Remember me?

[MAO36 30]

LOL! I knew that would get everyone's attention LOL. No, seriously, How are things with everyone? Yes, we are still together. I'm not quite sure how to describe our "wonderful marriage"-yes I'm being sarcastic. He has gotten better with some things and continues to show a desire to work on the others. There hasn't been any new major occurrences, which is good since he is all out of chances. My feelings are still a little mixed when I think of why in the world did I marry someone who thinks and acts so differently than what I was accustomed to. We are able to laugh about most cultural differences and misunderstandings but there are those few deeply engrained roots that neither myself or He will ever change. Yes, he's still with me after receiving his 10 year greencard. It's weird because I still remember when he received it. I specifically told him, "You got what you wanted so bounce". He said, "Michele, trust me, if I didn't love you, I would of left your butt a long time ago". He said we get on each other's nerves but someone I've become very attached to you". Wow... lol. Can you believe the way this negro expresses himself? This is the way he tells me how he feels. Arrrggh.

Anyway, we are still together, we recently moved into a house from an apartment. This man thinks he has struck it rich. You should see him laying up in the house with his feet up, looking around like we're in some royal palace.....(5) bedrooms, backyard, big kitchen, family room etc. Since we moved here, he's been sleeping like a newborn baby-lol. I still get mad at his lack of maturity, he's 36 I'm 41. I have to admit that when I do get angry, I always tell him to leave (I guess I'm also immature), but he always says "No, it wouldn't be proper to end the marriage", blah, blah, blah. "My family and friends have been brought up to make the marriage work no matter what" (he says).

Anyways..... For better or worse.... I suppose

[tru_loves_journey 117]

LOL! I knew that would get everyone's attention LOL. No, seriously, How are things with everyone? Yes, we are still together. I'm not quite sure how to describe our "wonderful marriage"-yes I'm being sarcastic. He has gotten better with some things and continues to show a desire to work on the others. There hasn't been any new major occurrences, which is good since he is all out of chances. My feelings are still a little mixed when I think of why in the world did I marry someone who thinks and acts so differently than what I was accustomed to. We are able to laugh about most cultural differences and misunderstandings but there are those few deeply engrained roots that neither myself or He will ever change. Yes, he's still with me after receiving his 10 year greencard. It's weird because I still remember when he received it. I specifically told him, "You got what you wanted so bounce". He said, "Michele, trust me, if I didn't love you, I would of left your butt a long time ago". He said we get on each other's nerves but someone I've become very attached to you". Wow... lol. Can you believe the way this negro expresses himself? This is the way he tells me how he feels. Arrrggh.

Anyway, we are still together, we recently moved into a house from an apartment. This man thinks he has struck it rich. You should see him laying up in the house with his feet up, looking around like we're in some royal palace.....(5) bedrooms, backyard, big kitchen, family room etc. Since we moved here, he's been sleeping like a newborn baby-lol. I still get mad at his lack of maturity, he's 36 I'm 41. I have to admit that when I do get angry, I always tell him to leave (I guess I'm also immature), but he always says "No, it wouldn't be proper to end the marriage", blah, blah, blah. "My family and friends have been brought up to make the marriage work no matter what" (he says).

Anyways..... For better or worse.... I suppose

Now that's True Love Congrats on your new home! Home is where the heart is...............

[MAO36 30]

Now that's True Love Congrats on your new home! Home is where the heart is...............

Thanks Chica!

[LAKY 1]

You should be happy that he did not use you to make his way all the way up here. I guess that's true love. My fiancé always says this "difference make us stronger" So don't pay attention to the differences you have, pay attention to all the things you guys have been able to accomplish. Congratulation on your new home! It seems that he wants to make the best out of the marriage and hey don't you think that he wanted a big house because he wanted a palace for the queen that he has at home???? lol

[MAO36 30]

You should be happy that he did not use you to make his way all the way up here. I guess that's true love. My fiancé always says this "difference make us stronger" So don't pay attention to the differences you have, pay attention to all the things you guys have been able to accomplish. Congratulation on your new home! It seems that he wants to make the best out of the marriage and hey don't you think that he wanted a big house because he wanted a palace for the queen that he has at home???? lol

Thanks Laky! I needed that. I will make a conscious effort to dwell on the positive things!

[Iyawo Ijebu 157]

It has been argued that we are all crazy fools

[MAO36 30]

It has been argued that we are all crazy fools

That may very well be correct!

[BC-Neo 0]

You guys sound like a perfect match to me. In love with lots fun too. You'll never grow old and dull like that.

[Olomi_811 130]

lol...you sound like Cephus and Reesie from In Living Color "and we stilllllllll together!"

Think about how much he's made you grow to be better and vice versa. There has to be some sour to bring balance and make you appreciate the beautiful moments more.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

Long time, Back when you were around we were on the other login *Sylvia&Jospeh and had the horrendous denial ( because he didn't have details of my work for DOD contracts) and then his dad died. Like you we made it, and are still together and dealing with family on both side ( I will never marry a man with 21 siblings in a 3rd world country again ) I haven't had the excitment of moving as I had a good place when we married. But life has provided it's share of excitement "back home" I have even learned to call him hard headed in Igbo thanks to his sister ( wonder why she thought I needed to learn this ? )

[MAO36 30]

lol...you sound like Cephus and Reesie from In Living Color "and we stilllllllll together!"

Think about how much he's made you grow to be better and vice versa. There has to be some sour to bring balance and make you appreciate the beautiful moments more.

Aww thank you....lol..... Yes I will think about that!

Long time, Back when you were around we were on the other login *Sylvia&Jospeh and had the horrendous denial ( because he didn't have details of my work for DOD contracts) and then his dad died. Like you we made it, and are still together and dealing with family on both side ( I will never marry a man with 21 siblings in a 3rd world country again ) I haven't had the excitment of moving as I had a good place when we married. But life has provided it's share of excitement "back home" I have even learned to call him hard headed in Igbo thanks to his sister ( wonder why she thought I needed to learn this ? )

Syliva! Yes..... I do remember you! We go a looooong way back, We spoke on the phone several times back in 2007 or 2008! LOL-They are very hard headed!

You guys sound like a perfect match to me. In love with lots fun too. You'll never grow old and dull like that.

Aww Thank you BC-Neo!

[Zee Bee 61]

Good to see you back. Its definitely not easy but everyday that you are together means that both of you are still committed to the relationship.

[MAO36 30]

Good to see you back. Its definitely not easy but everyday that you are together means that both of you are still committed to the relationship.

Thank you Zee! Always words of wisdom!

[feli114 65]

Its nice to hear from some of the "seasoned" couples. I am learning very early on that Nigerian men are very stubborn and we are not married yet. What is that Igbo word for stubborn? I could use it right now!

[Sapphire Moon 25]

You guys sound like a perfect match to me. In love with lots fun too. You'll never grow old and dull like that.

Ditto! I was thinking the same thing!

To the OP: You both have invested years into the marriage... You both are still together and are working through it TOGETHER!

Remember the laughs you share and cherish those times when you both feel like giving up.

When I take the plunge into holy matrimony... I too need to remember the good times and stay positive through it all.