COUSIN'S HUSBAND MARRIED HER FOR GC

[sarah86 8]

Hi everyone,

I have few questions. The topic title and description pretty much sums up the issue. My cousin's husband married her only as a way to come to the US and eventually become a citizen and this was obvious from the beginning to everyone else and im sure her mother warned her over and over again but for some unfortunate reasons she decided to go ahead with the marriage.

I dont know the exact date they got married but they do have a daughter thats about at least 3 years old I think and he hasnt become a citizen yet. If the details are important for you guys to help me out i can get them. Anyway, he actually basically 'deported' her out of US back to her country, he put her and the child on a plane and just sent them away to her parents, and she told me he beat her just prior to this incident, and she didnt say anything but perhaps she was beat even several times before this one as well.

she told me she knows he has cheated on her and that he is still cheating on her, they are technically still married.

What can she do to get him deported? I wasnt going to say this but perhaps you guys might be more inclined to help, I dont know her exact condition but although she can live a normal life ie. get married have kids etc, she is a little bit mentally challenged, hence why it was obvious from the start that this moron was marrying her for the one reason only.

PLEASE HELP HER:( THANX

[Ontarkie 14,143]

Moved to Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits as this is not a CR1 Topic, and you will get more responses here.

[sarah86 8]

I wasnt sure where to post. Thank you.

Moved to Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits as this is not a CR1 Topic, and you will get more responses here.

[JohnR! 5,495]

Hi everyone,

I have few questions. The topic title and description pretty much sums up the issue. My cousin's husband married her only as a way to come to the US and eventually become a citizen and this was obvious from the beginning to everyone else and im sure her mother warned her over and over again but for some unfortunate reasons she decided to go ahead with the marriage.

I dont know the exact date they got married but they do have a daughter thats about at least 3 years old I think and he hasnt become a citizen yet. If the details are important for you guys to help me out i can get them. Anyway, he actually basically 'deported' her out of US back to her country, he put her and the child on a plane and just sent them away to her parents, and she told me he beat her just prior to this incident, and she didnt say anything but perhaps she was beat even several times before this one as well.

she told me she knows he has cheated on her and that he is still cheating on her, they are technically still married.

What can she do to get him deported? I wasnt going to say this but perhaps you guys might be more inclined to help, I dont know her exact condition but although she can live a normal life ie. get married have kids etc, she is a little bit mentally challenged, hence why it was obvious from the start that this moron was marrying her for the one reason only.

PLEASE HELP HER:( THANX

I am not sure if she can do to get him deported and IMHO that should not be her most immediate concern.

First and foremost as soon as she is back stateside, she should file a police report and press charges for his abusive behavior. Considering that time has passed and she did not report it at once, she may not be able to press charges, but in the least, she should file a report and ask for a restraining order so he cant hurt her or abuse her anymore.

Following that she could consider divorcing him, and she can do it even against his will and she can ask for full custody of their child.

Once she has freed herself from his grip - physically, emotionally and legally - she will be in a position to move on with her life.

In terms of immigration, if she can't have him deported, she can at least refuse to cooperate with any immigration requirements that might call for her involvement.

[Sandra G. 5,038]

As far i understood she is american correct? Well she can come back to US go the police office and file a police report because of the violence she suffered,if she fears for her life she can get a restraining order against him.Well they have a child together and they are living together for 3 years to prove a sham marriage won't be easy and I doubt she will be able to prove at this point.

[Anh map 2,098]

Report the abuse, divorce and move on. She can report his abuse to ICE but it's not likely that anything will be done. Most important is to divorce the abuser and create a safe life.

[bsd058 296]

Hi everyone,

I have few questions. The topic title and description pretty much sums up the issue. My cousin's husband married her only as a way to come to the US and eventually become a citizen and this was obvious from the beginning to everyone else and im sure her mother warned her over and over again but for some unfortunate reasons she decided to go ahead with the marriage.

I dont know the exact date they got married but they do have a daughter thats about at least 3 years old I think and he hasnt become a citizen yet. If the details are important for you guys to help me out i can get them. Anyway, he actually basically 'deported' her out of US back to her country, he put her and the child on a plane and just sent them away to her parents, and she told me he beat her just prior to this incident, and she didnt say anything but perhaps she was beat even several times before this one as well.

she told me she knows he has cheated on her and that he is still cheating on her, they are technically still married.

What can she do to get him deported? I wasnt going to say this but perhaps you guys might be more inclined to help, I dont know her exact condition but although she can live a normal life ie. get married have kids etc, she is a little bit mentally challenged, hence why it was obvious from the start that this moron was marrying her for the one reason only.

PLEASE HELP HER:( THANX

How did he deport her? Is she a US Citizen or Permanent Resident? If she is either, then she may be able to come back if comes back soon.

Also, in order to enter into contract a person must be shown to be mentally competant. If she is not competant to enter into contract, then the Affidavit of Support would become void (treated as though it never existed). She would probably need a lawyer for this. In this way, it could be proven that the current GC holder could be deported based upon a void Affidavit of Support. I'm not sure if there is a statue of limitations on the government deciding to revoke a Green Card. They decided already that he can be admitted so I'm not sure if they can decide the opposite based upon a voided AOS.

