassion.

For the OP, this is just my opinion, but if you accept his excuse for cheating on you, he could just take that as permission to cheat again. Why should he do the right thing if you'll accept him doing the wrong thing?

[VirtualLee 12]

Things Happen for a REASON.

Time to move on, instead of thinking negative about him on why this and that

happened, focus and do something beneficial for yourself, like find a

work---work hard-- improve your life... and you'll be surprise in the end

you'll find contentment and along the way there is someone waiting for you.

Cheer Up .. Not the end of the world

[Tahoma 2,292]

I think Im understand about what he say.

I want to marry him

No need to make personal attacks against this person.

But we don't need to call her a fool. Show some compassion.

There's a difference between calling someone a fool and pointing out foolish behavior. Knowingly marrying a cheater and a liar is indeed foolish behavior, and that's precisely what the OP wants to do. The OP needs professional help.

Also, the OP is getting lots of compassion on this thread. However, she also needs a wake-up call.

[~happyndinlove~ 540]

I am a "Once a cheater always a cheater" believer.

In my book, there's no justification and there's no forgiveness. Sorry to hear your trouble but, time to move on.

Edited June 28, 2012 by ~happyndinlove~

[Calypso 464]

Don't be a pushover. Don't turn a blind eye.

I don't recommend that you marry out of desperation, whether it's desperation to be with someone you think you love and know enough or desperation to come to the US. Thanks to your fiance, you are even blaming yourself for not satisfying his carnal desires. If he could manipulate you like this from a thousand miles away, it wouldn't be any different when you're beside him.

Grow a backbone, dump this guy and learn to respect yourself. That can be done in any order.

Edited June 28, 2012 by Calypso

[Gary and Joybel 2]

Very sorry to read this string. I am a man and I have been been waiting for my Fiance for 143 days+...The needs I have can only be met by my Fiance, not some other woman. I know it hurts to hear, but your man is a loser. You sound like a wonderful woman. Keep looking Dear. You will find him.

[JulietteandRob 5]

Thank You for all Reply, I appreciate much . Im sorry to have such bad topic here.

After read posts from all, I make my decision about . First I am thinking , I give

him chance to be faithful when Im with him, but when I read post I change my thinking

again, and now have make decision.

Im going to broke up with my Fiance, Its really hurt my feeling to do that, but I dont

want to be a woman who put up with that kind of thing. If I want to be with man who do

that then I have to share with other woman my husband. I dont want to be that kind of person.

Im really, really sad now. I think its most sad ever in my life time. I cry all night long,

and dont sleep well. I think if I marry to this person he will make me cry again, and again.

Im going to call him today and tell him , no more for us. Im dont want a man who cannot wait

to be with me, and make other woman happy when Im not here.

Im Journey is over now, Please thank you for your support, and I hope all your

Journey is better than mine, good luck to all of you ....