Mom send bullied gay son to school with stun gun

[B_J 2,752]

Chelisa Grimes was tired of her son, 17-year-old Darnell "Dynasty" Young, being bullied at school—so she sent the gay teen to class with a stun gun. "What is a parent to do when she has done everything that she felt she was supposed to do ... at the school?" the Indiana mom tells CNN, adding that administrators didn’t do enough to help Darnell. He allegedly found himself surrounded by six threatening students last month, set off the stun gun in the air—and was promptly arrested and now faces expulsion for his trouble.

"I brought the stun gun 'cause I wasn't safe," Young says, adding that he finds his punishment unfair. "I didn't use it on nobody. ... All I did was raise it up in the air and went back to my class." The school principal says staff members have long been encouraging Darnell to “tone down” his way of dressing at school: "If you wear female apparel, then kids are kids and they're going to say whatever it is that they want to say." Darnell says that his treatment, including rumors that he was “doing nasty stuff” with teachers, led him to consider suicide.

http://www.newser.com/story/145512/mom-sends-bullied-gay-son-to-school-with-stun-gun.html

[Obama 2012 1,714]

If you're going to act abnormal, you're going to be treated differently. That's a fact of life.

You can be gay all day long and not be a flaming idiot.

The principal was right. You can't be a guy wearing girls clothes to school occasionally and have an expectation to be treated the same as everyone else. Yeah, sure that sounds like blaming the 'victim,' but sometimes the victim is to blame.

[Dan J 277]

If you're going to act abnormal, you're going to be treated differently. That's a fact of life.

You can be gay all day long and not be a flaming idiot.

The principal was right. You can't be a guy wearing girls clothes to school occasionally and have an expectation to be treated the same as everyone else. Yeah, sure that sounds like blaming the 'victim,' but sometimes the victim is to blame.

Its the adults in the school that should be putting a stop to it if they see it happening. Not being complacent and accepting it as a "fact of life".

[Usui Takumi 1,562]

Regardless of the way he dresses he has a right to go to school without physical harm being inflicted.

[Obama 2012 1,714]

Its the adults in the school that should be putting a stop to it if they see it happening. Not being complacent and accepting it as a "fact of life".

Oh please. Human nature is a fact of life. You can't stop it. A person acts/dresses like an idiot they deserve to be called out on it. You're a male, dress like a male... Girls can wear pants just fine and get by with it, but at the end of the day you're still a boy. Don't like being bullied in the public school system over it? Don't dress that way or find another way to get an education. It's that simple.

Teachers and Principals can't put a stop to it, otherwise they'd be expelling half the damn schools for 'bullying.' Hell even bullied kids bully others lower on the totem pole. It's the way things work in a mixed social hierarchy. We play this "SHOCK" factor today over things that have been happening since the dawn of the public education system. Kids are going to be kids and treat someone different, well different regardless of what you tell them. That's human nature.

[sandinista! 1,816]

It's public school in the US in the 21st century, not Spartacus. And while there's some leeway in that a lot of kids in school are going to be despicable little sh!ts, and treat other kids badly, for whatever reason, kids are still entitled to violence free public education. No one is entitled to be liked by everyone, 100% of the time at school, but they are entitled to reasonably expect a day free of assault while they're at school.

[Obama 2012 1,714]

It's public school in the US in the 21st century, not Spartacus. And while there's some leeway in that a lot of kids in school are going to be despicable little sh!ts, and treat other kids badly, for whatever reason, kids are still entitled to violence free public education. No one is entitled to be liked by everyone, 100% of the time at school, but they are entitled to reasonably expect a day free of assault while they're at school.

violence is a different situation. However if this boy..errr little girl or it, whatver wasn't well, acting like one, then perhaps her mother should have taught her to fight back properly. Instead this little girl gets beat up on.

[SMR 368]

I thought that you can't be seriously hurt by someone that is unarmed. That's what they're telling George Zimmerman. It's the gay kid that brought the weapon to school. He's the one who escalated it. How come all the libs aren't coming down on him for escalating the violence and bringing a weapon into a confrontation that would have otherwise been a couple bruises and everybody skips off on their merry way? Aren't all of the other kids entitled to a violence free education as well?

[Obama 2012 1,714]

So the victim needs to change, not the people doing the bullying? So much ignorance in this statement. I don't care what someone dresses like, they have the right to go to a public school and get an education just like everyone else. People should NOT have to change who they are just to get through life a little easier.

There's a reason why many public schools across the country have uniforms or a standard dress code of jeans/polo shirts for boys and girls. It's to prevent ####### like this because they KNOW and understand that clothing can be an issue. Be it for rich vs. poor kids or how silly someone might dress. There's no reasonable expetation against bullying in situations of regular dress code because kids are going to be kids. You CANNOT stop bullying. It's impossible. The only way you can rectify the situation is to try your best to create an environment that's free of distractions. Unfortunately a boy wearing girls clothes is going to get made fun of, teased, bullied, etc... You can like it or not, but that's the way it is. You might be accepting of who someone is, I might be accepting of who someone is, but at the end of the day most people do judge others, whether you or I think it's wrong for them to do so or not.

