Married to a Filipina

[Mike's Lucy 14]

I just find it funny reading posts and comments here sometimes. The American husbands talk like they are an expert on Filipino cultures especially when it comes to family, money, marriage and education.

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

I just find it funny reading posts and comments here sometimes. The American husbands talk like they are an expert on Filipino cultures especially when it comes to family, money, marriage and education.

I agree! Defend yourself, woman!

[Dan and Judy 614]

I just find it funny reading posts and comments here sometimes. The American husbands talk like they are an expert on Filipino cultures especially when it comes to family, money, marriage and education.

Yeah that's silly, I didn't become an expert until my 3 rd Filipina wife.

[rlogan 2,036]

I just find it funny reading posts and comments here sometimes. The American husbands talk like they are an expert on Filipino cultures especially when it comes to family, money, marriage and education.

Yeah, we should make fun of them for learning about their wive's culture. Best to lump all the american husbands into the same durogatory group of "experts" too. There certainly can't be a single one of them that knows a thing about Filipino culture, right? (Kind of a misnomer because there are so many different cultures in the Philippines - but oh dear I fear bringing on more contempt for knowing too much)

Can you elaborate on what you find so repugnant about learing your wife's culture? And how bad it is to share that on an information board dedicated to just that kind of thing? Are there examples of cultural misunderstandings you are here to correct? Because if not then you have no business commenting derisively on people sharing accurate information.

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

Yeah, we should make fun of them for learning about their wive's culture. Best to lump all the american husbands into the same durogatory group of "experts" too. There certainly can't be a single one of them that knows a thing about Filipino culture, right? (Kind of a misnomer because there are so many different cultures in the Philippines - but oh dear I fear bringing on more contempt for knowing too much)

Can you elaborate on what you find so repugnant about learing your wife's culture? And how bad it is to share that on an information board dedicated to just that kind of thing? Are there examples of cultural misunderstandings you are here to correct? Because if not then you have no business commenting derisively on people sharing accurate information.

Easy there, Simba! I would like to here some Pinay perspective on the various topics discussed so far. Many Filipinos must have itchy ears, and more than a few might have been choking from the comments.

[rlogan 2,036]

I would like to here some Pinay perspective on the various topics discussed so far.

Who dosn't? So if there is some cultural misconception going on then out with it. Let's hear it. We have one loose cannon right now blundering around and others occasionally but it certainly isn't representative so it should be addressed specifically to them and not all american husbands.

[JoBri 548]

Who dosn't? So if there is some cultural misconception going on then out with it. Let's hear it. We have one loose cannon right now blundering around and others occasionally but it certainly isn't representative so it should be addressed specifically to them and not all american husbands.

You betcha...

Frankly, I am ashamed of how little I know about my wife's culture. I feel I should know more by now, but with all that is going on in our lives I never get/make the time for it. If my huge body were the culture, I might know half a fingernail of it.

It just isnt right for people to lump all people of this or that nationality or ethnicity or culture together in the same view or opinion. But if you do it aint no sweat off my back because the only people who really count in my life is my wife and my son. Their opinions really, really matter to me. I am just saying that until you have read the book, you just dont know the story. Now lets see if you can figure that expression out OP, and report back, hehe. This is school here

[Crashed~N2~Me 970]

Yeah that's silly, I didn't become an expert until my 3 rd Filipina wife.

Awwwww ....Dan...you added the word "wife" to your sentence. That's really nice of you. Awwwww..,.let's make it 2 :star: You deserve it.

Edited April 24, 2012 by Crashed~N2~Me

[Crashed~N2~Me 970]

Yeah, we should make fun of them for learning about their wive's culture. Best to lump all the american husbands into the same durogatory group of "experts" too. There certainly can't be a single one of them that knows a thing about Filipino culture, right? (Kind of a misnomer because there are so many different cultures in the Philippines - but oh dear I fear bringing on more contempt for knowing too much)

Can you elaborate on what you find so repugnant about learing your wife's culture? And how bad it is to share that on an information board dedicated to just that kind of thing? Are there examples of cultural misunderstandings you are here to correct? Because if not then you have no business commenting derisively on people sharing accurate information.

OP did not state - finds "learning" "repugnant".

OP stated - finds humor in the "expert" image being posted (by American husbands) "sometimes".

Let's be careful with the word smithing. Can sometimes be viewed as deliberate twisting and manipulative.

(I too hope the OP will elaborate on the intent of this thread. Might be an opportunity to "learn".)

Edited April 24, 2012 by Crashed~N2~Me

[Dan and Judy 614]

Has anybody every met a Filipina that didn't have a nick name?

[gretchen_darren 67]

my wife and I discuss some of the threads.... some I find interesting or some which bother me or make me worry about our relationship. I let her read the posts and then get her opinion without saying anything. I am no expert in Filipino culture, but I have lived it, walked in it, and immersed myself in it. the only expert I try to be is an expert in my wife. Knowing her. I talk with her daily about her village, her family, what she used to do, what school was like, food, things she likes here, things she misses there. When we may go back. How can we help her family, how can we take care of our family here. What she wishes to do. What means the most to her. What is important to her. How important is family. Our main problem is even though family is close, we still live a distance away from some family. So it is like we are alone much of the time. It is taking tome to make new friends.

[Dan and Judy 614]

We have one loose cannon right now blundering around and others occasionally but it certainly isn't representative so it should be addressed specifically to them and not all american husbands.

don't forget the bull in the china shop and the catcher in the rye and the one with the short fuze

[~happyndinlove~ 540]

I just find it funny reading posts and comments here sometimes. The American husbands talk like they are an expert on Filipino cultures especially when it comes to family, money, marriage and education.

Well, is it because arrogance?.. or... is it because ignorance? or... for some, maybe both?

My husband spent almost 8 months in the Philippines while waiting for our visa. During that time, hubby was constantly exposed to many diffrent Filipinos and our culture and yet, hubby has never considered or presented himself as an "expert" on Filipino / culture. Even still, hubby considers himself a "student" learning about the Philippines, Filipinos and most importantly, ME!

[The Nature Boy 4,224]

I just find it funny reading posts and comments here sometimes. The American husbands talk like they are an expert on Filipino cultures especially when it comes to family, money, marriage and education.

The only thing all this has taught me is that all women have some basic hard coded characteristics no matter what culture or country they come from. P.S.

I love my wife from the Philippines and the above statement was not a show of dissatisfaction

[Hank_ 9,174]

Has anybody every met a Filipina that didn't have a nick name?

Heck has anybody met ANYONE that doesn't have a nickname?