Report her or Not?

[X Factor 1,112]

gather the evidence and give it to the husband.

let the husband decide on the action.

[John&Juvy 36]

Honestly, I would probably just mind my own business, specially if I'm not affected of to their marriage situation. But if the husband gonna come to me and ask me personally, then I will tell him coz I'm not gonna lie for her . But seriously, for me it's too complicated to get involve to other couples marriage, specially with the problem like this. Just my thought.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Everybody says "It's not my business" and that's exactly one of the problems with today's society.

Just today my husband drove past a labrador dog in the middle of a country road, no houses nearby. Alive but standing there looking confused. Completely drenched and wearing a collar. By most of the posts here most posters would just drive past that dog because it's "not your business". Not your dog, you don't know the dog, you don't know it's owners. My husband of course did NOT just drive past and long story short that dog is now home with it's owners. I am EXCEPTIONALLY proud of him for doing this. I would hope someone would do the same for us if they ever saw our dogs out and about. Slightly different situation of course but still someone getting into someone else's business.

My point is, sometimes things that don't appear to be "your business" really as a good person should be. Put yourself in this mans position... would YOU want to know? Would YOU trust someone you don't know telling you these things? How exactly do you tell this man? Do you have his contact information? Are you going to take photos of his wife doing things she shouldn't? How would you feel if there's part of this relationship that you don't know about? You're not friends with the girl anymore, you don't know the guy so you can't be SURE of what you know. These are all good questions but I'm sure that if in your position I too would feel I should do SOMETHING to warn him.

So, all you can do is anonymously tell this guy that he should hire a private detective to follow his wife because there's a lot of things he doesn't know about her. Like she still lives with the father of her children, and he is being scammed. That you believe that she will wait until she is there, then divorce him and then petition for her children's father. You could probably attach a photo of her holding hands with her live-in partner but there's no way to prove how old the photo is... I would send the anonymous email and then if he doesn't act on it, oh well. You tried. Your conscience is clear.

Edited April 29, 2012 by Vanessa&Tony

[Tahoma 2,292]

Chinook says...

I would just mind my own business.

Honestly, I would probably just mind my own business...

...karma will come to maria's way...

Tahoma says...

If you know the American, and you're sure of the facts, then you should tell him.

Ask yourself this question - if your hubby was cheating and scamming you would you want to know? Your answer to that question could be the guide to what you should do.

If you know the facts, the choice is obvious. Report her!

gather the evidence and give it to the husband.

let the husband decide on the action.

:pop:

[actob99 156]

By most of the posts here most posters would just drive past that dog because it's "not your business".

I would definitely not drive by the dog because that is so much important than what my neighbors are doing, who are not my frineds anymore as indicated by the poster!!!!!! Family or good friends???? YES, SIempre.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

I would definitely not drive by the dog because that is so much important than what my neighbors are doing, who are not my frineds anymore as indicated by the poster!!!!!! Family or good friends???? YES, SIempre.

So basically an animal is more important than a fellow human being's well-being? don't get me wrong... I prefer animals to most people I know but my point is unless she HATES this man and wishes him ill, then why is it not morally right to let this guy know at least what she knows or suspects? if he wants to act on it, he will. If he doesn't, he doesn't.

[Gumbolette 58]

Everybody says "It's not my business" and that's exactly one of the problems with today's society.

Just today my husband drove past a labrador dog in the middle of a country road, no houses nearby. Alive but standing there looking confused. Completely drenched and wearing a collar. By most of the posts here most posters would just drive past that dog because it's "not your business". Not your dog, you don't know the dog, you don't know it's owners. My husband of course did NOT just drive past and long story short that dog is now home with it's owners. I am EXCEPTIONALLY proud of him for doing this. I would hope someone would do the same for us if they ever saw our dogs out and about. Slightly different situation of course but still someone getting into someone else's business.

