She wants to go back Home (Philippines)

[AlexJane 2]

I don't know were to start? She want's me to give up my two young boys to my X who is the none custodial parent. She wants her own family/kids....mmhmhm Well of course,, I understand

I said! She also can not find work. .,,,so she wants to go back.?

[Bule&Cantik 8]

I don't know were to start? She want's me to give up my two young boys to my X who is the none custodial parent. She wants her own family/kids....mmhmhm Well of course,, I understand

I said! She also can not find work. .,,,so she wants to go back.?

So sorry for your troubles.

Probably not about kids or work. Issue could be her fitting in to USA.

Does she have other friends that immigrate also?

Also....has she visit home yet after arrive USA? Could be homesick. Grass is always greener kinda thing.....

Good luck to you both

Edited June 25, 2012 by Bule&Cantik

[Dana-Mića 51]

I am sorry about the situation but no woman/man is worth giving up your kids. That is selfish of her to ask.

[Bule&Cantik 8]

I am sorry about the situation but no woman/man is worth giving up your kids. That is selfish of her to ask.

Agree, but tat isn't the problem IMO. That is symptom.

[Ning 619]

I don't know were to start? She want's me to give up my two young boys to my X who is the none custodial parent. She wants her own family/kids....mmhmhm Well of course,, I understand

I said! She also can not find work. .,,,so she wants to go back.?

Incredible. She just found out you have these children with you? And now after arriving here tells you to sit them down and tell them they have to go? This is the most selfish thing I have seen here for quite awhile. I would never ask such a thing nor agree to it with anyone.

I would worry about the future demands and reactions.

[Bule&Cantik 8]

Incredible. She just found out you have these children with you? And now after arriving here tells you to sit them down and tell them they have to go? This is the most selfish thing I have seen here for quite awhile. I would never ask such a thing nor agree to it with anyone.

I would worry about the future demands and reactions.

Agree with this.

No matter what your decision. Problems will persist as long as problems continue.

[Ontarkie 14,407]

Moved to Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits, from IR-1/CR-1 forum as it is not a related question.

[DandT14 272]

I don't know were to start? She want's me to give up my two young boys to my X who is the none custodial parent. She wants her own family/kids....mmhmhm Well of course,, I understand

I said! She also can not find work. .,,,so she wants to go back.?

I hope I misunderstood you.

Your new wife wants you to give up custody of your two young boys, because she wants her own? Great. Tell her to go find a guy who doesn't have children. I hope you're not even considering this. Put her on the first plane back.

Do you have any idea the damage it would do to your boys if you ship them off, essentially reject them, in favor of "new" kids? You can't do that to them. If she doesn't want your boys then she doesn't want you. End this before she gets pregnant. She will never treat your boys like her own. Don't hurt them that way, please.

[mrsean 4]

you have children!tell her good by and send her home

[jaytin 6]

Iam a filipina and I feel so ashamed with the attitude of your wife. Don't let your kids go, sorry to tell, but your wife is so selfish.

[Miss M 54]

Wow, this is truly sad. Surely she knew that you had kids before she married you, and that you are the custodial parent.

If she really wants to go home, let her because now it is clear that she doesn't like living with your kids which might result in the kids being ill treated in your absence. I am not saying that she would do it, but better safe than sorry, right?

As much as it might be a symptom of a larger problem that has nothing to do with the kids per se, no parent should ever be forced to choose between their children and a spouse.

Good luck with this.

[VirtualLee 12]

Sorry to hear about your wife wanting your own kids out of your custody. But it's not right, if she does really love then she will also love your kids

As her own. Try to talk to her again but if she still insist her wants then thats the time you send her back.

[myj and mya 1]

Sorry to hear that, my husband to be has two children i love both of them and im excited to be with them soon, how come she is telling you like that, to give up your kids

its selfish.... i feel ashamed of what she is telling...

[CaMhae 7]

maybe a mis understanding ..only u guys can solve the problem..writing here and letting everybody knows about the situation is not good to both of you..both of you need to sit and talk and you guys will understand each other. if still didnt work try counseling...im pretty sure you love each other and sending her back to her country is NOT or NEVEr a good advise.its easy for them to say things like that because they r not in ur shoes..goodluck!!!

[BethandBilly 86]

NEVER EVER give up your kids, they are your blood, you created them. I knew when I met my husband he had children, we've been together years and have our own child, but no way would I want him to give up his kids, in fact we're getting ready to fight for sole custody from their abusive Mother. The poster saying never send her back, well honestly if she is making you choose your kids or her, then you choose the kids, she knew the situation before she arrived in the US, pack her bags and send her back. If she stays she is going to drive a wedge between you and your kids, don't have children with this woman as the boys you have now will never be treated equally and trust me when I say this your kids will never forgive you.

Here's the thing, you give up your boys, go back to PI with her, you have kids with her and then she tells you to leave, or you guys never manage to have kids and she tells you to leave, then what do you have? You have given everything up for this woman and your boys will never forgive you for giving up on them, I know I wouldn't and I know I didn't. I have a very strained relationship with my Dad, when he gave us up to be with another woman and raise her kids, I have no respect for my Dad and even to this day I resent him for not put us first (I have a brother).

If you give your boys up you are going to make a huge mistake and regret it always, which will eventually drive a wedge between and the woman, you will have lost everything!