If she can contract, then she took him on as a risk. She is responsible for him financially. There is nothing she can do about it. Afterall, some marriages end badly, and afterward the spouse sometimes claims that their spouse had a character defect of some sort in order to retaliate. This happens all of the time. Did she report him to the police about the abuse? If not, then there is no evidence that he abused her. She could just be making it up to retaliate. If you have evidence, then she could file charges against him.

I don't even know if she can have him deported for abuse. Talk to a lawyer, though. Let them know all of the details. It's very difficult, if not impossible, to get out of a sponsorship.

Edited June 18, 2012 by bsd058

[sarah86 8]

She is the American citizen, she brought him here on a marriage visa. By deport I meant he sent her out of the states back to her home country against her will.

Like I said, i dont want to say mentally challenged, i wish there was a better way of explaining how she is, for this reason she wouldnt be able to fully protect herself as you and I can, and her family was and is overseas so they couldnt really do much, probably didnt even know her situation til the very end. She will come back if there is a way for the deportation to take place and she needs to be here to go through with it, and even than I told her to come with someone in her family to support her, cause she wont be able to handle everything herself. But reading what you all are saying, Im guessing deportation cant be done at this point in time and is out of the question. She is just frustrated that this happened to her, not only this but like you said, they're going through an ugly divorce, insults from his side regarding her mental health, which steamed her more so to find a way to not give him what he wanted to begin with.

I dont know if she will be willing to accept the mentally incompetent deal but I will let her know of this as well so she or her family can ask about it to a lawyer.

As for, filing charges for the abuse, I dont think she did that, but i will find out. At least if she can get him to suffer somewhat maybe she'll feel better and just let go and move on.

I hope no one else ever goes through such a disaster, it is hard on everyone involved.

THANK YOU EVERYONE FOR TAKING TIME OUT TO GIVE US YOUR ADVISE, I APPRECIATE IT.

How did he deport her? Is she a US Citizen or Permanent Resident? If she is either, then she may be able to come back if comes back soon.

Also, in order to enter into contract a person must be shown to be mentally competent. If she is not competant to enter into contract, then the Affidavit of Support would become void (treated as though it never existed). She would probably need a lawyer for this. In this way, it could be proven that the current GC holder could be deported based upon a void Affidavit of Support. I'm not sure if there is a statue of limitations on the government deciding to revoke a Green Card. They decided already that he can be admitted so I'm not sure if they can decide the opposite based upon a voided AOS.

If she can contract, then she took him on as a risk. She is responsible for him financially. There is nothing she can do about it. Afterall, some marriages end badly, and afterward the spouse sometimes claims that their spouse had a character defect of some sort in order to retaliate. This happens all of the time. Did she report him to the police about the abuse? If not, then there is no evidence that he abused her. She could just be making it up to retaliate. If you have evidence, then she could file charges against him.

I don't even know if she can have him deported for abuse. Talk to a lawyer, though. Let them know all of the details. It's very difficult, if not impossible, to get out of a sponsorship.

[Bule&Cantik 8]

I suppose the only thing I can say is good luck.

Edited June 18, 2012 by Bule&Cantik

[Bule&Cantik 8]

Report the abuse, divorce and move on. She can report his abuse to ICE but it's not likely that anything will be done. Most important is to divorce the abuser and create a safe life.

[Cathi 5,715]

if she won't come back and report him for abuse there is nothing anyone can do for her, she has to do it herself.

[G0ds1ay3r 30]

I am so confused.... HOW did he deport her? if she is an American citizen how did he get her deported?

You said he sent her out of the states against her freewill? how? did he put her in box and mail her out of the country OR does he have a private jet?

[Laura&Nando 6]

I am so confused.... HOW did he deport her? if she is an American citizen how did he get her deported?

You said he sent her out of the states against her freewill? how? did he put her in box and mail her out of the country OR does he have a private jet?

In abusive relationships, the abuser controls the other one to such an extent that he/she can obligate the other person to do things against their free will, because the victim has basically had their free will taken away. This is accomplished through explicit or implicit threats, and I'm sure since they have a child together it wasn't much of a stretch for this woman to believe that she HAD to leave in order to protect her child or herself. This doesn't even factor in at least 3 years of emotional abuse and psychological manipulation. Furthermore, from what it sounds like, everyone except this woman knew that he was taking advantage of her and so she probably feels embarrassed and wanted to make the relationship to work so that she could avoid admitting that she'd been fooled. You can't really assess a situation unless you have been in one like it before, but it's totally within the realm of reasonable that a person could essential force another to leave a country, especially in many more reserved cultures.

[NY_BX 397]

I am so confused.... HOW did he deport her? if she is an American citizen how did he get her deported?

You said he sent her out of the states against her freewill? how? did he put her in box and mail her out of the country OR does he have a private jet?

Furthermore, where is her family throughout all this mess? So, her mother warned her and suddenly he packs her stuff and ships her- and their child- to the mother. There's more to this story.

Bottom line, she can't deport him. She must save her life and her child's life by divorcing him and reporting his abusive a$$

[engineer21 51]

I hope she finds the strength to stand up to this person and divorce him.

Her family can help figure out if there is any evidence they can think of that lead to their suspicion that he only married her for immigration purposes.

But without evidence, there is not much she can do to get him deported.

Does she have family in the US at all? Even distant relatives? Somewhere she can be safe when she comes back here to deal with this?

Good luck to her and the child.