What is your (back-up) plan should you be denied the K-1?

[LeftCoastLady 441]

I would have married my wife in Vietnam and filed a CR1 petition. If that was denied then I would have moved to Vietnam to live with her while we went through the appeals process. If we had exhausted all possible chances of getting a visa then I would have lived in Vietnam the rest of my life.

[D N Medellin COL 75]

If you cannot prove bona-fide relationship because the Embassy feels you guys have not spent enough time together "in person" and denies your K-1 VISA, what would you do? Would you start all over from scratch, or would you try for the IR-1/CR-1 VISA?

For me and my fiancee, in the very unlikely event that we be denied we have actually discussed this, no problem, we both agree that this would be a sign to take a different approach, let go and live, perhaps I would move for a while to her country, perhaps marry in Colombia, a bit of travel for me for a few years, apply later. We have built a very strong trust and commitment in our relationship.

I actually think that the 5 to 8 month wait time for the K-1 process is actually a good thing as it separates those that want to "play house" from those wanting and deserving a great relationship and who are willing to put in the time, be patient and put the effort into it. It is not for the faint of heart.

Great question!

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

Every consulate has their own way of determining the relationships validity. Some places hand visas out like candy, I am suprised they even check if you met at all. At the other end there is Nigeria. You had better have things that aren't asked for in other places and you need to either be Nigerian born or spend significant time with your intended. From my watching the number they want is about 30 days. Those days can be one or many trips. They are aware of the number of people that get their visas and depart the relationship on arrival ( solo ROC petitions ) Many of the people that fail at Lagos fail for a reason. Even significant time together doesn't prevent fraud, and the discover of the hidden second wife but it helps.

[Boiler 45,525]

I can only remember reading one case where the couple could not move. Both had pretty nasty criminal convictions, drugs. He could not move to the US, she could not move to the Uk and neither could move anywhere else.

So usually there is always an option.

[Alaskan 10]

When my now husband did the I 129f for me. We were together for two years long distance relationship.(we met on match.com) And since he is not rich he couldn't afford to visit me that much but in one year he went three times to see me for a week, then the second year he went twice. We sent pictures of us together in our excursions in my country, we sent emails(not too many but enough) we sent phone calls bills, airplanes tickects, chat history and tickets from the movies theaters we went.. And my visa was approved. The official at the consulate only ask me (infront of my husband) three questions; when we met? (I said the year wrong lol and my husband just look at me like OMG) then she asked me what did he do for living and to show her the phone calls bills.. That was all.. Then she said congrats and said to wait for my passport to arrived in the mail with my visa! that was the most happy day for us and today and just waiting to become a citizen and we are still happily married!

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

Our original plan was Denmark, but he is ineligible to sponsor me for another two years. America is the backup plan and if it fails, then off to the UK since I am also a citizen there.

[rlogan 2,036]

There's no question we're moving to the Philippines, the only issue is whether it is sooner instead of later. We want the kids to grow up in a free country, and it is way cheaper to live there too. There's no emergency but we are not sure what on earth is holding up her removal of conditions. Something is wrong, but so be it.

A lot of US Ex-Pats retire there. The interesting thing about that is you don't hear the retirees putting on the big martyr act about how much they sacrificed to move to the Philippines. Might have to send her there for a year or something while liquidating real estate, investments, and transforming the work product.

Geez, I had been there many times and seen way more of the Philippines than she ever has before I ever met her. The only grave concern about immigrating there is the targeting of Americanos in kidnap-for-ransom, robbery, assassination, MILF political hostage-type crimes. The more remote you go, the more you stick out, and the greater this threat becomes. The way most ex-pats are dealing with that is living in gated communities with a guard at an entry road. Hiding out in their air-conditioned cottages in the suberbs of Manila, or Cebu, Dumaguete, Davao, etc. Manila is quite a bit more expensive living.

But I can't live like that. So we'll keep looking for a place that is relatively remote but has a reasonable gangsterism threat level.

Edited April 16, 2012 by rlogan

[Mrs. NSA 6]

Scary thought.. I was caring for my ill mother who pasted away in September and I have two small boys, so moving to NZ was alot harder for me, so it was decided he move here, but if we would have been denied, I would have gone there hands down, it would have been hard with my boys, but you have to do what you have to do, would have had joint custody with their fathers and they would have been international children lol.