I opened my eyes!!!

[Wanda and Amel 17]

Hello everyone!!! I am so happy. I can't even express to tell you all. Amel got here on May 5. His flight was delayed around 4 hours. He didn't get out of immigration/customs until 11:45 p.m. Before his arrival I was so nervous. I have been feeling nervous for months. I thought it was because things were gonna to change, etc. I convinced myself that things would be different when he got here. Well, they were different since he got here. After everything I did, I just wasn't feeling him. We spent a day a half in Miami with his sister. Then, on Monday morning, we headed to West Palm Beach. I felt awful. I didn't want to take him with me. How could I be feeling this? How could I do this to him? Well, I took him to West Palm Beach anyway. We spent Monday together. I got up Tuesday morning to go to work. My heart felt so heavy, I felt a lump in my throat, what the heck was I doing? I got to work and broke down in my car, hysterical, sobbing, snot and all. I did not want to live the rest of my life with this man. I went home and sat him down, three days after he arrived... Amel, I don't want to be with you. Once I got the words out, I felt a weight lifted off my shoulders, the lump in my throat went away.

Well, now the funny part... how about this man has not one, but two girlfriends sexting him from Cuba, lmao!!! I feel so relieved that I was able to get out of this. I thank God for opening my eyes before anything further can happen. Of course, I am not gonna marry him, that has been decided. I am so happy I don't have to deal with that. God opened my eyes!!

[together4evr 360]

Thank God!!!!

You are a strong lucky woman. I am glad you had the strength to follow your gut

[JustUs 3]

You go girl!

[GoingCrazy2012 16]

That's exactly what the Fiance Visa is about: You're given 90 days to supposedly get to know each other and if it doesn't work then move on. Glad you were able to react on time. Don't feel bad. Perfectly normal

[OnMyWayID 1,489]

What?? No that's not what its about at all..... She got very lucky.. OP: This easily could have been a case of uprooting someone who changed their life to come be with you in a new country only to have you say "sorry, I made a mistake.. I led you and myself on for 8+months.. I'm bailing so it sucks to be you" ..... you did wait three whole days.. You could have ended up ruining someones life, instead you got lucky because your choice turned out to be dog who deserved it so it saved you having guilt.

[Pitaya 2,577]

Be sure to protect yourself. He may still have some tricks up his sleeve. Do not have any unsupervised contact with him. If he tried one scam, he may be willing to do more. You should contact USCIS and find out what your next actions should be.

Be careful.

[Wanda and Amel 17]

OnMyWayID: I know this COULD have been the case of someone uprooting, but it wasn't. And even if it was, how is it my fault that he turned out to be a dog? Am I to stay with him no matter what the circumstances just because he may have uprooted? He should have thought this thru before uprooting too, don't you think? He should have behave like a gentleman and honorable not like a hound dog.

[Daryll and Janine 4]

If you found him sexting after you'd already told him you're not going to be with him then the point is moot, otherwise, he was not serious in the first place, then I wouldn't expect anyone to live with someone they weren't happy with for the rest of their life. It just seems some put the point of no return at arrival, when they've just left everything they've ever known, and others put it at 90 days, after that person has already likely adapted to the new life and done away with a lot of the old. Either way it sucks all around and I'm sorry to hear this happened to you, but I'm almost just as sorry to hear what happened to him

[Darnell 8,478]

Congratulations!

[Moomin 292]

That's exactly what the Fiance Visa is about: You're given 90 days to supposedly get to know each other and if it doesn't work then move on. Glad you were able to react on time. Don't feel bad. Perfectly normal

You're given a lifetime of getting to know each other before the visa process starts. Try mentioning it to a CO that you're getting the visa because it has a 90 days try-it-out. You do get to know each other on a different level when it's no longer 2 weeks worth of vacation adventures here and there, or talking/emailing. It's direct contact, dialogues, who-does-the-dishes and issues that won't surface on most visits if only visiting a couple of times.

OP, congratulations with your mutual decision of it wasn't meant to be.

[tru_loves_journey 117]

[together4evr 360]

If you found him sexting after you'd already told him you're not going to be with him then the point is moot, otherwise, he was not serious in the first place, then I wouldn't expect anyone to live with someone they weren't happy with for the rest of their life. It just seems some put the point of no return at arrival, when they've just left everything they've ever known, and others put it at 90 days, after that person has already likely adapted to the new life and done away with a lot of the old. Either way it sucks all around and I'm sorry to hear this happened to you, but I'm almost just as sorry to hear what happened to him

I think she listened to her 6th sense and found out that her sense that something was not right-was right.

[Xanax 349]

OP, congratulations with your mutual decision of it wasn't meant to be.

[bigdog 376]

Be careful no visits without someone accompanying you, notify uscis, change your locks etc. Great job following your instincts.

[Peter_Pan 661]

If God were good, then he wouldn't have made you uproot a dude because you felt like it, only to change your mind 3 days after he arrived. I hope karma gets to you, lady.