would it help to explain the age difference in the initial application??

[payxibka 10,047]

Believe me, I do see your point. But I don't think you are familiar with the procedures at some of these consulates. I have seen cases that are returned by the consulate before the beneficiary is allowed to present any evidence.

Care to cite specifics? Must have been for technical reasons because I can't returning a petition for reasons outside the scope and purview of the adjudicator.

You can browse the MENA forum and find many examples. Many 221g's doubting the validity of the relationship, and no, not for technicalities. I think we've all concluded that it is not correct procedure what they are doing, but they are doing it nonetheless. See jasal's post as well about China. This is a consulate specific issue, so if you're going through England, no one would ever suggest addressing red flags in the I-129F.

Understood. No more comments from me as I think I have "beat this to death".

[CarolineM 0]

Here's one...i've seen MANY but this is the first one I could rememebr the name of the person

Just called DOS this morning and was told that our petition was returned to USCIS from Chennai Embassy, and that it would be around 4 months before we would receive a letter. She said at that point we could appeal. Got on my phone to senator and was basically told they have no power to do anything except to check on cases for us. He said their office was told that the case was sent to fraud division, and we needed to be patient and let them look at our proofs. I asked him "what proofs? the embassy wouldnt take any and refused to look at most of what my fiance had."... Everytime my fiance tried to give proof or say something he was given the same reply, "sir we dont believe you ".

So what does this mean for us now? Do we just wait patiently for a denial after waiting a year already? I have heard that even appeals are not successful most of the time.

Any info would be helpful.. Im so near to just giving up ..

Thanks

Vicki/bala

[no name 1]

It would be a red flag even if you put in a line saying 'I know it's normally a red flag that she's older than I am, but trust me, we love each other.'

I agree. What good is that statment going to be? It's almost like you're trying to over-prove it?

[michellek1976 0]

I agree with Caladan. I thinking alerting USCIS to the age difference only shows the couples insecurity / discomfort about the issue.

There seems to be a high rate of young men from Middle Eastern/Asian countries with USC fiances 20+ years their senior.....

[no name 1]

There seems to be a high rate of young men from Middle Eastern/Asian countries with USC fiances 20+ years their senior.....

VERY high. Hmm.

[CarolineM 0]

that's not the only trend

[no name 1]

that's not the only trend

girls picking up hot Aussies while they are living in the States?

Edited October 11, 2006 by devilette

[CarolineM 0]

nope.

i used

www.hotaussiemen.com

[michellek1976 0]

There's more than a couple of years between me and my man but personally I can't get my head around the older woman, younger man thing. Mind due, 23 years my junior would put him in second grade!!

[katand7 0]

I have to side with those who say it is not necessary at this point. Why put any seed in someones head about scrutinizing your ages? I'm sure they can do the math. Just make sure you have all your evidence ready for later. Keep good records of everything you provide. Airline boarding passes, photographs, and the like are better evidence than any chat transcript.

[MariaEric 0]

There's more than a couple of years between me and my man but personally I can't get my head around the older woman, younger man thing. Mind due, 23 years my junior would put him in second grade!!

LOL Eric is 19 years older than me, as you i dont think i could do the ym/ow thing...my man is 43 and he already behaves like 15 sometimes

Age difference can be a red flag but i dont think you have to give the importance maybe not even the cosulate people will, if the question comes in the interview just be honest, until then dont worry

~maria

[KarenCee 3]

There's more than a couple of years between me and my man but personally I can't get my head around the older woman, younger man thing. Mind due, 23 years my junior would put him in second grade!!

It's not such a bad thing dear....age is just a number, although I realise that to the government it might not be "just a number" in some cases. To me, it's the maturity of each person in the relationship. My ex is older than me but was a very immature person. My husband now is younger than me but very mature for his age.

Of course, I am only giving my opinion on the matter

[Caladan 19]

What might be advisable is to run this by some of the ME/NA gals. I can't imagine explaining the age difference outright, again, because I can't think of an explanation that would help, but ask them: it might be worth it to include more than the usual amount of 'relationship proof' in the initial petition (if it's the case the ME/NA petitions are returned or decisions are made by the interview) to ensure the consulate sees it.

[Jenn! 918]

What might be advisable is to run this by some of the ME/NA gals. I can't imagine explaining the age difference outright, again, because I can't think of an explanation that would help, but ask them: it might be worth it to include more than the usual amount of 'relationship proof' in the initial petition (if it's the case the ME/NA petitions are returned or decisions are made by the interview) to ensure the consulate sees it.

I'm sure they will agree with me.

[Caladan 19]

There's a difference between extra relationship proof (perhaps advisable in this case) and trying to explain an age gap. ('Well, you see, her mommy and daddy loved each other very much 20 years before my parents did, and when mommies and daddies love each other very much.....')