missing husband

[WrightFamily 34]

So bottom line is, you are telling me that this man who clearly scammed me will stay in the United States with a Greencard in hand! Things I didnt mention in my original post because it was more personal then I had wanted to get were the physical and mental abuse he put me through. The comment he made to me stating he would never go back home and would rather spend like life in a US jail because he would kill me if I F**ked him over. Of course screwing him over is whatever he felt was a wrong doing on my part. So I guess I have to resign myself to the idea of looking over my shoulder, inability to sleep because I am now jumping at every noise I hear in my house because it doesn't matter; this man will get everything he wanted from day 1.

ICE needs to see this letter/Email ASAP!!

[eric n tessa 1]

:thumbs:

Impossible you didn't mention these details before, first change all your door locks, second get a restraining order against him, file not divorce,but annulment of your marriage and report this guy TODAY to the cops, not as a missing person, but as an abuser!I just don't agree with MnnB because I saw several people that played the system that were deported.This story "let him go" oh man no way, no how.Sometimes in our life many things happen beyond our control, but other things we need to step up and make it happen.We don't need a scammer,an abuser walking with freedom in our streets.

report to the CIS also and please revoke the 184, protect your self!

[lierre 224]

I know you feel incredibly hurt right now. It is not your fault you fell for his scheme. You put up with the abuse hoping things will get better. Again, this is not a fault of yours. It's man's nature to have hope.

Letting his abuse/scam go without so much as a fight is equivalent to staying silent after being raped/molested. You are not a victim. You're still here, you're able and knowledgeable. Remember that you're not the only woman this fraud is bound to scam on. Get professional advice (USCIS?), get crackin' and fight back.

[Paula&Anthony 3]

It's not about vengeance or about seeking validation for it, is about justice, that's all it is!. Why would you allow people to wreck your home, play with your emotions, scam you,treat you and hurt you?. I truly believe we have to respond to any violation or abuse and not let people rob your peace and wrap your heart. Vengeance does not call for punishment. We have a system to protect us,many people are saying "oh Immigration won't do anything against him blah blah blah", well they are wrong! I go to the Immigration Court almost every day of the week for the past 10 years and I saw thousands of people being deported!. In 2011 the United states deported 396,906 people, 54.6% of them were criminal offenders, but 46% of the deportees were people out of status, illegal, fake marriage, people caught at the border etc, they are not sleeping, they work hard!

I am an attorney and I own a non profit organization who helps victim of domestic violence as well and our message is SPEAK OUT!!! To say let go, move on, forgive him/ forget him is not constructive. We build a strong society with moral values when we demand Justice! She said she was psychological and physical abused by her husband then she must not let him get away with freedom.We need to teach our kids to demand justice and respect because without justice a society would fall apart.

Report a fraudulent marriage to the ICE, call at (866) 347-2423.

"The moral arc of the universe bends at the elbow of justice".

(Martin Luther King, Jr).

Totally agree! You gotta speak out and allow the State to make justice for you! If you dont report him then nothing will ever happend to him.

You gotta do what is right for you and also for the country. What he did was a federal crime and he has to be punished!

If by any chance he gets his GC then it's not on you. You did what you had to do. And most of all you protected yourself from him.

With the Affidavit of Support you are legally responsible for him financially. Plus theoretically his GC is only granted because because you

granted him that support. Uou don't want to be responsible for someone that deceived you for a green card.

Get yourself together and protect yourself!

I wish you the best. And don't forget to count on us.

[Romeo&Analet 1]

I am sooooo sorry for you! ... May the Lord give you His strenght and His wisdom in these difficult times!

God bless you!

PS: go with your gut....!

Don't delete the e-mails...print them and attach them when you send your letters if you decide to do so!

