AOS co sponsor wants to email his I-864, What can I do?

[sachinky 465]

You could do what we did. Mr. Sachinky, the USC petitioner, completed his documentation and then sent it to the joint sponsor who included his documents in it. This way my husband didn't get to see his private information. He then overnighted the entire I864 package to USCIS.

Of course, later on this joint sponsor caused far too much drama -- refused to send his W2 at the last minute. Wanted to directly email the consulate, yada yada. HUGE PIA. Thankfully, my FIL stepped in.

[aaron2020 11,651]

The lesson I learned from Mrs. Sachinky's post is that relying on a Joint Sponsor who may not understand how to properly file the I-864 can be a pain in #######.

If the Joint Sponsor is going to create drama now, what is going to happen when he is asked to disclose more information that is required to process his joint sponsorship?

How much drama are you prepared for?

Easier to go with a cooperative Joint Sponsor than trying to get a hardarse Joint Sponsor on board.

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Mrs. Sachinky, what would you suggest since you had to deal with an uncooperative Joint Sponsor? Knowing what you know now, would you have cut your Joint Sponsor loose and just go with your FIL?

Edited April 26, 2012 by aaron2020

[beejay 123]

It can be like pulling teeth when the process is not known by the sponsoring party. Joint sponsoring can be a hassle. Easy way is through RFE. It delays the process but the JS will feel in control of whom they allow to see their personal information. We can't argue with that. USCIS should understand that SS#s and income are displayed on the affidavit and come up with another way to protect their information.

I think this is another viable option too if the JS does not like the sealed envelope idea. Or if they decide they need time to think it over after their phone call to the misinformation line and you want to get on with the process.

We had a co-sponsor going during our K1 (I was working abroad at the time so my income did not count) and I admit I felt uncomfortable having all the personal financial information of our JS. I tried to be very respectful and sensitive to the fact that they entrusted me with that information.

Presumably, the OP knows their JS and should have an idea if they are just trying to be a PITA or just being protective of their information.

[Darnell 8,478]

I think it's a good thing to call,

and then the joint sponser will learn a bit.

Learning is Important.

In the end, he/she will learn it's impossible to email this stuff.

[sachinky 465]

The lesson I learned from Mrs. Sachinky's post is that relying on a Joint Sponsor who may not understand how to properly file the I-864 can be a pain in #######.

If the Joint Sponsor is going to create drama now, what is going to happen when he is asked to disclose more information that is required to process his joint sponsorship?

How much drama are you prepared for?

Easier to go with a cooperative Joint Sponsor than trying to get a hardarse Joint Sponsor on board.

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Mrs. Sachinky, what would you suggest since you had to deal with an uncooperative Joint Sponsor? Knowing what you know now, would you have cut your Joint Sponsor loose and just go with your FIL?

Of course, to make matters worse this JS was MY cousin. My father's elder brother's son who has been in the US for the past 20 years. After Mr. Sachinky popped the question, we started looking into immigration and realized that the I-864 would be an issue since we were just about to graduate. My dad asked my cousin -- frankly, I thought he'd refused (never has been too fond of me) but he did agree very enthusiastically. I thought it was because my dad is his favorite uncle and it was more for him than me. I didn't really want to ask my FIL at the beginning because, I mean, he didn't really know me too well, had met twice, in fact.

But I can't tell you how much last minute stress and anxiety this cousin of mine caused. In spite of the fact that I had told him right from the beginning (even before we had filed the I-130) what he'd need, he still delayed on the documents (not too long, but a week feels like a long time when you're stuck in immigration hell). He insulted my family -- I felt horrible for my dad. I didn't really give a damn what he said about me. He said I lied about when I had mailed the documents (even though postal offices in Maryland were closed due to winter storms on the east coast). Ugh, thinking about it just makes me mad.

I had also informed him that should our interview be held post-April 15, his recent taxes would be required. He refused to send them two weeks before the interview. Another blow-out. He then sent them in a sealed file but left out the W-2s just to be spiteful. Of course, he also emailed the embassy saying that I had asked for these things, and he didn't want to send them, were they really necessary? After all that family drama, we'd had enough, my FIL Fedexed me his papers. I also had a friend in NY who sent me her financial documents as a backup. So I went to the interview, with 3 different I-864s. First question with the pre-screener: who is (joint sponsor's) name? Second question: do you have his latest W-2? At that point, I just slipped my FIL's papers under the window and told her to use this one in case the other sponsor's papers were incomplete. I explained the situation to her, she said she'd keep both -- it was up to the CO to make the final decision. I was never told what her decision was.

Funny thing is, after 2 years, I still don't know who my joint sponsor officially is.

Anywho, take from that what you will.

Edited April 27, 2012 by sachinky