[Obama 2012 1,714]

It breaks my heart that people, in 2012, still think this way.

Recent studies have shown that children raised by homosexual parents are actually more likely to turn out homosexual themselves. It may not be intentional, but for some their environment growing up can determine their 'comfort' later on in life.

The majority of homosexuals are born that way. 90% of the time at least to be fair, but there are some circumstances that can veer a child into a certain situation and make them question who they are, no matter which way they were told they are to be. Nature dictates that the strong overcome their surroundings and the weak succumb to the life they grew up around. So while Why_Me's point might be a tad bit ignorant in the overall sense, it does hold some merit.

[Penny Lane 8,159]

Recent studies have shown that children raised by homosexual parents are actually more likely to turn out homosexual themselves. It may not be intentional, but for some their environment growing up can determine their 'comfort' later on in life.

The majority of homosexuals are born that way. 90% of the time at least to be fair, but there are some circumstances that can veer a child into a certain situation and make them question who they are, no matter which way they were told they are to be. Nature dictates that the strong overcome their surroundings and the weak succumb to the life they grew up around. So while Why_Me's point might be a tad bit ignorant in the overall sense, it does hold some merit.

My disagreement comes from the statement "raising your children RIGHT will make them not be gay" ... that's an ignorant, incorrect statement and holds NO merit. Plenty of straight parents raise gay children, plenty of gay parents raise straight children. And what I have to wonder is - who cares either way? Why are we so concerned with who our children grow up to love?

There's a reason why many public schools across the country have uniforms or a standard dress code of jeans/polo shirts for boys and girls. It's to prevent ####### like this because they KNOW and understand that clothing can be an issue. Be it for rich vs. poor kids or how silly someone might dress. There's no reasonable expetation against bullying in situations of regular dress code because kids are going to be kids. You CANNOT stop bullying. It's impossible. The only way you can rectify the situation is to try your best to create an environment that's free of distractions. Unfortunately a boy wearing girls clothes is going to get made fun of, teased, bullied, etc... You can like it or not, but that's the way it is. You might be accepting of who someone is, I might be accepting of who someone is, but at the end of the day most people do judge others, whether you or I think it's wrong for them to do so or not.

I understand what you're saying, I just cannot agree with a world where instead of attempting to raise compassionate, understanding, accepting children we'd rather just let bullies be bullies and change what it is about us or our kids that they don't like and hope they leave them alone.

Edited May 8, 2012 by Coconuts

[Dan J 277]

Recent studies have shown that children raised by homosexual parents are actually more likely to turn out homosexual themselves. It may not be intentional, but for some their environment growing up can determine their 'comfort' later on in life.

Its more likely that homosexual children in homosexual relationships are more likely to be comfortable coming out, than homosexual children in straight relationships.

[sara..... 371]

there should be zero tolerance for bulling in the schools we have been thru it with one of my younger siblings there is no reason for any child to ever be bullied at school

i personally think that the schools do not do enough to prevent it....simply putting a poster on the wall that states not to bully blah blah blah does not work all school officials and teachers need to look at what is going on in the school if that don't work get the schools district office involved if that don't work go higher every child has the right to go to school with out fear of what is going to happen to them other than their school work.....

reasons for bulling someone can be any reason in the world .....the girl was raped so she must be a #######....the girl/boy has seizures lets see what will trigger it then set back and watch her/him twitch....boy likes girl she rejects him so lets start some false rumors about her the boy/girl dresses different than others must be weird lets make fun.....the boy/girl cried in class today must be a baby (no thought into maybe someone died in his/her family) there are a million reasons why someone can be singled out to be bullied

the issue starts at home all parents should teach their children about the harm of one little lie and the damage it can do also to have compassion for others that are different than they are

ok im off my soap box now

just my opinion

sara

Edited May 8, 2012 by sara.....

[Penny Lane 8,159]

I thought that you can't be seriously hurt by someone that is unarmed. That's what they're telling George Zimmerman. It's the gay kid that brought the weapon to school. He's the one who escalated it. How come all the libs aren't coming down on him for escalating the violence and bringing a weapon into a confrontation that would have otherwise been a couple bruises and everybody skips off on their merry way? Aren't all of the other kids entitled to a violence free education as well?

He wasn't the one doing the bullying. I disagree that this was handled the right way by the gay child and the mother, however, let's not pretend that the bullies are the victims here. The child obviously felt he needed a way to defend himself, which tells me that a) the bullying was pretty bad and b) nobody else was going to help him. So if he doesn't bring the weapon to school (and he shouldn't have) who exactly is skipping off on their merry way? The bullies? Or the kid who is being bullied for stupid things like the way he dresses?

[mawilson 2,133]

Recent studies have shown that children raised by homosexual parents are actually more likely to turn out homosexual themselves. It may not be intentional, but for some their environment growing up can determine their 'comfort' later on in life.

Link to said studies, please?