[Nicole-N-Nattoy 24]

Not to be mean but I think it was obvious a long time ago that he was using you. You are partly to blame for allowing him to treat you less than you deserve. Even if your efforts work and he gets deported it won't change the pain of what happened to you. You can change the way you think of what happened to you though. You learned a lot during your sexy rondevue with a Nigerian, but in the end the two of you were just to different to sustain a relationship. You showed him great kindness and helped give him a chance at a better life. U ROCK!! Sometimes doing nothing is doing the best thing. He will self-distruct on his own and you won't have the guilt of knowing you stooped to his level. Do what is necessary but don't indulge your enegry on revenge.

[Egypts Girl 9]

First of all I want to thank everyone who responded to my other post and offered advice. I also wanted to give a little background on my history with my husband since one of the comments talked about how long we should know someone before we marry them and that person also wondered how someone could get scammed. I have known my husband over 2 years and I visited him in his country 3 times. I met all his immediate family as well as many of his friends.

I will tell you what our argument was over that made him leave, as someone says it might have been a provoked argument. It was about laundry! I had just got done working 76 hours in 5 days and since I had a day off I was then cleaning the house, grocery shopping etc. My husband did bring a basket of laundry upstairs and I assumed he was folding the clothes while I was cleaning the kitchen. When I went into the bedroom I found him on skype talking to friends or family I am not sure. My laundry was left in the basket and all his clothes were removed. I admit I was not happy that he left them sitting there and when he finally got off skype he asked me what was wrong. I said could you not fold the clothes while I am cleaning. He told me they were my clothes and there was no way in the world he would fold my clothes. I also admit I was so freaking angry after working so hard all week and then had been up for hours while he slept then woke to get on skype. Of course the argument continued and I said then dont use my car for pleasure drives if you can't help me out around the house. This comment also stems from the fact he has been here a year and has never once put gas in my car that he drives daily here and there. I asked him to put $5 in the gas tank one day and he threw a mini hissy fit. When we continued to argue he started calling me a B**ch, and then laughing and saying things in his native language and continued laughing saying it was fun to say stuff about me and I could not understand. Every time I tried to explain that this was not a fight about laundry but was about being partners and helping he other he would just continue to talk in his language...anyway the fight continued and he left...

OK so now to the update...He emailed me today a well thought out email and stated that "greencard" he was waiting for was something he paid for by himself since I refused to help him. He then went on to say it was not my responsibility and he had to come up with the money himself as well as pay for "all my other stuff" this is a huge lie. He then went on to tell me to leave him alone and live my life and he will do what he wants when he wants and he has lots of surprises..add the smiley face. I was unsure by his message what he meant by saying he paid for it unless he was trying to make it look as though I didnt pay for his AOS OR does he think since it is paid for he will automatically get it. He might think this because he has his SS card, work auth, and AED.

The last part of the update is..I confirmed with the post office that he did in fact change his address Monday. For obvious legal reasons I could not find out what address he is using now. Although I am hurt and sad I am now very angry because now it is clear he used me!

IF he is on your banking or credit cards, cancel them immediately...... Protect yourself, and change your locks on your home and car, or buy a club for the steering wheel of your auto..... YOU should also contact your local USCIS office, keep all emails and communication from him, PROTECT yourself..... Im sorry this has happened, its heart wrenching when the one you love most betrays you, best wishes, you will survive this. Hugsss

Edited June 7, 2012 by Egypts Girl

[lierre 224]

I don't know her life story or even their entire love story.

But, we must all remember she is not to blame for any of this.

[Sandra G. 5,047]

Nicole she suffered domestic violence and domestic violence is a crime by the perpetrator, not the victim! IT'S NOT HER FAULT!!!!!.The batterer is the only one responsible here not her. If you do not understand the dynamics of abuse please educate yourself. It's cruel, to say the least.

[matador 0]

THIS is messed up bigtime...you have to be very careful with these guys; especially nigerians. their mai focus is to get a greencard/visa....not interested in love most of the time....REPORT HIM IMMEDIATELY TO USCIS!! seriously.

First of all I want to thank everyone who responded to my other post and offered advice. I also wanted to give a little background on my history with my husband since one of the comments talked about how long we should know someone before we marry them and that person also wondered how someone could get scammed. I have known my husband over 2 years and I visited him in his country 3 times. I met all his immediate family as well as many of his friends.

