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himher   634

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There is no penalty for throwing away junk mail

PULL I-864 NOW! And we mean NOW.

It may be a good idea to only speak with your husband through emails and texts and limit how often you guys meet face to face IN PUBLIC/WITH AN AUDIENCE (less you're later accused of abuse/he threatens or abuses you)

Someone answer this. If and or when she gets the envelope containing the greencard, what should she do with with? And what are the penalties if she opens mail (addressed to her husband) pertaining to his immigrant status?

 

i don't get it.

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Thanks again for all the advise. This is where everything stands as of right now. We used a lawyer to process out K1. I got a hold of him today and updated him on my situation, he immediately drew up

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Peter Pan I recommend you educate yourself regarding domestic violence. Victims do not share the responsibility of the offence with the perpetrators.

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Impossible you didn't mention these details before, first change all your door locks, second get a restraining order against him, file not divorce,but annulment of your marriage and report this guy TO

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Be careful of meeting him now, he may at any time find out about the lack of i864 and any meeting could be a wonderfull setting for a fight that gets him reason for VAWA. NEVER meet him alone again. NEVER EVER EVER

This will not be over quickly. You will not enjoy this.

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If I were in your shoes I wouldn't trust him at all! He treated you very, very poorly. Maybe you are considering to accept him back, but you need to ask yourself if the trust can be restored and how much you feel betrayed, and you will find your own answers. Good luck.

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Don't be so sure that he has no idea of you AOS withdrawl.

After everything you've been through with him why would you give him the benefit of doubt?

At this point the best think yo can do is to always treat him as your enemy and never trust him.

NEVER EVER EVER be alone with him.

* If he shows up at your house don't open the door, ask him to leave and call the cops if he refuses.

* If you must meet him make it a public place and bring a friend. Record the meeting, audio recorder in you purse is legal everywhere for in person meetings in public places.

* If you must talk to him on the phone get a google voice number and use that. Notify him at the beginning of the call "I may record this conversation, by continuing to participate in the call you are consenting to the recording.

* Save every single e-mail between you and him.

Of course I hope you've filed for divorce already and taken steps to protect your finances.

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Must have info for bringing your Philippine wife/fiancee's child to the US



A Good Example of why to NEVER use a Fixer in the Philippines

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I have done everything i need to do to protect myself. He doesnt know I withdrew my support paperwork, but he is now wanting to work things out. He is under the impression that he can get his greencard without me so he says doesnt that prove that he loves me..well i dont think so..anyway i did what i needed to do..sorry to stay I am still struggling with all of this.

How do you know he wants to work things out? Are you in regular contact with him still?? :blink: If so why??

If you keep contact with him, you're only digging yourself a deeper hole in this mess and before you know it, you won't be able to climb out.

There is absolutely no way I would maintain contact with anyone threatening to "f>ck me over" if I tried to mess with him- oh yeah and not to mention the death threat! WHY are you entertaining ANY contact with him? I'm baffled. :blink:

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How do you know he wants to work things out? Are you in regular contact with him still?? :blink: If so why??

If you keep contact with him, you're only digging yourself a deeper hole in this mess and before you know it, you won't be able to climb out.

There is absolutely no way I would maintain contact with anyone threatening to "f>ck me over" if I tried to mess with him- oh yeah and not to mention the death threat! WHY are you entertaining ANY contact with him? I'm baffled. :blink:

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But, we must all remember she is not to blame for any of this.

Yes, she is. She was naive and allowed him to keep on hurting her. She is the main person to be blamed, and it is time for her to step up and take responsability.


USCIS [*] 22 Nov. 2011 - I-129 package sent; [*] 25 Nov. 2011 - Package delivered; [*] 25 Nov. 2011 - NOA1/petition received and routed to the California Service Center; [*] 30 Nov. 2011 - Touched/confirmation though text message and email; [*] 03 Dec. 2011 - Hard copy received; [*]24 April 2012 - NOA2 (no RFEs)/text message/email/USCIS account updated; [*] 27 April 2012 - NOA2 hard copy received.

