Best Options for my cousin family.

[hniHnitsuJ 8]

My cousin (28-yrs-old) is married to her Vietnamese husband (30-yrs-old) last April-2012. Her parents will be in the US this coming September, and would like to sponsor her after they received USC which will be 5 years or more.

Her husband parents have been in the US more than 6 years and now holding an US Citizenship. They did file I-130 for him (ONLY) last January-2012.

My questions is which is the best options for my cousin and her husband will be reunited in the US soon, since both of them hadn’t file for Marriage Certificate in Viet Nam.

1- Should she wait for her parents 5 years to sponsor her? (Not to filed Marriage Cert with her husband in Viet Nam)

2- It’s better for both of them to sign a Marriage Cert. in Viet Nam, and ask his parent to re-file I-130 including her?

3- What if she is pregnant? Or will have some children in the future?

Thank you in advance for all your input.

[Dai Gia 4]

They're not legally married til they both sign the Marriage Certificate. In the eyes of the laws of both countries, they're STILL SINGLE.

That being said, parents of both sides can sponsor their own son/daughter ATM. The son has an advantage that his parents are now USC, meaning the waiting time will be shortened by a few years. And he can get married if he chooses to.(but if he choose to do so his waiting time will increase)

The lady on the other hand MUST WAIT til her parents become USC. Her own parents can NOT sponsor her, if she decides to get married, yet since they're only LPR.

IMHO, it's best for both of them to stay single (not signing Marriage certificate)........unless both families are objective to the idea of their living together and might result in having premarital children.

[quann 26]

for me there are a couple factors in play...how many years would the marriage tack onto the husband's family i-130. would it still be shorter than the wife's parents becoming USC and sponsoring her as a single? also would the guy want to go first to build a life in america, but potentially not seeing his wife for 5-6 years or worst yet feelings might change being so far apart.

...and you can't really say your cousin is married to her husband, it's very clear they're not for whatever reason. kind of a strange setup for vietnam.

[hniHnitsuJ 8]

They're not legally married til they both sign the Marriage Certificate. In the eyes of the laws of both countries, they're STILL SINGLE.

That being said, parents of both sides can sponsor their own son/daughter ATM. The son has an advantage that his parents are now USC, meaning the waiting time will be shortened by a few years. And he can get married if he chooses to.(but if he choose to do so his waiting time will increase)

The lady on the other hand MUST WAIT til her parents become USC. Her own parents can NOT sponsor her, if she decides to get married, yet since they're only LPR.

IMHO, it's best for both of them to stay single (not signing Marriage certificate)........unless both families are objective to the idea of their living together and might result in having premarital children.

So, A Dau Que. Do you think better for both of them stay single, and both parents sponsor their own children over?

Thanks.

[hniHnitsuJ 8]

for me there are a couple factors in play...how many years would the marriage tack onto the husband's family i-130. would it still be shorter than the wife's parents becoming USC and sponsoring her as a single? also would the guy want to go first to build a life in america, but potentially not seeing his wife for 5-6 years or worst yet feelings might change being so far apart.

I wonder to myself too? Anyone has the answer for this?

...and you can't really say your cousin is married to her husband, it's very clear they're not for whatever reason. kind of a strange setup for vietnam.

So true ... Vietnam has a different view then US. BTW, both of them only meet less than 3 months, and decide to get married.

[hniHnitsuJ 8]

anyone can give me more input???

[Dai Gia 4]

anyone can give me more input???

Ask them to get on here and ask ? themselves, if they care enough for their future. BTW, tell them if they're impatient and can't play the "waiting game" of the immigration system, go with the "marriage" route, with other people of course. Once they both get here in the US, they would know the next step what to do.

Some ppl do get married in a hurry once they know the other party has someone living in the US and being sponsored to come to the US. And they do honestly wait for their turns..................

And then there're some ppl who play the "cheating" game as I mentioned above. Dirty, immoral, but it works.