my Izabela will be here friday evening !!

[Nich-Nick 3,354]

I guess the great bit is that unless there's a 180 from her, you two aren't gonna get married. That's a big plus, IMO.

With a CR1 visa, I'm assuming they are married.

[Pooky 3,781]

Scott,

I seriously doubt these are "adjustment pains" of any kind. From your descriptions. This goes way deeper than that. I also sense that your current interactions are completely different from the previous times you two have been together. Would that be fair to say?

A long while back, there was another poster on here, who made it less than 2 days before they boarded a flight back to the UK, and never came back. It's not unheard of for the ome immigrating to have a change of heart and think the process has all been a big mistake, regardless of their prior personal feelings for the USC.

You and Izabella have a big decision to make, sooner, rather than later. Good luck to both of you.

Edited June 30, 2012 by Pooky

[ScottnIzabela 25]

yeah we married.

and yes totally opposite of what i was "sold" on. 5 days of odd jokes about getting greencard and not needing me any more.

and today i spoke with her and she says she doesnt remember kicking me. no memory at all.

so yeah i am really wondering #######? i do think i ll go and call nvc/immigration about fraud. and in the sense of a one sided argument here.... yeah i understand

this is my view. but my friends will vouch for me. so will my kids. this is just a load of poo i wish i never had.

typical abuser actions today. ridiculing my version of what happened. telling me i am delusional. calling me the abuser. and on and on. i grew up that way and have never

followed the pattern. i talk, and i love my kids and have always told them so often and huged and kissed them like mad.

yes i am a man, yes i am cantankerous and akward and stubborn as can be. but abusive? no.

never said anything bad to a partner, all have been over weight and have never ever said an ill word of that. never about their jobs, not their kids not their incomes. and in 5 days

i have been told over and over again i can do nothing right.eat drink walk wash myself --nothing was ever up to par with her.

i guess i am trying to make sense of someone who is abusive and wont even consider that i can be right and she can be wrong.

she said she never been with anyone and fight like this. i guess because she browbeats them into submission. bullies dont like it when you stand up to their bull sheet.

so again i am trying to make sense of madness.

Scott,

I seriously doubt these are "adjustment pains" of any kind. From your descriptions. This goes way deeper than that. I also sense that your current interactions are completely different from the previous times you two have been together. Would that be fair to say?

A long while back, there was another poster on here, who made it less than 2 days before they boarded a flight back to the UK, and never came back. It's not unheard of for the ome immigrating to have a change of heart and think the process has all been a big mistake, regardless of their prior personal feelings for the USC.

You and Izabella have a big decision to make, sooner, rather than later. Good luck to both of you.

[ScottnIzabela 25]

i am unsure what if anything immigration will do but i have my appointment thursday. getting divorce papers today. and enrolling back to finish my classes.

[Pooky 3,781]

i am unsure what if anything immigration will do but i have my appointment thursday. getting divorce papers today. and enrolling back to finish my classes.

Best of luck, Scott.

[cathy2904 97]

So sorry to hear this. I wish you all the best.

[ScottnIzabela 25]

So sorry to hear this. I wish you all the best.

to me this is inexcuseble. all this way and all this effort and quit 5 days in. i am crushed.....taking it really hard tonight.

[Holly2234 66]

I hope things improve for you in time.

[ScottnIzabela 25]

well i made my info pass appointment and here is what i learned.

since she left at 5 days the officer is ordering her file to this field office. i filled out a form, and am withdrawing my petition. i ll also put in the file the divorce papers as quick as i can.

we have no mingled finances,property and never lived together.

he also made a note in her file that she must attend the interview for the two year mark where she would apply for the next card good for ten??? years?

and they they ask her "did you enter the marriage in good faith" and with 5 days and divorce papers......

and since i did this before she tried to accuse me of abuse, which there is none. no evidence and no police report and they were called. otherwise she can apply as abused spouse and nothing except her commiting a felony can over turn that.

so i was thinking beyond our obvious issues. for those of you who come here do you not think maybe be a bit nicer than normal? i mean, with no friends and no support to come here like she did and say this is how i am too bad if you dont like it....why bring an attitude that will alienate the people who are there and will help you no matter what? sorry....

again i am trying to make sense of something that cant be made sense of.

good luck to all of you. keep your dreams alive and going .

i need to find new ones now.

scott

[TracyTN 237]

I think most foreign spouses come here and act as nicely as they can under what is an unusual circumstance (leaving all you know and your home country behind). I think your wife is just an exception to that rule.

Glad you got the information you needed.

[cathy2904 97]

I think most foreign spouses come here and act as nicely as they can under what is an unusual circumstance (leaving all you know and your home country behind). I think your wife is just an exception to that rule.

[ScottnIzabela 25]

TRACY AND CATHY I THINK YOU BOTH ARE CORRECT darn caps lock hahaha

been thinking on this off and on all week. why push away those who would support you? this just makes no sense to me at all.and why hurt the one who means the most in the whole country?

oh well i guess i get to learn to accept the unacceptable now. and i did not mean to "be nicer than normal" i meant it in the way that i would have been. be nice and open and not make enemies straight away.

i would expect anyone i like and respect to hold their ground and beliefs. but to nit pick and go on like what i had to me...i totally do not get it.

[ScottnIzabela 25]

it seems now all contact is now ended.i should have cash and papers set for aug 15th filing for divorce.

it doesnt seem right. all the e mails and all our phone calls and our hopes and dreams.

it is all nothing now.empty promises and delusional dreams.

[cathy2904 97]

I feel so sad for you - her behaviour seems inexplicable. But things will get better for you eventually.

[ScottnIzabela 25]

today i got some e mails from her. she actually said "it just didnt work out' I WAS LIKE LMAO 3 of our 5 days i worked.

so yeah it wont work when you dont even try.

oh well i am as over it as i can be for now. the things she says are just incredible.

move 7 thousand miles and ###### most of the 5 days and then say "it just didnt work out"

and thank you cathy

i actually feel better now than i ever thought i would. i did everything in good faith and gave a real effort. i had a long successful marriage before-- i know how i am.

she has never had any long term anything with anyone. i did not quit a marriage over a fight. and i did not hit anyone ever. i am alone because of another's actions and inablility

or unwillingness to try.

now to get my divorce filed and get back to my classes and live my life as i want it to be.