Very upsetting answers on Visajourney

[Jamaicancricket 38]

I think we are preaching to the choir. The OP is not listening and actually, has not commented on any of the posts since her very own. I think we are wasting our time trying to help if there is no one to be helped!

Exactly!

[sara..... 371]

this forum is made up of people that have gone thru immigration them self's and after that stayed around to try to help or use it as a social out let nothing wrong with that either but the fact is the older members have seen just about anything there is to see in immigration on this forum.....when you ask for help you may not like the answers that you get but they truly are giving you advise that is based on experiences

what may seem harsh to you really is good advice.......here at vj we are a bunch of people that make sort of a dysfunctional family...and like any family that is dysfunctional you have to learn to ignore what you feel is harsh and pay attention to the type of person that you feel is giving you good advise with out the harsh tone......

good luck to you and i really hope that you take the advise that has been given to you.

sara

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

Folks, please critique my immigration questions very well. I woudl rather you Guys do it and make me prepared than to arrive in front of the CO looking like a blithering idiot. I certainly would have been one of those that applied without attaching any evidence and get an RFE in 5 months if it wasn't for VJ.

[Freedove7 17]

So..your marriage is not real is it?

No.Its as fake as yours.

Edited June 17, 2012 by Freedove7

[Freedove7 17]

OP, I think you are absolutely right. There are to many people, that question other people's intent and attack them, instead of helping them. For example, adjusting in tourist visa. I've seen it soo many times on VJ. Keep your head up and stay strong. People on here aren't the people that you have to convince that your relationship is genuine, it will be the person that sits across you at the interview. Be honest, bring evidence and everything will be fine! Good luck!

Thank you.I appreciate positive answers like this.

This is the internet and nothing more than a discussion forum. People here are random strangers sitting at desks hundreds and thousands of miles from wherever you are.

You've never met any of us and likely never will. People in forums are not your family and they're not your personal friends. Nothing anyone says on any internet forum should be taken personally. If a stranger of a forum says you sleep with ferrets, it doesn't affect you, your life or what you'll have for breakfast.

Relax, take a deep breath and enjoy your life

[Freedove7 17]

Silence can be golden at times

[Freedove7 17]

Thank you to those who answered my question with respect and kindness.Questioning if my marriage is bona fide or having the nerve to lash out at me is not giving advice.There is a proper way to do it.I found many of the posts to be rude and disrespecful.To those who said not to ask questions if I dont want truthful questions,I will post whatever question I have and will cross my fingers that I will get educated,helpful answers...not rude remarks.I will bring all the evidence I have to the interview.I will do my very best to fully prepare dor the interview..I have come too far tand will vi e it my best.Good luck to you all on your journey pertaining to immigration and everything else.

[TiklingGuy 211]

Thank you to those who answered my question with respect and kindness.Questioning if my marriage is bona fide or having the nerve to lash out at me is not giving advice.There is a proper way to do it.I found many of the posts to be rude and disrespecful.To those who said not to ask questions if I dont want truthful questions,I will post whatever question I have and will cross my fingers that I will get educated,helpful answers...not rude remarks.I will bring all the evidence I have to the interview.I will do my very best to fully prepare dor the interview..I have come too far tand will vi e it my best.Good luck to you all on your journey pertaining to immigration and everything else.

Good luck on the rest of your journey.

[Freedove7 17]

Excuse the typos ! I was in a rush

[Darnell 8,478]

Dear Darnell,

Thank you, as I understand how to navigate VJ journey . I was only concerned to the comments listing VJ journey as a bad source. I really only wanted to defend VJ's honor as being a very helpful site and meant no disrepect to the OP.

B. Franklin

IMO, spending 20 minutes of reading prior posts can be useful.

In My Case - it helps me to decide whether to write something in a current topic, or no.

I don't wish to belabor the point - oh wait - yes, I DO wish to belabor the point.

Look, many of these topics 'crash and burn' on their own, where the OP does NOT understand how to navigate their own prior topics and posts. It sucks. It makes one repetitive. IMO, that sucks even more. Between the OP and MozMoz this year, it's been a nice bog, albeit small, of a quaqmire for repetitive 'stuff'. So, when yer 'not reading' as well, and wish to 'pitch in' and 'try to help' - Ye Gods..

IMO, for this OP - it's not worth it, to 'try to be helpful' and to 'give advice' on what to do, anymore. And Thats Ok !

Regardless, Give it a Rest - she's really not worth further time and energy for 'trying to help'.

Seriously.

[BlueBonnet 84]

Honestly, when I read posts from people who ask questions like this OP ... what they want is a mind reader.

NO ONE here can answer these questions. Were not interviewing you !!! Were not reading and researching your petition !!!

So what is left ?

Our experiences, our knowledge, our travels though the process. WE CANNOT ANSWER WHAT IF QUESTIONS !!! We can only answer what WE went through !!!

I try so hard to stay out of conversations that revolve around, what do I do if the officer says this or that . . . theyre impossible to answer and if the OP doesnt like the answer ... we get 5 pages of useless posts.

The people who have gone through the process, and hang around to help ... are doing exactly that ... were here to help ! We want to help, were not getting paid, this isnt our job. So please, ask your questions, just try to make then at least relevant.

There is no reason to get defensive and uptight, you - the OP - doesnt have to justify anything to any of us here ... but we dont have to justify our opinions to you either. If you want straight forward, no opinions for your petition, go hire a lawyer. If you want honest answers on the forms, please ask us, if you want to know what will happen next week, hire a physic .... lets try to be reasonable here. Ask valid questions, and you will get valid responses.

[Freedove7 17]

Im not one to do this kind of thing BUT ....No RFE and approval right on the spot !!!! What do you have to say about that ! Some of you have to be careful with the words you let come out of your mouth.You might have to eat them one day )!! Again,thanks to those who genuinely help.I truly appreciate your help.

[TiklingGuy 211]

Im not one to do this kind of thing BUT ....No RFE and approval right on the spot !!!! What do you have to say about that ! Some of you have to be careful with the words you let come out of your mouth.You might have to eat them one day )!! Again,thanks to those who genuinely help.I truly appreciate your help.

[Darnell 8,478]

Since you've made some progress,

please consider to fill out yer timeline over at http://www.visajourney.com/timeline/profile.php?id=119283 , completely.

Helps those coming up behind you, always.