NVC [*] 14 May 2012 - Petition received by NVC ; [*] 16 May 2012 - Petition left NVC.

EMBASSY [*] 18 May 2012 - Petition arrived at the US Embassy in Bucharest; [*] 22 May 2012 - Package 3 received; [*] 24 May 2012 - Package sent to the consulate, interview date set; [*] 14 June 2012 - Interview date, approved.

POE [*] 04 July 2012 - Minneapolis/St.Paul. [*] 16 September 2012 - Wedding Day!

AOS/EAD/AP [*] 04 February 2013 - AOS/EAD/AP package sent; [*] 07 February 2013 - AOS/EAD/AP package delivered; [*] 12 February 2013 - NOA1 text messages/emails; [*] 16 February 2013 - NOA1 received in the regular mail; [*] 28 February 2013 - Biometrics letter received (appointment date, March 8th); [*] 04 March 2013 - Biometrics walk-in completed (9 out of 10 fingerprints taken, pinky would not give in); [*] 04 April 2013 - EAD/AP card approved; [*] 11 April 2013 - Combo card sent/tracking number obtained; [*] 15 April 2013 - Card delivered.

[*] 15 May 2013 - Moved from MN to LA; [*] 17 May 2013 - Applied for a new SS card/filed an AR-11 online (unsuccessfully), therefore called and spoke to a Tier 2 and changed the address; [*] 22 May 2013 - Address updated on My Case Status (finally can see the case numbers online); [*] 28 May 2013 - Letter received in the mail confirming the change of address; [*] 31 July 2013 - Went to Romania; [*] 12 September 2013 - returned to the US using the AP, POE Houston, everything went smoothly; [*] 20 September 2013 - Spoke to a Tier2 and put in a service request; [*] 23 September 2013 - Got "Possible Interview Waiver" letter (originally sent on August, 29th to my old address, returned and re-routed to my current address); [*] 1 October 2013 - Started a new job.

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Trying to get the word out about our struggles:

http://voices.yahoo.com/almost-legal-citizen-but-not-quite-12155565.html?cat=9

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Like others have said, why is the OP still in contact with her ex. He is setting her up big time and she still refuses to see it. She isn't protecting herself, she is leaving herself wide open to a scam and to be so badly hurt. Don't get me wrong, I understand how hurt and confused the OP is right now, but also now is not the time to be thinking with the heart, but with the head. Not only could she be in physical danger, but she could be in financial danger too.

Seriously woman you need to open your eyes and start thinking with your brain not your heart.

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OP, all I know is, if I was you, I would no longer be in contact with my "husband". I would have cut ALL ties and tried to move on. This person does not treat you well and you deserve better. Please take the advice of people here :blush:

We became a couple : 2011-05-29
I visited him : 2011-10-28 - 2011-11-17
He visited me (and my crazy family) : 2012-02-05 - 2012-02-17
I-129F Sent : 2012-02-05
I-129F NOA1 : 2012-02-14
I entered on VWP to stay 3 months: 2012-04-11 - 2012-07-03
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Went to get my medical done for interview in Australia (much cheaper in the US and I was already here):2012-05-20
Medical issue diagnosed
K-1 petition cancellation request sent to CSC : 2012-06-01
Married: 2012-06-21
Filed for AOS : 2012-08-08
NOA1 : 2012-08-10
Biometrics : 2012-09-14
EAD approved : 2012-10-16
Applied for SSN : 2012-11-01
Received SSN : 2012-11-13
Received interview notice :2012-12-27
Interview- APPROVED :2013-01-28
Green card received :2013-02-04
Baby girl born :2013-03-09

