honeymoon with the WHOLE family?

[Henia 11]

LOLOLOL you will soon find out Doodle... it has it very own special cultured way of making and serving An art in its self

Henia...

Do you find that Ahmed's family treats you more like one of them because you were married to an Arab once before and have a child who is Arab? I find that I was more accepted as "one of them" because of this.

I have found by me being what they call a *real* Muslim I have been accepted more. Ahmed has told the close family (like his half brothers and sisters, aunts and uncles) that I was married before to an arabe and have a arabe child...which for the most part they seem to not even take notice of...I have had a few people ask me if the father supports my daughter and what he thought of me remarrying... but of course you and I both know the answer to that But I must say knowing many muslim and typical to all arabe countries's customs has helped me much ... like how to make and properly serve tea/coffee and how to call who in the family..(like my husband's mother's sister who is staying with us is amti)

How does one "properly" make and serve tea??

[ya falaha! 0]

Hahaha in Egypt there's not such a thing. Like rahma said...put tea granules in a glass and add boiling water and loads of sugar. Voila..tea! Just don't mistake the salt container for the sugar container like I did once and give your husband salted tea. That was cute.

Edited October 12, 2006 by moody

[Jenn! 918]

LOLOLOL you will soon find out Doodle... it has it very own special cultured way of making and serving An art in its self

In Algeria is it like it is in Morocco? They pour it from up high, and then dump it back into the pot, pour again, dump, etc.... I swear at one point I thought my SIL was going go to the top of the staircase to pour it, she kept getting higher and higher!

Edited October 12, 2006 by jenn3539

[UmmSqueakster 54]

Just don't mistake the salt container for the sugar container like I did once and give your husband salted tea. That was cute.

And that is why I now always taste tea or coffee before I give it to my husband

[Bosco 1]

Yeah I know what you mean about the "real" Muslim thing. The fact that I've been Muslim nearly 12 yrs and have Muslim children and what not means that I'm a "real" Muslim to them. They feel different about the women who become Muslim around the same time that they either meet or marry their husbands. My family feels more comfortable about my sons because they're Arab and Muslim. They have pics of my sons in their home. Everyone knows that I've been married and have children not only the immediate family. It's not an issue with them alhamdulilah.

I have to say that for my husband's family what is important ot them is how their son's wives (future wives) treat their son(s) and how that woman carries herself. They would not feel differently about a person regardless of whether they were a new convert, long-time convert or Muslim all their life. In their neighborhood, men have married European women who have converted and become more pious than their husbands, and there are also people in the neighborhood who have been Muslims all their life who spoke hashish and steal, so they would never consider one more "real" than the other.

Likewise, I cannot see his family accepting a woman (or children) more for one of his brothers based on the ethnicity of her former husband. I think the main thing that matters to them is the respect the woman shows herself and their son.

[Aymerlu 3]

Hahaha in Egypt there's not such a thing. Like rahma said...put tea granules in a glass and add boiling water and loads of sugar. Voila..tea! Just don't mistake the salt container for the sugar container like I did once and give your husband salted tea. That was cute.

LOL! I thought I was the only person that had done that

[ya falaha! 0]

LOL...I think it's because they tend to reuse old jelly jars or plastic food containers to use as storage so you can't tell if it's sugar or salt. That's what happened to me anyways. Ah well it gave the family a good laugh.

[Aymerlu 3]

Oh those are all so pretty! I"m gonna take everyone's advice though and stop here with the buying. I'm between a size 12 and a 14 so hopefully the clothes there will fit me. I've lost a lot of weight over the past year and I used to shop at Roamans.com all the time but I think if I keep losing the weight this will be my last purchase. I do like their clothes though 'cause they have tons and tons of tunics and I like my clothes looser rather than tighter for obvious reasons.

Thanks!

Clothing size isn't an issue in Egypt.

Snaps...hmmm I wonder if I can talk my husband into a camel ride across NA for a Egyptian shopping spree... LOL just joking... I can still find clothes that fit this big *** here

On a side note I am dying to ride a camel. Just thought of a new thread idea! lol

The camel I rode my first visit to Egypt I swear was possessed. AND it was like BALD This camel kept falling down on his front legs and I would go almost flying over his neck! I'd grab the camels neck and the camel would grunt at me. Every I was with got a good laugh though.

LOL...I think it's because they tend to reuse old jelly jars or plastic food containers to use as storage so you can't tell if it's sugar or salt. That's what happened to me anyways. Ah well it gave the family a good laugh.

