What should the Asian women do for their lives and their families if they married to American citizen men?

[bsd058 296]

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[Diana and Chris 25]

It's not because your country is poor and you will have a better life. It's because you fell in love and want to live with this person forever, I mean, isn't this why we are all doing this kind of process in the first place? It should be!

[dalegg 143]

They should concentrate all of their efforts on serving their American husband. Their very existence should revolve around it. They shouldn't even consider working outside of the home lest it detract from their duty of making the household a perfect domicile for their husband.

--And daily massages would be nice.

..and why wasn't there anyone around to give this awesome advice to my wife 9 years ago?- because she clearly didn't get the memo.

Edited June 8, 2012 by dalegg

[Trojans Fan 7]

I don't think you are in the right state of mind. The only reason you should be doing this is because you want to spend the rest of your life with your husband/wife and not for an adventure in your dream country. Did you marry your husband so he could pay your way into your dream country? I don't think you should leave your family in your native country simply in hope for a better life (standard of living) but you should leave your homeland/family IF you want to live with your husband, whether or not the standard of living will be 1000% better or not.

[quann 26]

OP i don't understand what your thesis is and what kind of answers you're looking for. will the essay be in english or vietnamese? imo you don't have enough grasp of the english language to communicate your thoughts clearly or transcribe the experiences of other viet wives you come across if it's done in english. also do we differentiate the "american citizen men" between caucasians and viet kieu? the experience for the wives will be markedly different. what about being buddhist or catholic/christian? if you belong to a church group the support there will be quite stronger? etc etc.

It's not because your country is poor and you will have a better life. It's because you fell in love and want to live with this person forever, I mean, isn't this why we are all doing this kind of process in the first place? It should be!

this is a fallacy imo, maybe for the petitioner but not beneficiary. i'm confident most beneficiaries don't "fall in love" in the traditional sense. i mean how could you? you talk to this person once a day, at most 2-3 hours? you see them in person 20-25 days in a good year? sometimes you talk to them for a few months, see them once...and get married. it's not a normal courtship, so kinda hard to fall in love. i see it more as an arranged marriage, and at best the couple will learn to love each other through the years.

there are exceptions, but most viet beneficiaries agree to this deal because they want a better opportunity elsewhere than the one they're currently in. you don't voluntarily agree to leave your home, your family, your friends, your life, the familiar surroundings to go to a strange land with a man you barely know. and i'm not even talking about the good ole USA. hundreds of women are being picked for marriage everyday to china, korea, japan in HCM.

[eric n tessa 1]

The U.S. is the paradise that the poor families in Asian countries dream to live in. Under special types of visa such as fiancé and marriage visa, the legal process will be fast and inexpensive because there are the American citizen husbands who sponsor and pay for their wives’ process fees. In order to enter the US by this method, there are many Asian women accepted to leave their families and friends, quit their jobs, and get married to an American citizen to have an adventure in a new country. So, how are the lives of these Asian wives in the U.S.? Should these women leave their countries to hope for better lives or to stay on their poor countries?

I think your question is flawed and this is the wrong form and web site to take a pole of how Asian women are doing in America. i know there is a Filipina FaceBook page that is there for them to talk about there lifes here and get support from one another I am sure there are probably other sites like it also. Women from around the world, men as well, leave there homes, family and friends in their home countries not because the USA is some type of paradise but at least on this web site, to be with there husbands and wives. I for one and probably many others on here would do just about anything to be united with there fiancee and/or spouse. I know my fiancee was and is not looking for a way to the USA when we meet and the only reason she would leave her family there is so that we can be together. And if it came to it, we would live in the Philippines if it is the only way we could be together.

[Trojans Fan 7]

OP i don't understand what your thesis is and what kind of answers you're looking for. will the essay be in english or vietnamese? imo you don't have enough grasp of the english language to communicate your thoughts clearly or transcribe the experiences of other viet wives you come across if it's done in english. also do we differentiate the "american citizen men" between caucasians and viet kieu? the experience for the wives will be markedly different. what about being buddhist or catholic/christian? if you belong to a church group the support there will be quite stronger? etc etc.

this is a fallacy imo, maybe for the petitioner but not beneficiary. i'm confident most beneficiaries don't "fall in love" in the traditional sense. i mean how could you? you talk to this person once a day, at most 2-3 hours? you see them in person 20-25 days in a good year? sometimes you talk to them for a few months, see them once...and get married. it's not a normal courtship, so kinda hard to fall in love. i see it more as an arranged marriage, and at best the couple will learn to love each other through the years.

there are exceptions, but most viet beneficiaries agree to this deal because they want a better opportunity elsewhere than the one they're currently in. you don't voluntarily agree to leave your home, your family, your friends, your life, the familiar surroundings to go to a strange land with a man you barely know. and i'm not even talking about the good ole USA. hundreds of women are being picked for marriage everyday to china, korea, japan in HCM.

