HOW DO YOU DEAL

[Sarah Bellym 2]

We usually Skype everyday. It doesn't have to be hours at a time even though it was at first. We just discuss how the day was..yada..yada..Maybe once or twice per week we talk for more than hour to two. We call each other through Viber. We send pictures and emails. I have visited twice and I am going back next week for two weeks. We share the same faith so we talk about religion. We talk about the trips we will take, our longterm goals and short term plans. We suggest YouTube videos for the other to watch and talk about current events. Mostly we laugh and joke with each other. It's tough but we do the best we can. I am not good at waiting...I know few people who are but we all do our best to keep in good spirits and know the reward is coming.

[MissK 5]

This is going to sound contrary to everyone else, and not really logical, but my wife and I sometimes limit our communication. We both have full-time jobs and while we often spend hours on Skype, we can also go days without it. All in all, time goes faster when we "do our own thing" and seems to move unbearably slow when we communicate all the time.

For us it has become a fine balance of keeping time passing by quickly, while keeping a healthy level of communication.

I thought I was the only one! We don't skype at all. I can't do it, it feels so hard to see his face and still he is so far away. (unsatisfying was a great way explaining it!) I guess we all handle things differently.... But it's so so hard.....

Due to the time difference we talk on average one-two times a week. Sometimes more. Sometimes for two hours sometimes for five minutes. It all depends. What matters to me is that I know I can call anytime I want. Sometimes just hearing his voice gets me through the night. (What worries me is that we have no chat/skype logs to bring to the interview, I really hope phone logs/text messaging is enough...)

I try to live my life the best I can and make the most out of every day. Everyday one step closer to being with my love. But it's constant work to stay positive. Our son (who lives with me) are really the reason I get through this. With him I'm always busy and he is so full of joy for life and constant reminder that life really is beautiful!

[Caryh 5,206]

Back when my wife was in the Philippines, we mostly kept in touch through texting and phone calls. I used Yahoo to text her for free from my smart phone, and she could reply cheaper than international rates would have been. We used Yahoo and skype to talk and video chat three times a week, but the internet was not that reliable where she lived. Sometimes we could get decent voice and picture, some times we just restarted a lot, and something it ended up just type messaging. We did talk multiple times per day on the phone though. She could get a card through Globe to use on her cell that was much cheaper than anything I could get here at the time. So I'd text her and she'd call me. Usually talked every morning on my drive to work and every evening before I went to bed. When you're dealing with 13 or 14 hour time differences, there's on certain hours in the day that worked for both of us. Now that she's with me, those talks are now in person and so much nicer. The long wait, for years with us, were so worth it.

[IMANCO 13]

We try to talk every day(expensive) But thank God for BLACKBERRY. My wife is not a fan of facebook.

[LinaMD 8]

Being apart for over a year was the hardest thing we ever had to deal with. I had our baby by myself and he couldn`t come see us for a whole month after that because he was in recruiting school at that time. And then he had to leave us again! I still have nightmares about it and I can`t help myslef but cry whenever I remember him getting on that plane back to the US. Now that we are together everything is that much better! Whenever we fight and argue we just tell ourselves that even the worst day of being together is better than the best day of being apart. If we got through the long months of not being next to each other, we can get through anything. Having gone through the torturous process of getting our family together is the biggest motivation to keep our relationship getting stronger.

[unlockingsky 94]

setup skype with the annual flat rate international call and a direct dial number to his/her cellphone.

also subscribe to internet on your phone so you can skype on the subway, driving (handsfree), walking or working.

if he/she lives in a area with bad cell reception, install a auto-redial plugin. guarantee it will ring till you get him/her but be cautious of the usage.

Edited April 9, 2012 by unlockingsky

[peachzz 0]

Completely ramdom, I know... but I am very curious as to how other people do it. For me is a first time. I am madly in love with my boyfriend (soon to be husband) who lives in another country. I never thought I would be the one to do a long distance relationship. NEVER in my wildest dreams I thought I could... but true love takes us to different places, and makes us do things we thought we never could.

It is, without a doubt, the hardest thing I have ever had to do, but we are soooooo worth it. We have our ups and our downs, but most importantly we are always there for each other. I just wonder, how other people do it? how do you deal with the distance? Just curious...

HI!Im talking with my love since febrary 2010,we never stop talking everyday,and sometimes twice by day!we use fb messages back then.in may 2010 we started a relationship....he sent me the solicitude of relation on fb!jaja...i got nervous that day anyway!

we start using msn everyday and time to time phone calls....then in august we start using skype.every single day till today,theres no one day that we dont spend at least two hours everyday talking,listening music togheter,watching movies----we make it trought this way....

i met him in person in febrary 2011,one year after knowing each other on line!

but we been talkin every day during that year ,so we felt like we really know each others when he came to Argentina!

