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suganspyce42   5

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Malaysia
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I just got to US less than 3 weeks now,and I notice that my wife is having a serious lover here.And I got my hand on their pictures together,mail and e-mail,they exchange...And all these are showing in her characters,talking to me anyhow.,telling me that she will send me back to where I came from because she doesn't see my used here.She will buy me the ticket to go.After she let me quit my job,my school,my everything,get here,this is the surprise she has for me.I am so confused.But i did not let her know i know everything about she and her man.People what should I do?

OMG! I am devastated for you....It never amazes me that people can be so cruel and heartless. I offer you my deepest sympathy, if infact this is what you're facing (not implying that you're not telling the truth). It's only been 3 weeks and she has flipped the script so soon. Were there tell-tell signs before? I am so sorry and frankly I don't know where to begin or even advise you on this situation. Just want to express my sympathy for you. Stay strong, there are a lot of expert advisers here on vj and I am sure you will get what you need and looking for.

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Leatherneck
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Another one - what is going on today? In one day we have 3 relationships gone sideways, 2 wives and a fiancee. OP, fortunately your GC is en route, but unfortunately your faith appears to be headed

myshel06
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WOW...umm im sorry to hear about that.... I just wanted to send you my condolences for that.. Good Luck

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Something similar happened to me many years ago except I wasn't married to him. It's an awful place to be. So sorry for you. In my case I had no choice but to go back home. If you try to stay she c

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unlockingsky   94

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: China
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i think she is letting you know that she isn't with you anymore. she has difficulty talking to you in my opinion and there is no other way for her to express it.

i wish you the best. my thoughts for you is to tell her you love her and you will give up on her for her to achieve happiness.

life isn't over for you.

"Family time is very precious and you should cherish every moment of it."

01/20/12 - I-130 sent to Chicago Lockbox.

01/26/12 - NOA1 received and processing at Vermont.

06/28/12 - NOA2 announced on status check.

06/29/12 - NVC received case learned on 07/2/12.

06/30/12 - Hard copy NOA2 received.

07/09/12 - NVC Casefile Number and IIN Issued.

07/16/12 - Receive and Sent DS-3032 via email.

07/17/12 - Mailed DS-3032 via mail, AOS bill received via email, paid online, Optin email sent.

07/18/12 - Optin accepted and new case number, AOS marked paid, emailed AOS packet.

07/24/12 - Assigned as Agent, IV Fee bill received via email, paid online.

07/25/12 - IV Fee marked paid, emailed IV packet.

07/31/12 - Emailed GZO Supplemental Packet 3.

08/02/12 - Case completed and commenced final review.

08/03/12 - Shipped all copies of forms/letters/documents to my wife - arriving on 8/9/12.

08/06/12 - Case completed final review.

08/09/12 - Appointment letter received via email interview date set 9/6/12.

08/14/12 - Medical exam done.

08/15/12 - Medical exam results all normal.

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10/20/12 - Received welcome letter from USCIS.

10/25/12 - Green Card received!

"Nothing is more difficult than the art of maneuvering for advantageous positions." - Sun-Tzu

04/27/13 - Submitted DS-160 online for parent-in-laws and sister-in-law.

05/01/13 - Paid DS-160 or MRV Fee Payments on CGI Stanley.

05/03/13 - Made appointment for 05/16/13 on CGI Stanley.

05/16/13 - Arrived at GUZ and impromptu notice on the front it was closed.

05/30/13 - B2 visa interview passed! Read review here http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/433263-b2-visa-was-approved-for-parentinlaw/ <p>

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08/08/14 - Mailed I-175 application.

08/11/14 - I-175 arrived at VSC.

08/18/14 - Received NOA1 with date 08/12/14.

08/27/14 - Received biometrics appointment for 09/09/14.

02/27/15 - GC in production from email notification.

03/02/15 - Received NOA2 with approval dated 02/25/15.

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J&N*   68

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If you get your GC you can stay and ROC on your own. Personally I'd go back home and be around my family and friends. This is a great country, but you can feel lonely fast, and with no one worth staying for, my choice would be getting support from my loved ones especially if something so hurtful happened to me.

I'm sorry... wish you the best.

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VIVISENA Apprentice

VIVISENA   3

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Ghana
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Something similar happened to me, kind of vice versa. I'm assuming, from your profile, that you are here on a CR1 and have not received your GC yet. I would make an InfoPass appt and speak to them about your options. She cannot send you back. But what will happen is, if she decides she does not want to be with you anymore, the chances of you staying after your 2 yr GC expires are slim. When this happened to me, I went right away to an InfoPass appt and they were very helpful.....I strongly suggest you do the same. They told me things that I never read on this site. What I would NOT do is confront her about the emails, etc.....but ABSOLUTELY print them out and begin collecting evidence from NOW about her infidelity. This will help you in the long run.

I will be so grateful if you can get a feed back for me as soon as possible from info pass.Am so confused.

TBoneTX Grand Master

TBoneTX   45,550

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Were there tell-tell signs before?
Her previous relationship history.

06-04-2007 = TSC stamps postal return-receipt for I-129f.

06-11-2007 = NOA1 date (unknown to me).

07-20-2007 = Phoned Immigration Officer; got WAC#; where's NOA1?

09-25-2007 = Touch (first-ever).

09-28-2007 = NOA1, 23 days after their 45-day promise to send it (grrrr).

