NVC Filers - May 2012

[Trav&Shell 83]

OK, so I hate that it has come to this. After waiting for so long, I never wanted this to happen.

So I have my AOS Package sitting in my drafts all ready to send. The invoice shows as paid. But I am reluctant to send it now. I am trying to think what exactly it would mean submitting the Affidavit of Support. Right now as things stand, I am waiting for my wife to determine what exactly she wants. If she wants to reconcile our differences or if we should just head towards divorce. I think the wisest course of action right now would be to put on hold the whole visa process which I can do easily by not mailing the AOS package and not paying the IV fee. But at the same time, if things were to get better between us, this will add to the delay for her to come here.

This is a very screwed up time right now. I wish things were simpler. All I wanted was someone to love who would at least care a little about my feelings.

Wow...it's really awful to hear about this - I'm so sorry I don't know what to say but my prayers are with you

[kelad 8]

OK, so I hate that it has come to this. After waiting for so long, I never wanted this to happen.

So I have my AOS Package sitting in my drafts all ready to send. The invoice shows as paid. But I am reluctant to send it now. I am trying to think what exactly it would mean submitting the Affidavit of Support. Right now as things stand, I am waiting for my wife to determine what exactly she wants. If she wants to reconcile our differences or if we should just head towards divorce. I think the wisest course of action right now would be to put on hold the whole visa process which I can do easily by not mailing the AOS package and not paying the IV fee. But at the same time, if things were to get better between us, this will add to the delay for her to come here.

This is a very screwed up time right now. I wish things were simpler. All I wanted was someone to love who would at least care a little about my feelings.

Well this process can be stressful and its has added strain as well to my relationship, but we have submitted and paid for everything, probably you should continue and when she moves over you guys can do counselling which is the plan with hubby and I, and just hope for the best, at least you can say you tried everything possible

[Saylin 1,605]

OK, so I hate that it has come to this. After waiting for so long, I never wanted this to happen.

So I have my AOS Package sitting in my drafts all ready to send. The invoice shows as paid. But I am reluctant to send it now. I am trying to think what exactly it would mean submitting the Affidavit of Support. Right now as things stand, I am waiting for my wife to determine what exactly she wants. If she wants to reconcile our differences or if we should just head towards divorce. I think the wisest course of action right now would be to put on hold the whole visa process which I can do easily by not mailing the AOS package and not paying the IV fee. But at the same time, if things were to get better between us, this will add to the delay for her to come here.

This is a very screwed up time right now. I wish things were simpler. All I wanted was someone to love who would at least care a little about my feelings.

I would say you could always send the AOS. It won't be put into affect until your wife gets the visa and crosses into the US, making her a resident. Until then, it's just another paper submitted. So you can at least send that off in my opinion. If you want to hold off on paying the bill (so you might not lose $230), then that's where you might want to stop. Or, if you want to take one more step, you can pay the bill, but not send the IV package.

As for the relationship, I'm probably the wrong person to talk about it at the moment But, I'd suggest doing what I did, and sit down (as much as you can while apart) and just talk about things. Trust me, it helped me in the long run. Ask her what she wants, if she can have anything right now no matter the impossibility of it.

[Rujby 23]

Is the OF-169 form for k1 or CR1?

[Saylin 1,605]

Is DS 169 required at interview?

I have no idea what this form is So I'm thinking that's a no, unless it's a country-specific thing...

[Amanda & Juan 1]

OK, so I hate that it has come to this. After waiting for so long, I never wanted this to happen.

So I have my AOS Package sitting in my drafts all ready to send. The invoice shows as paid. But I am reluctant to send it now. I am trying to think what exactly it would mean submitting the Affidavit of Support. Right now as things stand, I am waiting for my wife to determine what exactly she wants. If she wants to reconcile our differences or if we should just head towards divorce. I think the wisest course of action right now would be to put on hold the whole visa process which I can do easily by not mailing the AOS package and not paying the IV fee. But at the same time, if things were to get better between us, this will add to the delay for her to come here.

This is a very screwed up time right now. I wish things were simpler. All I wanted was someone to love who would at least care a little about my feelings.

I personal think that if you are in that bad of a place right now put the process on hold and try to work on your relationship. You are at a spot now where if you decide to stay together it wont take you that long to finish.

[Rujby 23]

Here is what i see on the guide here on VJ for CR1

Pre-Interview Forms / Items: 1. Completed and signed OF-169.

2. Completed and signed Of-230 Part 1 and 2 forms.

3. I-864 Affidavit of Support Form along with past 3 year U.S tax returns (or transcripts) and any other financial documents required.

