Distant Love

[Americangirl10 1]

HI AT WHICH POINT IS THE UR RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM? IF YOU DON`T KNOW HIM THAT MUCH THEN BACKUP. DON`T STRUGGLE FIR THAT.

REMAIN BLESS

I dont understand your reply??............................................

[Xanax 349]

Sorry about the terrible use of pronouns in my reply... Wasn't feeling the best

Edited May 3, 2012 by BrittandDan

[Americangirl10 1]

This sets off red flags in my head.

This is what I would do:

I would tell your spouse/ fiance that you understand that it is not financially viable for either of you to take a trip right now, but you feel it is necessary for the both of you to spend more time together before he moves and changes his life so drastically. Tell him you want to look out for him and yourself. I would ask my spouse to help you set a realistic time frame or goal dollar ($) amount that would signify a better time for you to go to Cameroon to visit for an extended time before he moves here.

If your spouse agrees- great, it seems like he is fairly committed to you and your relationship.

If your spouse disagrees (for whatever reason)- to me this is a major red flag and I would consider your relationship very carefully and what the ramifications would be if your fiance/ spouse was not entirely honest with his reasons for wanting to immigrate to the US (I am not implying he would be using you for immigration purposes if he did disagree, but it does not sound promising that someone who loves you and wants to spend their life with you would not want to see you and or protect you and themselves from making a mistake if the relationship is not a good fit).

Thanks, we are currently trying to rectify this whole situation. He admits he wants me completely comfortable when I come there & at the current time, he's not sure he can provide the comfort that I'm used to. I'm honestly not concerned about being "comfortable". I basically just want to be with him (for the connection, bonding, & etc). Hopefully, this ordeal won't cause me to not trust my spouse...................that's not a good look.