Sacrifice your relationship

[Jason-Sasha 1]

Its selfish to keep your SO in a bad situation. I'd rather see my girl happy, even if its not with me.

[Fandango 1,439]

I cannot really think of an instance where I feel D would be better off without me....and totally vice versa.

[mawilson 2,133]

Sorry, I don't understand the question.

[sparkofcreation 0]

Wow, isn't that incredibly arrogant and insulting!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What you're really asking is "Would you go against what your SO thinks is best for themself because you know better than them what's right for them and to heck with what they think or feel or want?" I have much more respect for Gareth than that.

I can imagine there could be a situation (what, I don't know) where we decided together that one or both of us needed to get out of the relationship, and the relationship ending because of that. I would never unilaterally end the relationship for any reason, let alone because *I* thought it was best for *him*!

[Nancy2015 2]

I don't understand the question.

Edited August 7, 2007 by Jewel12

[L_n_O 3]

i think it's a hot topic but not too hot like some are making it out to be

[Clarky and Tarah 0]

I voted other. It wouldn't really be fair to just end a relationship because it's what I THOUGHT was best. I think my SO is mature enough to make that decision for himself.

[jamrok 0]

I voted other. It wouldn't really be fair to just end a relationship because it's what I THOUGHT was best. I think my SO is mature enough to make that decision for himself.

SPARKOFCREATION

you echoed my very thought

[L_n_O 3]

me too

[Caladan 19]

Maybe if I have to go on a Quest to defeat the One Ring and I know that the Dark Lord will kidnap my loved ones, but otherwise I don't quite think I'm qualified to break up with someone for his own good. He's a moral agent, too.

[jundp 191]

Maybe if I have to go on a Quest to defeat the One Ring and I know that the Dark Lord will kidnap my loved ones, but otherwise I don't quite think I'm qualified to break up with someone for his own good. He's a moral agent, too.

Oh no. You got that Quest too, Caladan?!

There was a time in the very beginning of our relationship where I thought it would be "best" to end things so P could be happy. Mostly it involved my own fears and insecurities and thinking that he'd be better off with someone closer/younger/who didn't already have kids/etc. After much discussion, soul searching and a couple of slaps of reality from a mutual friend, I realized that I needed to just get over myself. He's a big boy with a mind and heart of his own.

So to echo what LisaD said, I don't think there's any situation where I can imagine that P would be better off without me. I mean, perhaps if I turned into a raving lunatic killer or something? But supposing finances got too tight, or I became terminally ill, or whatever? When we take our vows, they will be taken to heart. Sometimes marriages don't work out, no matter how much we try, but I don't think I would 'sacrifice' our relationship.

That's just silly

Edited b/c I can't spell.

Edited August 7, 2007 by jundp

[Mrs.J06 4]

Interesting.

We had the same experience jundp described: At the beginning, my husband was very insecure about whether moving me to the US would be in my best interest (giving up job/house/family/friends), he also worried about our age difference and how it influences important decisions in our lives (like children yes or no).

So yes, at that point he would have been willing to give up our relationship if I had wanted out.

I, on the other hand, was never willing to give it up!

Now that I'm here and more or less adjusting, we have a good life and get along great, he would certainly not be willing to just give "us" up for whatever reason.

[William33 110]

Although this poll was dug up from the archives, I will respond by saying that the poll is flawed.

Not enough choices.

[William33 110]

OK, many people have voted in the last 48 hours. Guess the poll is more valid than originally thought.

To the OP, please define "other".

Thanks.

[Cry_Tuff 0]

I voted Yes I would...

You know the old saying..."If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yours forever. If it dosent, then it was never meant to be." I believe that to be true with any relationship.