4. A copy of intending immigrants biographic page of passport(s) including expiration date.

5. Original or certified "long" birth certificate. *

6. Original adoption decree. (if applicable)

7. Marriage certificate. (if applicable)

8. Divorce decree(s) or death certificate(s) (if applicable)

9. Police certificate(s) **

10. Court and prison records.(if applicable)

11. Custody records. (if applicable)

12. Military records (if applicable)

[Neela & Jitu 79]

I Hate the word divorce...Why the hell people get married if they don't love each other and secrifice other things?

I really wish i could stop MXM's wife and Saylin's Hubby about what they are up tooo...I hate cheaters.....

Edited May 9, 2012 by Neela & Jitu

[Saylin 1,605]

Here is what i see on the guide here on VJ for CR1

Pre-Interview Forms / Items: 1. Completed and signed OF-169.

2. Completed and signed Of-230 Part 1 and 2 forms.

3. I-864 Affidavit of Support Form along with past 3 year U.S tax returns (or transcripts) and any other financial documents required.

4. A copy of intending immigrants biographic page of passport(s) including expiration date.

5. Original or certified "long" birth certificate. *

6. Original adoption decree. (if applicable)

7. Marriage certificate. (if applicable)

8. Divorce decree(s) or death certificate(s) (if applicable)

9. Police certificate(s) **

10. Court and prison records.(if applicable)

11. Custody records. (if applicable)

12. Military records (if applicable)

That must be an old guide... That OF-230 is referring to the DS-230. Still don't know what the OF/DS-169 is. You don't need it though as I didn't.

[Saylin 1,605]

I Hate the word divorce...Why the hell people get married if they don't love each other and secrifice other things?

When people marry, they don't know what's going to happen in the future. Things happen. You can never guarantee anything in a marriage. Should you work things out before resorting to divorce, yes. But if one spouse or both no longer have feelings for one another, then there's not much one can do. Or, if one spouse ABUSES the other, specifically physically, it would be much better if the abused spouse got out of that relationship.

[MCMLXXXII 29]

Well I really tried for the last 6 months to get things working, I tried to go visit and resolve our differences but we have a big issue communicating. As much as I try we can't resolve our differences because she refuses to talk. She says the most hurtful things to me and from all that it looks like now she says that she will never love me, she will never have respect for me in her heart, and many other things. I would just wish for us to talk about our issues and work towards resolving them but she doesn't want to even talk to me. She never considered herself married, for her it was when we are living together we will be married. I did not like a few of the things she did which I don't expect any married person to do. I tried so much but last 2 months I have had more than enough. I lost my job because of this, I am losing my mind also. I would still want to reconcile but I can only do that if she is also willing.

[MCMLXXXII 29]

I would say you could always send the AOS. It won't be put into affect until your wife gets the visa and crosses into the US, making her a resident. Until then, it's just another paper submitted. So you can at least send that off in my opinion. If you want to hold off on paying the bill (so you might not lose $230), then that's where you might want to stop. Or, if you want to take one more step, you can pay the bill, but not send the IV package.

As for the relationship, I'm probably the wrong person to talk about it at the moment But, I'd suggest doing what I did, and sit down (as much as you can while apart) and just talk about things. Trust me, it helped me in the long run. Ask her what she wants, if she can have anything right now no matter the impossibility of it.

Ok so sending AOS package doesn't mean anything right now? I should send that? hmmm will have to think about this. But as was mentioned here the most important thing right now is resolving our issues and saving our marriage.

I need to start looking for work too but I am in no shape mentally to do that.

[CANtoUSlove 3]

That's a first, lol. Never seen a checklist for the DS-261. It's clear NVC has received it and processed it. I can't see your timeline at the moment, but did you recently send your AOS package in?

I did. I sent it the same day it showed as Paid.... Hubby called and they said to disregard the message. These crazy folks..

[Neela & Jitu 79]

Well I really tried for the last 6 months to get things working, I tried to go visit and resolve our differences but we have a big issue communicating. As much as I try we can't resolve our differences because she refuses to talk. She says the most hurtful things to me and from all that it looks like now she says that she will never love me, she will never have respect for me in her heart, and many other things. I would just wish for us to talk about our issues and work towards resolving them but she doesn't want to even talk to me. She never considered herself married, for her it was when we are living together we will be married. I did not like a few of the things she did which I don't expect any married person to do. I tried so much but last 2 months I have had more than enough. I lost my job because of this, I am losing my mind also. I would still want to reconcile but I can only do that if she is also willing.

Ohhh than bro im with you.Talk to her parents that what she thinks and up to other wise people will think its you who dumps her.BTW did you have any past relationship thats why she is mad at you?

Edited May 9, 2012 by Neela & Jitu

[MCMLXXXII 29]

Ohhh than bro im with you.Talk to her parents that what she thinks and up to other wise people will think its you who dumps her.BTW did you have any past relationship thats why she is mad at you?

I never did so.