indeerment

[heizel anne 3]

Hello guys I just read a comment from tahoma...which really bothers now...its not really intentionally mean but I ever since we started my fiancee and me I used to call him hubby well in his part he called me sweety..when I send emails my title page usually goes like hubby cause that's how I used to call him..tahoma said I have to watch out for refer me or him as husband and wife but its just an indeerment like mommy or daddy something like...I just need a peace of mind cause I think he sent our emails with those indeerments in it..

Indearments

[Inky 1,110]

Hello guys I just read a comment from tahoma...which really bothers now...its not really intentionally mean but I ever since we started my fiancee and me I used to call him hubby well in his part he called me sweety..when I send emails my title page usually goes like hubby cause that's how I used to call him..tahoma said I have to watch out for refer me or him as husband and wife but its just an indeerment like mommy or daddy something like...I just need a peace of mind cause I think he sent our emails with those indeerments in it..

Indearments

Hubby means husband, it is not advised to ever refer to each other as husband and wife during the K-1 fiance(e) process. They can deny you if they feel you are married even without a marriage certificate.

If it looks or sounds like you are married, people have been denied for this and told to file a spousal visa.

[heizel anne 3]

But we already sent last may 4...what am I goin to do...

[wilzhen 3]

But we already sent last may 4...what am I goin to do...

u'ved sent it already,....i think no need to do just wait...hope everything will be fine

Edited May 6, 2012 by wilzhen

[heizel anne 3]

Pls advise me to what we have to do

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Pls advise me to what we have to do

You CAN'T do anything now. You've sent it. Had you asked prior to sending it we would have told you not to send anything where you called him your husband.

As Inky also said above, "Hubby" is not an endearment, it's short for "husband" and is what a wife (also a title) calls her husband. This implies you are married. Hopefully you will be fine but be prepared to answer questions about why they should believe that he isn't your husband (and that you aren't married) when you clearly call him your husband, multiple times.

[Kathryn41 3,205]

Did you include ones that used the endearment 'hubby'? If so, be very prepared at the interview to explain - and prove - you are not already married.

Calling each other husband and wife can be taken by immigration as evidence that you do not qualify for a fiancee visa. You may wish to get sworn statements from responsible individuals who can confirm that you are not married and are eligible still for a fiancee visa (your parents, a minister or priest, etc.) . You can explain, if they ask you about it at the interview, that in anticipation of your life together as husband and wife, you already feel like you should be married even though you haven't had the official ceremony yet. They have come across this before, and it will be up to the officer doing the interview to decide how much importance he will attach to your use of this term of endearment. It may or may not be considered, so it is best to be prepared just in case it is.

It is safer to use the term 'husband to be' or 'my future husband' and sign yourself as 'wife to be' or 'future wife' in the future. If you didn't have to deal with immigration, it wouldn't normally be a problem.

Good luck.

[heizel anne 3]

Yeah...I really do hope too...

[heizel anne 3]

Yeah I just didn't know about visa journey before. I ask my close friend who've been in k1 visa...well she didn't mention it...we used to talk since last dec 2010...I just hope everything will be fine...

[Leatherneck 693]

Hope is not a good strategy in the immigration process -- being prepared is. Heed the advice of Kathryn and be prepared to explain yourself during the interview, (or the grilling you might get) so let the people mentioned by Kathryn know now that you might need statements from them in the future regarding your civil status.

What might slip past USCIS might not slip past a sharp CO in Manila.

Edited May 6, 2012 by Leatherneck

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

Did you include ones that used the endearment 'hubby'? If so, be very prepared at the interview to explain - and prove - you are not already married.

Calling each other husband and wife can be taken by immigration as evidence that you do not qualify for a fiancee visa. You may wish to get sworn statements from responsible individuals who can confirm that you are not married and are eligible still for a fiancee visa (your parents, a minister or priest, etc.) . You can explain, if they ask you about it at the interview, that in anticipation of your life together as husband and wife, you already feel like you should be married even though you haven't had the official ceremony yet. They have come across this before, and it will be up to the officer doing the interview to decide how much importance he will attach to your use of this term of endearment. It may or may not be considered, so it is best to be prepared just in case it is.

It is safer to use the term 'husband to be' or 'my future husband' and sign yourself as 'wife to be' or 'future wife' in the future. If you didn't have to deal with immigration, it wouldn't normally be a problem.

Good luck.

Since OP is from the Philippines her CENOMAR should settle the question.

[Darnell 8,478]

But we already sent last may 4...what am I goin to do...

That's an entire year. What's happened since then?

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Since OP is from the Philippines her CENOMAR should settle the question.

Not necessarily. If she got married in another country, or via proxy or simply didn't register the marriage with the appropriate authorities, her CENOMAR could be clean.

[heizel anne 3]

what document should i need to bring aside from CENOMAR....to prove we're not married or should i need to bring my parents on the day of the interview...to prove them that i never married at all...i know this is a big mistakes ive done but with the love i have for him i really didnt expect that this endearment could actually a problem in the future.....

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Hello guys I just read a comment from tahoma...which really bothers now...its not really intentionally mean but I ever since we started my fiancee and me I used to call him hubby well in his part he called me sweety..when I send emails my title page usually goes like hubby cause that's how I used to call him..tahoma said I have to watch out for refer me or him as husband and wife but its just an indeerment like mommy or daddy something like...I just need a peace of mind cause I think he sent our emails with those indeerments in it..

Indearments

STOP doing that. Visas CAN and HAVE been denied for that. It is NOT like calling someone "Mommy or Daddy".

There are soecific and important differences in visas for fiancees and spouses. Many people have gotten married and when they find out the soouse visa takes longer to process they decide to misrepresent themselves as engaged. This is fraud and can result in visa denial and a lifetime ban for future visas.

You can call him "honey", "poopsie", "darling", "sweetheart" "snuggle bunny" whatever, but NOT "hubby" or any other term related to marriage.

what document should i need to bring aside from CENOMAR....to prove we're not married or should i need to bring my parents on the day of the interview...to prove them that i never married at all...i know this is a big mistakes ive done but with the love i have for him i really didnt expect that this endearment could actually a problem in the future.....

You cannot "prove" you are NOT married. That is the problem. A CENOMAR only states that there is no record of a marriage in PIs, nothing else.