=((((((((( Fiance just found out he has cancer

[Vox 0]

Hi,

My sympathy and good wishes. Hope everything goes well.

Perhaps you can find a job in Canada and work on the TN visa; Americans are eligible to apply for one if they find a job in Canada.

[ljs 1]

Hi,

My sympathy and good wishes. Hope everything goes well.

Perhaps you can find a job in Canada and work on the TN visa; Americans are eligible to apply for one if they find a job in Canada.

The TN visa requires you are a certain professional, hold certain degrees and have a job offer in hand. It is not enough to just be an American to be eligible. As well, it is a non immigrant visa and you have to prove that you have no intent to immigrate...near impossible when you have a SO in the reciprocal country and are pursuing an immigrant visa, I would imagine.

[sheeba 0]

Oh God! Im so sorry!!! May God help you both!

[Cygnet 0]

Lyric, I'm so sorry to hear about what you and your fiance are going through. I haven't been in VJ for awhile and don't have any advice to give. But I do agree with the other posters about him staying in Canada to get treatment. Good luck, and I'll keep you in my prayers.

[MarieAnastasia 0]

God bless you both.............I wish I had some answers or a solution for you. But I have to agree with others that it would be better if your fiance stay in Canada and get medical care and for you to go to him. You are in our thoughts and prayers............................{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}

[Lyric 0]

I spent a large sum of money to make an emergency trip to see him over the weekend. Something we both needed. For now we have postponed the interview and he will stay in Canada. I don't know what will happen next. I've never been so stressed and upset about anything in my life. Please just continue to keep us in your prayers.

[MaryandMian 1]

Will do and glad to hear that you were able to go and see him now. Take each day as it comes and try not to overwhelm yourself.

Mary

[mybackpages 0]

I spent a large sum of money to make an emergency trip to see him over the weekend. Something we both needed. For now we have postponed the interview and he will stay in Canada. I don't know what will happen next. I've never been so stressed and upset about anything in my life. Please just continue to keep us in your prayers.

Take care of yoursefl so you can help take care of him. I'm sure the visit was bittersweet. I am glad you get to be with you and hope you can be with him again soon. You are in our prayers

[zimmy33 0]

Hi Lyric,

I am a health care professional that practices in the Hospital system in Toronto, Canada. First of all, if you or your husband do not have health care insurance in the USA, then it is prudent to have his cancer care done in Canda. Depending on the Province you are in, the care will vary. However, 100% of his hospital care will be covered by the government health care system in Canada.

2nd of all, if he doesn't have any income or monies or assets, then he can see a social worker in the hospital system (even if he is not yet hospitalized). Every hospital will have a social worker that is either associated with an outpatient clinic (in his case the Oncology unit) or an inpatient ward.

Because he is now officially diagnosed with cancer, he will qualify for government income and drug plan coverage. As well, because he is seriously ill, the social worker can make an application on his behalf/ help him expedite his application for subsidized housing.

So his illness, to some degree, will increase the stability of his personal housing situation, as well as his income situation.

If I were you, as an American, can you get some time off, and come over as a visitor? I don't know the legalities of staying beyond 6 months between Canada and the USA... but perhaps your congressman can speak to the Premier of the Province your husband is in, and request a special stay or expedited process for you to work and live in Canada, given the extrenuating circumstances.

You may also want to see an immigration lawyer in Canada, given your husband's care is covered here, and hence he is tethered to Canada (so to speak until his cancer is in "remission").

If you have the money, or the insurance, then cancer care in the USA is probably superior. However, if you do not have health care coverage, then he is probably better off being in Canada for now.

Also remember, that with cancer, there is surgery, hospitalization, chemotherapy, and radiation therapy. Furthermore, post surgery, he will probably need physiotherapy and other types of care and education, depending on his surgery.

You guys are in for a long haul of living in Canada for his cancer therapy. Furthermore, even if his cancer does go into remission, he will need regular check ups with the oncologist to ensure his cancer remains in remission.

Canada's social system is adequate. I do not know what the US system is like.

If the US system will provide him with immediate government covered health plan coverage, as well as some income subsidy, then perhaps bringing to the states is an option. But I can tell you now, for sure, for sure, the social network is in place in Canada... such that his hospitalizations, and all drugs and care while in hospital will be covered. Some provinces also cover dental and drug care, but in Ontario, you need to be disabled (in his case) to get such coverage.

Good luck.

[zimmy33 0]

Hi Lyric,

Sorry, I thought you guys were married. there are 6 pages, and I read the 1st 2 and the last 2 pages.

When you visit Canada again, or maybe by phone, you need to speak to an immigration lawyer in Canada (if your plans are to stay in Canada).

What situation would help you stay and reside in Canada faster and easier? Being married or not being married? If being married expediates it, then should the ceremony be in Canada or the USA? I have a feeling that being a married spouse would carry more weight. And probably it is easier if you get married in Canada.

Also, from a health care perspective, remember that by being married, you have more authority to be involved in his health care, as well as have acces to his health care information.

He needs to speak to a social worker ASAP though. They can help with housing, finances, and drug plan coverage. It's something he can do in Canada (without you being present). With a diagnosis like cancer, he can also probably get homecare assistance and perhaps even a visiting RN to see him at home. All these services are covered by the government.

So--- let him look into social assistance. You can look into the best way to get yourself over to Canada, and what your legal options are. Getting married via civil ceremony in Canada may be something you'll have to consider.

Sorry about your situation. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Take care.

[Buttons 0]

Hi Lyric,

Sorry, I thought you guys were married. there are 6 pages, and I read the 1st 2 and the last 2 pages.

When you visit Canada again, or maybe by phone, you need to speak to an immigration lawyer in Canada (if your plans are to stay in Canada).

What situation would help you stay and reside in Canada faster and easier? Being married or not being married? If being married expediates it, then should the ceremony be in Canada or the USA? I have a feeling that being a married spouse would carry more weight. And probably it is easier if you get married in Canada.

Also, from a health care perspective, remember that by being married, you have more authority to be involved in his health care, as well as have acces to his health care information.

He needs to speak to a social worker ASAP though. They can help with housing, finances, and drug plan coverage. It's something he can do in Canada (without you being present). With a diagnosis like cancer, he can also probably get homecare assistance and perhaps even a visiting RN to see him at home. All these services are covered by the government.

So--- let him look into social assistance. You can look into the best way to get yourself over to Canada, and what your legal options are. Getting married via civil ceremony in Canada may be something you'll have to consider.

Sorry about your situation. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Take care.

Zimmy is right on the dot. I being a healthcare professional also stand behind her statements.

[Leafgal 3]

Lyric, I am glad you were able to get up here to Canada to visit with your fiance, I have you both in my prayers and hope all goes well with everything you are both going through.

[Lyric 0]

Thank you for the information, Zimmy. I'll take it all into consideration.

[Reba 2]

For Canadian immigration married or not doesn't matter. Canada allows (and has for quite some time) common-law and conjugal partner immigration. Canada is a common-law country, they don't care if you get married or not. Which is why there isn't an equivalent fiance visa. You're a partner, first and foremost.

Tho I will say that whether you're married or not, CIC paperwork is a pain in the ####### With or without a lawyer.

I'd suggest that if you *can* get a leave of absense from work, once you're in Canada and decide whether or not you'll stay beyond 6 months, apply from within Canada, and perhaps the Provincial MP can assist with a compassionate grounds application.

[Canuck4USA 0]

My wife and I will pray for your situation.....Hope that it all works out in your favor.