I will tell you what our argument was over that made him leave, as someone says it might have been a provoked argument. It was about laundry! I had just got done working 76 hours in 5 days and since I had a day off I was then cleaning the house, grocery shopping etc. My husband did bring a basket of laundry upstairs and I assumed he was folding the clothes while I was cleaning the kitchen. When I went into the bedroom I found him on skype talking to friends or family I am not sure. My laundry was left in the basket and all his clothes were removed. I admit I was not happy that he left them sitting there and when he finally got off skype he asked me what was wrong. I said could you not fold the clothes while I am cleaning. He told me they were my clothes and there was no way in the world he would fold my clothes. I also admit I was so freaking angry after working so hard all week and then had been up for hours while he slept then woke to get on skype. Of course the argument continued and I said then dont use my car for pleasure drives if you can't help me out around the house. This comment also stems from the fact he has been here a year and has never once put gas in my car that he drives daily here and there. I asked him to put $5 in the gas tank one day and he threw a mini hissy fit. When we continued to argue he started calling me a B**ch, and then laughing and saying things in his native language and continued laughing saying it was fun to say stuff about me and I could not understand. Every time I tried to explain that this was not a fight about laundry but was about being partners and helping he other he would just continue to talk in his language...anyway the fight continued and he left...

OK so now to the update...He emailed me today a well thought out email and stated that "greencard" he was waiting for was something he paid for by himself since I refused to help him. He then went on to say it was not my responsibility and he had to come up with the money himself as well as pay for "all my other stuff" this is a huge lie. He then went on to tell me to leave him alone and live my life and he will do what he wants when he wants and he has lots of surprises..add the smiley face. I was unsure by his message what he meant by saying he paid for it unless he was trying to make it look as though I didnt pay for his AOS OR does he think since it is paid for he will automatically get it. He might think this because he has his SS card, work auth, and AED.

The last part of the update is..I confirmed with the post office that he did in fact change his address Monday. For obvious legal reasons I could not find out what address he is using now. Although I am hurt and sad I am now very angry because now it is clear he used me!

[Nicole-N-Nattoy 24]

Sorry but I myself am a survivor of domestic violence. I now have the confidence and self love I need today to not let it happen to me again. It wasn't my fault I was being abused but it was my choice to let it continue. I took my power back and so can anyone who's been abused. the reason I posted is because i have first hand experience with abuse and am living proof you can overcome. It helped me to not think of myself as a poor victim. I knew something was wrong when it started with a push, and that's when I should have put my foot down. So I'm saying to anyone and I believe this with my heart....If the signs are there don't ignore them!!! You are worth more than that.

[BlueBonnet 84]

Im going to admit that I have not read all the responses. I just want to get my 2 cents worth in here.

Based on the original post, where you say that he mentions about how he paid for it .. and youre not sure if he is trying to get you on the hook for looking like he paid you for a greencard and so you have no say in his life.

Im a believer that if something doesnt feel right, it probably isnt.

If he is potentially setting you up for this, you do need to report him ASAP. Because if you aiding him in anyway of committing fraud you would be scared too, but as an innocent victim you have to protect yourself. You have to explain your side and let them know your findings and his threats.

Also, if you are still able to pull the support end of the AoS, do it, quickly. I remember when I printed off the agreement with the USC and the Government I had my husband leave the room with it, and read it thoroughly. From the other room he yelled, "Im not signing this, its says you can sue me !" I told him to pack my bags then b/c I couldnt stay. Now of course he was joking and he did sign, but the agreement you signed with the government is real. No jokes. If your spouse goes on any government assistance, requires any help, YOU are on the hook and could be for 10 years. No offense but the way your husband has started his life here, I would hate to see this for you.

This just doesnt sound like your average argument to me, and the timing is really messed up and conveneant. Please take care of yourself first and foremost. If nothing else, this man has made his decision, now its time to protect yourself.