My point is, sometimes things that don't appear to be "your business" really as a good person should be. Put yourself in this mans position... would YOU want to know? Would YOU trust someone you don't know telling you these things? How exactly do you tell this man? Do you have his contact information? Are you going to take photos of his wife doing things she shouldn't? How would you feel if there's part of this relationship that you don't know about? You're not friends with the girl anymore, you don't know the guy so you can't be SURE of what you know. These are all good questions but I'm sure that if in your position I too would feel I should do SOMETHING to warn him.

So, all you can do is anonymously tell this guy that he should hire a private detective to follow his wife because there's a lot of things he doesn't know about her. Like she still lives with the father of her children, and he is being scammed. That you believe that she will wait until she is there, then divorce him and then petition for her children's father. You could probably attach a photo of her holding hands with her live-in partner but there's no way to prove how old the photo is... I would send the anonymous email and then if he doesn't act on it, oh well. You tried. Your conscience is clear.

I don't know the american husband of maria, nor have any form of connection to make.

And to answer one poster if this was just a gossip i knew from some people, It's not. My mom still lives in my house and She sees maria comes every so often and my mom can see from the second floor's window (not meaning to pry) that Maria and the live-in partner would lie down together at the their living room with tangled legs and eating popcorn together while watching a movie.

You see, I did put my shoes if this would have been me doing this s***, I asked my husband his opinion, he told me that he'd rather have somebody tell him and save his time, money and emotions for further damage than bringing this lady to the US just to divorce him, and claim "being abused" or what not, esp if there are children involved. Yes.

Like I said, I don't have any means on contacting the American husband, but rather maybe to notify the USEM.

Maria doesn't have any valid reasons to 1st, find another man instead the living partner because I know the live-in partner, he is very loving man, and responsible for their needs. 2nd, Maria doesn't have any valid reason also to cheat on the American husband because based from what my mom had told me, he is a die-hard Christian man who has great values, and definitely he doesn't deserve this skunk!!!

I DO appreciate your responses Fellas. I will weigh and consider your feedbacks until I make my decisions since this is a very sensitive matter. I would break a marriage, bring someone back to misery and shutter someone's dream.

Edited April 29, 2012 by Cutie_Patootie

[Tahoma 2,292]

...I would break a marriage, bring someone back to misery and shutter someone's dream.

it's not a marriage. It's a scam.

[Loolie 56]

My neighbor in the philippines was like that too but it wasnt american, it was japanese. And same like your neighbor there were kids involve too. We didnt do anything, the woman and live in partner separated in the end. Unlike the dog that vanessa was talking about...a dog cant do anything but depend on people to help them but a human...we have our own mind and make our own fate and sometimes you just have to ignore things like that bcoz its not our lives anyway its somebody else's life

[B_J 2,752]

All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing.

Edmund Burke

[adiiann 163]

I think I know what the OP been going to because sometimes conscience speaks louder.

Options:

1. If you know the guy's email. You can email him anonymously about his girl's immoral thing. You can give him hint if whats going on. That way you can tell your self that you tried to save the man's life.

2. Just don't get involve and pray that the guy will find out before its too late.

[Darnell 8,478]

I say drop a post card to the Kano, explaining all, including yer involvement.

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

2 At dawn he appeared again in the temple courts, where all the people gathered around him, and he sat down to teach them. 3 The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman caught in adultery. They made her stand before the group 4 and said to Jesus, “Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. 5 In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?” 6 They were using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him.

But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger. 7 When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.” 8 Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground.

9 At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there. 10 Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?”

11 “No one, sir,” she said.

“Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.” -- John 8:2-11

If it was me, and if one of the parties was known personally to me, I would counsel him or her to be careful in such a situation, without making any accusations, especially those of which I was uncertain, or couldn't prove.

The dog in the road calls for the act of a good Samaritan, not quite the same thing.

[Laser1 63]

I'd say report her, primarily because you do have first-hand knowledge about her actions. To make the report effective, be careful to stick with the facts that you know about what she is doing; try to avoid giving your opinions about her.

[rlogan 2,036]

She doesn't know how to reach him.