Yep, second visit, I would taste what was in the jars before I put it in the tea

[jordanianprincess 0]

Yeah I know what you mean about the "real" Muslim thing. The fact that I've been Muslim nearly 12 yrs and have Muslim children and what not means that I'm a "real" Muslim to them. They feel different about the women who become Muslim around the same time that they either meet or marry their husbands. My family feels more comfortable about my sons because they're Arab and Muslim. They have pics of my sons in their home. Everyone knows that I've been married and have children not only the immediate family. It's not an issue with them alhamdulilah.

I have to say that for my husband's family what is important ot them is how their son's wives (future wives) treat their son(s) and how that woman carries herself. They would not feel differently about a person regardless of whether they were a new convert, long-time convert or Muslim all their life. In their neighborhood, men have married European women who have converted and become more pious than their husbands, and there are also people in the neighborhood who have been Muslims all their life who spoke hashish and steal, so they would never consider one more "real" than the other.

Likewise, I cannot see his family accepting a woman (or children) more for one of his brothers based on the ethnicity of her former husband. I think the main thing that matters to them is the respect the woman shows herself and their son.

I completly agree here. You are accepted because of how you conduct yourself. It has nothing to do with being married to arab before, if anything previous marriages don't even play in our favor. As Henia said, only his close family knew about her previous marriage and child and the same goes for me. It was not advertised to anyone that I was previously married. It was something we shared only with the immediate family, I knew this was going to happen beforehand so it didn't really bother me.

[ya falaha! 0]

I wasn't saying I was only accepted because I was previously married to an Arab but since I was I knew more about the customs and expected behaviors. That's more of the reason why I adapted to the family so quickly.

[jordanianprincess 0]

I wasn't saying I was only accepted because I was previously married to an Arab but since I was I knew more about the customs and expected behaviors. That's more of the reason why I adapted to the family so quickly.

I could say that you learned alot of that just by being in Detroit which is the Arab capital of the US. Its a compliment actually. You wanted to learn and you picked it up regardless of your previous marriage. My brother has been married to an American woman for 13 years and she won't even try Mahshi!!!!! She knows nothing about our culture and doesnt want to learn.

[ya falaha! 0]

That is very true also. I was REALLY interested in ME/NA culture from a young age. I was just fascinated with everything having to do with ME/NA. When I married my first husband I was ready, willing, and able to adapt to his culture. It, in a way, became my own.

[sarah and hicham 3]

Henia...

Do you find that Ahmed's family treats you more like one of them because you were married to an Arab once before and have a child who is Arab? I find that I was more accepted as "one of them" because of this.

I didn't think that the ME/NA inlaws would be very impressed that you were previously married and have children regardless of their race or religion? My past relationship was never a topic of conversation with Hicham or his family. I think they were happy that I had never been married though. I don't think one can win points because their kids from a previous marriage are Muslim, but maybe I am wrong? I thought that in some families who are traditional or strict that the family wouldn't want their children marrying someone who was divorced with children... but the times do change!

[ya falaha! 0]

I really think it depends on the family. Mine doesn't have a problem with me being divorced or having children. My husband personally feels more comfortable that our children together (inshallah) will be of the same religion as their brothers. My husband and his family also feel more comfortable that he married a Muslim woman. But like I said..it depends on the family.

Henia...

Do you find that Ahmed's family treats you more like one of them because you were married to an Arab once before and have a child who is Arab? I find that I was more accepted as "one of them" because of this.

I didn't think that the ME/NA inlaws would be very impressed that you were previously married and have children regardless of their race or religion? My past relationship was never a topic of conversation with Hicham or his family. I think they were happy that I had never been married though. I don't think one can win points because their kids from a previous marriage are Muslim, but maybe I am wrong? I thought that in some families who are traditional or strict that the family wouldn't want their children marrying someone who was divorced with children... but the times do change!

Edited October 12, 2006 by moody

[Veiled Princess 1]

I didn't think that the ME/NA inlaws would be very impressed that you were previously married and have children regardless of their race or religion? My past relationship was never a topic of conversation with Hicham or his family. I think they were happy that I had never been married though. I don't think one can win points because their kids from a previous marriage are Muslim, but maybe I am wrong? I thought that in some families who are traditional or strict that the family wouldn't want their children marrying someone who was divorced with children... but the times do change!

It is not haraam in Islam to divorce or remarry afterwards... the prophet was married to a divorcee I would think it would be frowned upon more so if one had premarital relations prior to their marriage but I could be wrong