[Gracenp2 14]

First of all I want to thank everyone who responded to my other post and offered advice. I also wanted to give a little background on my history with my husband since one of the comments talked about how long we should know someone before we marry them and that person also wondered how someone could get scammed. I have known my husband over 2 years and I visited him in his country 3 times. I met all his immediate family as well as many of his friends.

I will tell you what our argument was over that made him leave, as someone says it might have been a provoked argument. It was about laundry! I had just got done working 76 hours in 5 days and since I had a day off I was then cleaning the house, grocery shopping etc. My husband did bring a basket of laundry upstairs and I assumed he was folding the clothes while I was cleaning the kitchen. When I went into the bedroom I found him on skype talking to friends or family I am not sure. My laundry was left in the basket and all his clothes were removed. I admit I was not happy that he left them sitting there and when he finally got off skype he asked me what was wrong. I said could you not fold the clothes while I am cleaning. He told me they were my clothes and there was no way in the world he would fold my clothes. I also admit I was so freaking angry after working so hard all week and then had been up for hours while he slept then woke to get on skype. Of course the argument continued and I said then dont use my car for pleasure drives if you can't help me out around the house. This comment also stems from the fact he has been here a year and has never once put gas in my car that he drives daily here and there. I asked him to put $5 in the gas tank one day and he threw a mini hissy fit. When we continued to argue he started calling me a B**ch, and then laughing and saying things in his native language and continued laughing saying it was fun to say stuff about me and I could not understand. Every time I tried to explain that this was not a fight about laundry but was about being partners and helping he other he would just continue to talk in his language...anyway the fight continued and he left...

OK so now to the update...He emailed me today a well thought out email and stated that "greencard" he was waiting for was something he paid for by himself since I refused to help him. He then went on to say it was not my responsibility and he had to come up with the money himself as well as pay for "all my other stuff" this is a huge lie. He then went on to tell me to leave him alone and live my life and he will do what he wants when he wants and he has lots of surprises..add the smiley face. I was unsure by his message what he meant by saying he paid for it unless he was trying to make it look as though I didnt pay for his AOS OR does he think since it is paid for he will automatically get it. He might think this because he has his SS card, work auth, and AED.

The last part of the update is..I confirmed with the post office that he did in fact change his address Monday. For obvious legal reasons I could not find out what address he is using now. Although I am hurt and sad I am now very angry because now it is clear he used me!

Impossible, Well to be quite bluntly honest with you and I apolize upfront, This guy is a BUM! He obviously has no clue what hard work, teamwork is. Withdraw that I-864 if you still can and dont forget to keep all evidence!!!! no MATTER HOW SMALL IT MIGHT BE!!

[tazzie 6]

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE revoke the I-864 form and walk forward with your head held high! There is a saying "what goes round comes round"

I am sorry to hear your story good luck

submit it? i think you mean revoke it....

Yep meant to say revoke, thanks for that.

[tazzie 6]

It's not about vengeance or about seeking validation for it, is about justice, that's all it is!. Why would you allow people to wreck your home, play with your emotions, scam you,treat you and hurt you?. I truly believe we have to respond to any violation or abuse and not let people rob your peace and wrap your heart. Vengeance does not call for punishment. We have a system to protect us,many people are saying "oh Immigration won't do anything against him blah blah blah", well they are wrong! I go to the Immigration Court almost every day of the week for the past 10 years and I saw thousands of people being deported!. In 2011 the United states deported 396,906 people, 54.6% of them were criminal offenders, but 46% of the deportees were people out of status, illegal, fake marriage, people caught at the border etc, they are not sleeping, they work hard!

I am an attorney and I own a non profit organization who helps victim of domestic violence as well and our message is SPEAK OUT!!! To say let go, move on, forgive him/ forget him is not constructive. We build a strong society with moral values when we demand Justice! She said she was psychological and physical abused by her husband then she must not let him get away with freedom.We need to teach our kids to demand justice and respect because without justice a society would fall apart.

Report a fraudulent marriage to the ICE, call at (866) 347-2423.

"The moral arc of the universe bends at the elbow of justice".

(Martin Luther King, Jr).

An excellent response and Impossible I hope you take this person's advice.