I feel sorry for the meal ticket husband. I know my wife is in love with me and would live with me in any country. There is no minimum time frame one must meet before it is possible to fall in love. Was your marriage a business transaction "deal" for you?

It is those types of people (that marry to better their standards of living alone and not for love) that create the stereotype that exists today about marrying foreign women. I believe that if those are the true underlying intentions, it is considered fraud.

Edited June 8, 2012 by Trojans Fan

[TiklingGuy 211]

Make sure your Essay includes first a Topic sentence followed by a Thesis statement which requires fact and opinion. Then make at least three paragraphs for the body of the Essay. Include a topic sentence in each body paragraph so the reader will understand what you are talking about and what direction your essay is going. Your last paragraph is your closing statement. Proof read and spell check your Essay and post it here on VJ for feedback. Good Luck

[keysjangle 145]

Tough to write an arugmentative essay based on opinions. Impossible, actually. There's no room for anecdotal evidence. This would be better suited to an Op-Ed type of piece, unless you actually look at a broad spectrum of people who have been surveyed, the results peer-reviewed, etc.

Source: Graduated Honours English student a.k.a. essay slave

[arren 6]

this is a fallacy imo, maybe for the petitioner but not beneficiary. i'm confident most beneficiaries don't "fall in love" in the traditional sense. i mean how could you? you talk to this person once a day, at most 2-3 hours? you see them in person 20-25 days in a good year? sometimes you talk to them for a few months, see them once...and get married. it's not a normal courtship, so kinda hard to fall in love. i see it more as an arranged marriage, and at best the couple will learn to love each other through the years.

there are exceptions, but most viet beneficiaries agree to this deal because they want a better opportunity elsewhere than the one they're currently in. you don't voluntarily agree to leave your home, your family, your friends, your life, the familiar surroundings to go to a strange land with a man you barely know. and i'm not even talking about the good ole USA. hundreds of women are being picked for marriage everyday to china, korea, japan in HCM.

This is not what fiance/marriage visas are for though. If you went to your consulate interview and said you barely know your husband, but you're marrying him because you want a better opportunity elsewhere, would they approve you?

I understand the desire to have a better life, but it's also depressing when couples that are actually in love have a hard time getting approved because of all the people who marry US citizens just to get in the USA.

Also, it might sound weird to you but a lot of people DO "fall in love" even though they don't live in the same country. Not all long distance relationships are fake or arranged.

[Big Baby 11]

People should go where their heart takes them, of course. My heart took me to Chengdu. Modern Chinese cities are not poor. Beijing rivals NYC in prices! It is easier for her to be accepted to come to USA than for me to be accepted to come to China. She will try it. If she likes it, we will remain. If not, we will go. Perhaps China, perhaps another country. We don't care where, as long as we are together.

[quann 26]

my statements are strictly meant from the vietnam perspective, since i'm responding to a thread in the vietnam subsection. i don't claim to represent the view of any other regions. obviously the motives of a canadian bene marrying a us peti would be different.

also since they're responding to this thread, i'd like to welcome italy, guatamala, and brazil into the "asian" mix.

[neodragon0l 6]

well, if it is a biased essay, I will be done. I have to do it good and make a stance. If you are an English teacher, you know it well.

My conclusion: "In short, I think that the couples have two countries to choose for their life, so why don't they do that in both for their life and vacations? The USA is not the bad country to live, but it is not the only place to live."

Do you know what the Vietnamese wives do in the USA? We have a group help each other to do business. Looking at what they are doing, I feel proud of them.

Other asian wives have business circles as well. I don't know what you are writing on (i.e. psychology, sociology, etc.) You can definitely analyze what compels "Asian women" to move to the U.S.? For now, the research question is so broad that it opens up to many potential flaws and skewed data. I know my fiancee would get pissed if she reads your initial post. I hopefully you hear from women soon. It would be interesting what they would say to

[peter.chou 3]

only true love works.

[pddp 240]

The U.S. is the paradise that the poor families in Asian countries dream to live in. Under special types of visa such as fiancé and marriage visa, the legal process will be fast and inexpensive because there are the American citizen husbands who sponsor and pay for their wives’ process fees. In order to enter the US by this method, there are many Asian women accepted to leave their families and friends, quit their jobs, and get married to an American citizen to have an adventure in a new country. So, how are the lives of these Asian wives in the U.S.? Should these women leave their countries to hope for better lives or to stay on their poor countries?

Oh man, how I cringe at so many of your assumptions here... Talk about stereotyping! Really, based on your experience, this is how you see it? And you assume all "Asian women from poor families" married to American men have the same story?!?