Filed for ROC :2014-12-05
NOA :2014-12-11
Biometrics : 2015-01-15

ROC Approval : 2015-05-14

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Thank you everyone for your responses, even the ones that state they don't understand how I can still talk to him. Well you are right, but I am not taking him back, the withdrawal letter was sent, now I sit here and wait. Yes i did hear him out and yes it hurt because I did enter into this marriage with true intentions, but I also know he is not being honest. There is no way that he is. He seems happy living about 50 minutes away working under the table for a small store. I have no idea where he is staying and truly dont want to know. I am ok, things will get better, but I am sure they will never look for him and make him leave. There are so many illegals here anyway..whats one more..this comment is not my personal belief it is just reality. He is going to stay here as long as he wants because of me. The only way he will get deported is if he gets caught doing something wrong. Kind of a kick in the #### if you ask me, but it is what it is

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Thank you everyone for your responses, even the ones that state they don't understand how I can still talk to him. Well you are right, but I am not taking him back, the withdrawal letter was sent, now I sit here and wait. Yes i did hear him out and yes it hurt because I did enter into this marriage with true intentions, but I also know he is not being honest. There is no way that he is. He seems happy living about 50 minutes away working under the table for a small store. I have no idea where he is staying and truly dont want to know. I am ok, things will get better, but I am sure they will never look for him and make him leave. There are so many illegals here anyway..whats one more..this comment is not my personal belief it is just reality. He is going to stay here as long as he wants because of me. The only way he will get deported is if he gets caught doing something wrong. Kind of a kick in the #### if you ask me, but it is what it is

Glad you are moving on, good luck with the future!

We became a couple : 2011-05-29
I visited him : 2011-10-28 - 2011-11-17
He visited me (and my crazy family) : 2012-02-05 - 2012-02-17
I-129F Sent : 2012-02-05
I-129F NOA1 : 2012-02-14
I entered on VWP to stay 3 months: 2012-04-11 - 2012-07-03
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Went to get my medical done for interview in Australia (much cheaper in the US and I was already here):2012-05-20
Medical issue diagnosed
K-1 petition cancellation request sent to CSC : 2012-06-01
Married: 2012-06-21
Filed for AOS : 2012-08-08
NOA1 : 2012-08-10
Biometrics : 2012-09-14
EAD approved : 2012-10-16
Applied for SSN : 2012-11-01
Received SSN : 2012-11-13
Received interview notice :2012-12-27
Interview- APPROVED :2013-01-28
Green card received :2013-02-04
Baby girl born :2013-03-09

Filed for ROC :2014-12-05
NOA :2014-12-11
Biometrics : 2015-01-15

ROC Approval : 2015-05-14

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del-2-5-2014   1,339

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Thank you everyone for your responses, even the ones that state they don't understand how I can still talk to him. Well you are right, but I am not taking him back, the withdrawal letter was sent, now I sit here and wait. Yes i did hear him out and yes it hurt because I did enter into this marriage with true intentions, but I also know he is not being honest. There is no way that he is. He seems happy living about 50 minutes away working under the table for a small store. I have no idea where he is staying and truly dont want to know. I am ok, things will get better, but I am sure they will never look for him and make him leave. There are so many illegals here anyway..whats one more..this comment is not my personal belief it is just reality. He is going to stay here as long as he wants because of me. The only way he will get deported is if he gets caught doing something wrong. Kind of a kick in the #### if you ask me, but it is what it is

Glad that you sent the letter. I am not generally on board with "sending them back" but the I-864 scares me.

As far as him getting picked up, well don't be so sure. Things have changed a lot.

"Today, Immigration and Customs Enforcement director John Morton announced that 396,906 people were deported during the 2011 fiscal year, the largest number in ICE’s history."

But you don't worry about all that - you've done your part by reporting/pulling, go forth and live life well.

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Yes, she is. She was naive and allowed him to keep on hurting her. She is the main person to be blamed, and it is time for her to step up and take responsability.

Don't blame the victim.

Impossible, I'm glad you decided not to take him back. Time really does heal. This will end soon. :)

“The fact that we are here and that I speak these words is an attempt to break that silence and bridge some
of those differences between us, for it is not difference which immobilizes us, but silence.
And there are so many silences to be broken.”

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