second visit wise.. or keep new position at work?

[mrsbourffada 3]

You already did something you may regret. I am with foreverwaiting... marrying in the 1st visit and not returning is shooting yourself in the head- in most MENA countries. We will never be able to predict if you'll be approved, denied or put in a lengthy AP/ AR process, but is looking like the stereotypical pattern that triggers denials or lengthy AP's out of Morocco. I don't understand why would you be demoted if you take your vacation. I don't think that's legal!

For $100 less, it isn't worth. You can clean houses, babysit... whatever for a month and make extra $200.

Good luck!

You're right, I can probably make up the extra cash pretty easily. The more you guys have responded and put in your opinion, the more I have thought about it. I am definitely going to go back in late August or early September which will be before we even reallly get into the nvc stage. Their problem with me going is that I just got back from a five week vacation to Morocco in the midddle of March.

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

We are the same age. He's Muslim, and I make no claim to any religion. I want to go see him badly, and have considered visiting him after I submit the affidavit of support, but I have worries that submitting the affidavit knowing that I will not make that much money after I get this demotion has some ramifications.

I'd keep your job. You are the same age and it doesnt sound like you have a lot of red flags.. You could always take a ridiculously SHORT visit and not blow your income situation like a fly through the night and stay there a couple of days and then turn around.

In this day and age, I would hold on your job more than anything. I don't think it really matters to Casa. They already make their decisions in my opinion on age and how you look as a couple for the most part anyway. There are plenty of people who have had several visits that still got ap and you dont have flags so I wouldnt screw up your money situations

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

You're right, I can probably make up the extra cash pretty easily. The more you guys have responded and put in your opinion, the more I have thought about it. I am definitely going to go back in late August or early September which will be before we even reallly get into the nvc stage. Their problem with me going is that I just got back from a five week vacation to Morocco in the midddle of March.

Are you sure that messing up your job is worth all of that? I honestly don't think several visits really matter. Some of the people had several visits and a buttload of ap. I would have lots of evidence and maybe a short visit. I would not mess up your work situation. Your job is what will carry you while you end up supporting both of you while he struggles to find work in this very tough economy. I have seen plenty of people approved with one visit and several denied with several. You don't have the age difference and it doesnt sound like you have a ton of red flags like being old enough to be his mom or married and divorced enough time to have frequent flyer card for vegas...I think how the couple look together matters but that is a very sore subject for some

She might work it out with me if I left for just a week. However, I just got back from Morocco in March. That's why she's being resistant to the idea that I'm taking more vacation time. I don't know how long the demotion would last.... it could be a month, or it could be a year. I don't like the idea of a co-sponsor either. I don't know if it makes a difference, but my Dad and I are part of the same household. He's retired and disabled. I look after him. the visit that I'm planning would fall at about 6.5 months after our marriage and could possibly be right as our NOA2 comes.

My Husband says he doesn't care that I'm going to make less money, he wants to see me. I want to go see him badly. I just don't want the couple of weeks of pleasure that going to see him brings delay our being reunited on a permanent level.

I think a week makes a lot of sense.. more than screwing your whole job to hell and having to find a co sponsor

[Mithra 1,185]

Yeah I wouldn't go for more than a week considering how much you're needed at your job. You'll have your whole life ahead of you to spend with your husband. I know you would probably love to stay longer with him its not worth it in the long run. A week is enough to show you still have ties and you can write a nice letter explaining why you couldn't stay longer or go more often.

[msheesha 548]

Not sure where you are but with that experience (it sounds like group home or residential) you can get a bunch of jobs - psych tech at psych hospital (adolescent unit), group home, residential, school aide, TSS worker, etc etc etc. If you're demoted you can grab a part time or fee for service job to get you over the money requirement. A boss who threatens demotion of a good staff member because she wants to see her husband isn't a great boss!!

[sandinista! 1,816]

While I went to Morocco twice, I only had one "documented" visit with pictures and everything of us together. We are close in age, same religious beliefs, etc, this is my 2nd marriage, and I already had a child from that marriage. That single visit the consulate evaluated was adequate for my then fiancé's visa approval. Is there that big of a difference between a marriage visa and a fiancé visa in a case with seemingly not a whole lot in the way of red flags for Casablanca like the OP?

Stress over money, jobs, etc is huge amongst a lot of MENA couples, post arrival in the US. I would not discount that.

[sandinista! 1,816]

Adding, while the OP only visited once, it does sound like a substantial amount of time she was there.

[msheesha 548]

I also agree that if the one week visit is possible while still keeping the promotion, do the one week visit. Did you say that was an option?

[mrsbourffada 3]

I can go for a week. I don't think she can justify demoting me if I leave for one week. Is a week enough though? This is both of our first time being married, we are the same age, I spent over a month there the first time and I have no religious affiliation. I was just concerned that one visit isn't enough to prove ongoing marital relationship and that going one week the second time would be looked at as an attempt to just squeeze in a visit for posterity. I know that MENA consulates are hard enough without having red flags.

[msheesha 548]

If a week is what you are able to get off from work then that is enough. If they ask at the interview he can explain it to them. Different places have different vacation benefits. The co's should be aware of that. If you can get off for a week without sacrificing your job then that's the best of both worlds.

[sandinista! 1,816]

Is your husband super devout or religiously observant? You not being so might be a red flag if he is, but if he isn't, it's not been any big deal for several couples who have received visas from that consulate with similar demographics.

You might be a teensy bit over-analyzing things with the "maybe they'll think it's just a squeezed in trip for posterity". But maybe not. It's a weird, unpredictable consulate in so many ways, but from what you've shared here you seem to have far fewer big, glaring, giant, and weird red flags than a lot of people who have come out of that consulate successful. Best of luck with whatever you end up able to do.

[Moh&Tamz 3]

It is not a fun situation to be in when you are apart from your loved one. I think a week visit would do you good and wouldn't hurt your process. Just do what you think is best in the end. HUGS!!!

[pushbrk 12,881]

If a week is what you are able to get off from work then that is enough. If they ask at the interview he can explain it to them. Different places have different vacation benefits. The co's should be aware of that. If you can get off for a week without sacrificing your job then that's the best of both worlds.

Nobody knows what will be "enough".

[Jenn! 918]

It would be a no brainer for me now. Do not jeopardize your job. Back in the visa process I probably would have rationalized a trip just because I missed him.

[meno-is-mine 37]

Being that you were JUST there in March for a long time, I would say don't jeopardize your job. Perhaps wait until the AOS is sent off. Even then, don't neglect your job so easily in this struggling economy. IF you can get away with a week off without demotion/repercussion then do so. Otherwise, delay your travels a bit until you're done with NVC and waiting for interview. Good luck in your decision!!!