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We Keep Receipts Grand Master

We Keep Receipts   9,238

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Hello VJ,

So in reading another thread about someone having issues in their relationship, I have decided to share some widsom I have gleamed over the years. If you have anything to contribute please feel free.

1. Abuse- This is a blanket term. Few people don't know they're in a abusive relationship so I will give some examples. Any unwanted physical contact should be met with the termination of the relationship immediately. No excuses. If your SO is putting you down(calling you names, i.e B****, w**** to name a few, talking about you in their native tongue so you can't understand them) making it so the only person's opinion that counts is theirs, you might want to reconsider being with this person for the rest of your life. Here I see so many stories about these things, it makes me wonder how many warning signs were there before they took that trip down the aisle.

2. Lying/Cheating- This one is really up to the person involved in the situation. Some say "once a cheater, always a cheater", others believe in second chances. Each encounter is different and it's up to you to make that choice. But with all the STD's out there, pregancies and drama that comes with this subject, I'd walk away before things get worse, because they will.

3. Respect- No brainer, if this isn't in your relationship, you shouldn't be either.

4. Counseling- Just to clear things up, this is to enrich, repair or help communications between people. If your SO has no concept of the basics(the above mentioned things) counseling isn't for you. Meaning if you are in a marriage and cheating and lying have been there since the beginning, it would help for you to get counseling to get AWAY frorm that person, not stay in a relationship.

There are some many other things I can say about this but I'll leave it at this, your SO is supposed to bring out the best in you, not the worst.

“Hate is too great a burden to bear. It injures the hater more than it injures the hated.” – Coretta Scott King

"Oppressive language does more than represent violence; it is violence; does more than represent the limits of knowledge; it limits knowledge." -Toni Morrison

He who passively accepts evil is as much involved in it as he who helps to perpetrate it.

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TBoneTX Grand Master

TBoneTX   45,288

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Good post. :thumbs:
Agreed, si man. Way to go, M-Bone. :thumbs:

06-04-2007 = TSC stamps postal return-receipt for I-129f.

06-11-2007 = NOA1 date (unknown to me).

07-20-2007 = Phoned Immigration Officer; got WAC#; where's NOA1?

09-25-2007 = Touch (first-ever).

09-28-2007 = NOA1, 23 days after their 45-day promise to send it (grrrr).

10-20 & 11-14-2007 = Phoned ImmOffs; "still pending."

12-11-2007 = 180 days; file is "between workstations, may be early Jan."; touches 12/11 & 12/12.

12-18-2007 = Call; file is with Division 9 ofcr. (bckgrnd check); e-prompt to shake it; touch.

12-19-2007 = NOA2 by e-mail & web, dated 12-18-07 (187 days; 201 per VJ); in mail 12/24/07.

01-09-2008 = File from USCIS to NVC, 1-4-08; NVC creates file, 1/15/08; to consulate 1/16/08.

01-23-2008 = Consulate gets file; outdated Packet 4 mailed to fiancee 1/27/08; rec'd 3/3/08.

04-29-2008 = Fiancee's 4-min. consular interview, 8:30 a.m.; much evidence brought but not allowed to be presented (consul: "More proof! Second interview! Bring your fiance!").

05-05-2008 = Infuriating $12 call to non-English-speaking consulate appointment-setter.

05-06-2008 = Better $12 call to English-speaker; "joint" interview date 6/30/08 (my selection).

06-30-2008 = Stokes Interrogations w/Ecuadorian (not USC); "wait 2 weeks; we'll mail her."

07-2008 = Daily calls to DOS: "currently processing"; 8/05 = Phoned consulate, got Section Chief; wrote him.

08-07-08 = E-mail from consulate, promising to issue visa "as soon as we get her passport" (on 8/12, per DHL).

08-27-08 = Phoned consulate (they "couldn't find" our file); visa DHL'd 8/28; in hand 9/1; through POE on 10/9 with NO hassles(!).

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X Factor Grand Master

X Factor   1,112

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Also be sure to get SO tested for aids when they get out of jail.

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NOA1 2/8/12
RFE 8/2/12
RFE reply 8/3/12
NOA2 8/16/12
NVC received 8/27/12
NVC left 8/29/12
Manila Embassy received 9/5/12
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IR5FORMUMSIE Grand Master

IR5FORMUMSIE   850

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Hello VJ,

So in reading another thread about someone having issues in their relationship, I have decided to share some widsom I have gleamed over the years. If you have anything to contribute please feel free.

1. Abuse- This is a blanket term. Few people don't know they're in a abusive relationship so I will give some examples. Any unwanted physical contact should be met with the termination of the relationship immediately. No excuses. If your SO is putting you down(calling you names, i.e B****, w**** to name a few, talking about you in their native tongue so you can't understand them) making it so the only person's opinion that counts is theirs, you might want to reconsider being with this person for the rest of your life. Here I see so many stories about these things, it makes me wonder how many warning signs were there before they took that trip down the aisle.

2. Lying/Cheating- This one is really up to the person involved in the situation. Some say "once a cheater, always a cheater", others believe in second chances. Each encounter is different and it's up to you to make that choice. But with all the STD's out there, pregancies and drama that comes with this subject, I'd walk away before things get worse, because they will.

3. Respect- No brainer, if this isn't in your relationship, you shouldn't be either.

4. Counseling- Just to clear things up, this is to enrich, repair or help communications between people. If your SO has no concept of the basics(the above mentioned things) counseling isn't for you. Meaning if you are in a marriage and cheating and lying have been there since the beginning, it would help for you to get counseling to get AWAY frorm that person, not stay in a relationship.

There are some many other things I can say about this but I'll leave it at this, your SO is supposed to bring out the best in you, not the worst.

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2007-07-27 – Case complete at NVC waiting on the world or at least MTL.

2007-12-19 - INTERVIEW AT MTL, SPLIT DECISION.

2007-12-24-Mom's I-551 arrives, Pop's still in purgatory (AP)

2008-03-11-AP all done, Pop is approved!!!!

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