10-20 & 11-14-2007 = Phoned ImmOffs; "still pending."

12-11-2007 = 180 days; file is "between workstations, may be early Jan."; touches 12/11 & 12/12.

12-18-2007 = Call; file is with Division 9 ofcr. (bckgrnd check); e-prompt to shake it; touch.

12-19-2007 = NOA2 by e-mail & web, dated 12-18-07 (187 days; 201 per VJ); in mail 12/24/07.

01-09-2008 = File from USCIS to NVC, 1-4-08; NVC creates file, 1/15/08; to consulate 1/16/08.

01-23-2008 = Consulate gets file; outdated Packet 4 mailed to fiancee 1/27/08; rec'd 3/3/08.

04-29-2008 = Fiancee's 4-min. consular interview, 8:30 a.m.; much evidence brought but not allowed to be presented (consul: "More proof! Second interview! Bring your fiance!").

05-05-2008 = Infuriating $12 call to non-English-speaking consulate appointment-setter.

05-06-2008 = Better $12 call to English-speaker; "joint" interview date 6/30/08 (my selection).

06-30-2008 = Stokes Interrogations w/Ecuadorian (not USC); "wait 2 weeks; we'll mail her."

07-2008 = Daily calls to DOS: "currently processing"; 8/05 = Phoned consulate, got Section Chief; wrote him.

08-07-08 = E-mail from consulate, promising to issue visa "as soon as we get her passport" (on 8/12, per DHL).

08-27-08 = Phoned consulate (they "couldn't find" our file); visa DHL'd 8/28; in hand 9/1; through POE on 10/9 with NO hassles(!).

Samantha78 Proficient

Samantha78   117

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Dominican Republic
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Whats up with the unfaithful wives and fiances today? Love is the strongest force on the planet and peoples hearts should not be played with like dice.

-sigh-

Talk to a lawyer and see what your options are. Google "free immigration services" and find out whats available in your area.

I'm sorry you're going through all this.

***Hugs***

I agree.....Love should be an unbreakable bond and nowadays it's apparently not in style to be faithful or respectful to the person you are in a relationship with.

I second that -sigh- ......

Married: 6/17/11

I-130 Sent: 7/9/11

NOA1 : 7/14/11

I-129F Sent: 7/21/11

NOA1: 7/21/11

NOA2: 8/22/11

NVC Received: 8/24/11

NVC Left: 8/26/11

Consulate Received: 9/5/11

Packet 4 Received: 10/4/11

Medical Done: 11/7/11

Interview: 11/23/11

Approved: 11/23/11

Changed to CR1: 12/16/11

Medical Re-Done: 1/5/12

Waiting for Issuance of Visa.........

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ralphlaw   14

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You need to get a good lawyer, now. Even before you confront her.

I was in a similar situation, but I realized it way too late. I could have made much better decisions. Small things, like what documents to collect and make sure I had, what evidence to put together. That would make my life a hundred times easier today.

The problem is that it's hard to keep a level head in that type of situation. I did the opposite of the best thing to do. I actually threw away everything I had of hers when we split up, lol! Emotional thinking a good lawyer would have helped me steer clear of.

Talk to a lawyer, find out what your options are. Even if it's just a few consultations. Wish I did.

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keyshawn18   52

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Ghana
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I don't know why people keep suggesting that the guy get a lawyerr. Lawyers are not cheap.He said he just got to the US 3 WEEKS AGO.It is highly unlikely that he is working, he doesnt even have a green card.The best solution s for him to try and work it out with his wife and if it doesnt work he can go back home.He has sacrificed so much to get here already, leaving his school and his job to come here.

jjbandero Enthusiast

jjbandero   39

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Filed: Lift. Cond. (apr) Country: Australia
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Please correct me if I'm wrong, I think the OP said he arrived on a CR1? Doesn't this mean that unless there are some other issues, he should be receiving his 10-year card soon and there's no need to ROC? If so, then perhaps he just needs to stay calm, decide on what he would like to do next in terms of his marriage?

The important thing is not to engage with her in any kind of confrontation where she could claim you abused her, that would create all sorts of legal issues for you as domestic violence is taken quite seriously.

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ceadsearc   516

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Filed: Lift. Cond. (apr) Country: Bolivia
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If he came on a CR-1 he will receive his GC right away BUT CR-1 is different from IR-1. CR-1 is for marriages less than 2 years and DOES require ROC which may be difficult if the marriage dissolved after 3 weeks in the US.

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VIVISENA Apprentice

VIVISENA   3

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Ghana
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Well Friends how can I report and abuse to immigration?OR who should I report to?Or who ?my wife is really treating me so bad.She told me she give me 2 weeks to leave her house or she will leave.She received my social security,keep it for about 5 days open it before given it to me.

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VIVISENA   3

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Welll it been a while now but I am still alive.And doing good as i got my CR1 green card and working now.

I posted here sometime now about my unfaitfull wife story before,and Thankx all for your help.

This is the new developpement.

After she abused me psychologicaly good,file for divorce,live me to go and stay with her new boyfriend,

throught me out of her house by police,go and lie to get and EPO against me which the Judge did not issue,

she go back trying to dismiss the divorce petition,and pleading that she want me back after all pain,

She move to another state pleading that I should join her there WONDERFULL...

What do u think friends...???Should I give her a chance again or just forget her.

 
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