........and yes, when it is the only way u have , love always find a way to make it work....!and it does!

sometimes we watch movies togheter,we share songs,we watch videos on youtube,always being conected!we also use whatsapp,on our phone so we are texting each other all day when we are workin!

let me tell u something;distance is only relative,u can feel so close with a person that is miles and miles aways and u cant touch him,and feel so far away for someone that sleep with u ,and u dont even know what he thinks or feels!

thats what i feel now, feel like i found my other half in USA.....

and i never imagine finding someone trought my computer!i never believed on that...and he either!but we found on fb......and all started!

we just need to get togheter to start a real life,but for now....god bless the SKYPE!!!!

[peachzz 0]

We try to talk every day(expensive) But thank God for BLACKBERRY. My wife is not a fan of facebook.

hello!on skype u can talk for free and see your love ´s face everytime you want,but also u have plans that are really economic to call from skype to your love phone!

i have a plan to call to USA from Argentina,unlimitated,just paying with my visa credit card 7 dollars for month!and is unlimitated,and u can call to a house phone or a cell phone!for me...this was my salvation,cause using the phone company to call usa it was like ...omg!

[afoyoswa 178]

hello!on skype u can talk for free and see your love ´s face everytime you want,but also u have plans that are really economic to call from skype to your love phone!

i have a plan to call to USA from Argentina,unlimitated,just paying with my visa credit card 7 dollars for month!and is unlimitated,and u can call to a house phone or a cell phone!for me...this was my salvation,cause using the phone company to call usa it was like ...omg!

I wish this worked for us! Skype, unfortunately, is only free if your internet data is unlimited. And it's seemingly fairly inexpensive for him to call my phone, but we all know that it's impossible to compare costs by simply applying the exchange rate, so in the end it is prohibitively expensive for him to call for more than a few minutes most of the time.

Edited April 9, 2012 by afoyoswa

[R&RM 11]

I wish this worked for us! Skype, unfortunately, is only free if your internet data is unlimited. And it's seemingly fairly inexpensive for him to call my phone, but we all know that it's impossible to compare costs by simply applying the exchange rate, so in the end it is prohibitively expensive for him to call for more than a few minutes most of the time.

So sorry to hear that Joy. I don't know about Uganda but I have a wireless connection with unlimited internet access for about $30 a month. I know there are other ways that are way more expensive but don't know if Aaron has anyway of looking into something like that. I used to use a much more expensive option that in addition had a really unstable connection but the one I'm on now works great.

So we usually have skype running all day and talk mostly by typing. He's 5 hours ahead so his day ends faster than mine. We talk either on cell phone or on skype call at least once a day. We don't do video skyping much. To be honest, it's largely my fault because it is really hard for me to do video actually...it's so ridiculous, he's right there but he's not. I just hate that deception that it's like he's in the room with me but his not. Still, does feel good to see him every now and then and not just imagine what he looks like. I also am guilty of rereading letters he's written me in the past waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too many times.We watch movies together too, once a week. One thing that was so cool for me this weekend is that my son finally got to play Stone Age with him online and they could talk on skype while they were playing and he had such a great time. He'd really been missing his dad and was so happy afterwards he got to do that so yeah, hoping to play more games.

It is insane to imagine a world without internet for sure!

Hang in there, there are many of us in the same shoes.

[Fight for Love 98]

Completely ramdom, I know... but I am very curious as to how other people do it. For me is a first time. I am madly in love with my boyfriend (soon to be husband) who lives in another country. I never thought I would be the one to do a long distance relationship. NEVER in my wildest dreams I thought I could... but true love takes us to different places, and makes us do things we thought we never could.

It is, without a doubt, the hardest thing I have ever had to do, but we are soooooo worth it. We have our ups and our downs, but most importantly we are always there for each other. I just wonder, how other people do it? how do you deal with the distance? Just curious...

omg tell me about it!!! its driving nuts :bonk: but at the same time it teaching me to be patience and build a trust. Being in this kind of relationship it takes two to work things out..

we usually text each other everyday...day and night.

Edited April 9, 2012 by takis

[OurHappyEnding 3]

Daily calls (we signed up for unlimited talk plans Canada-US) and text messages. It is tough but if you keep yourself busy with work, friends and family...time really does fly by.

Also knowing that there will be end date to the long distance helps a lot.

[Fight for Love 98]

Videos. Lots of videos. A picture is worth 1,000 words and video is 30 pictures a second... that's 30,000 words per second!

Internet isn't available where my fiancee lives, so she has to travel to an internet cafe to chat and doing that after dark is dangerous. With the 12-13 hour time difference, she only goes to the cafe in her mornings. We're lucky if we see each other on Yahoo Messenger 3 times a week. There have been times when it's only been once a week and that really sucks. Phone service in her area is sporadic too, so we don't talk on the phone very often. Not to mention the rolling power blackouts.

But, we text each other each morning and evening and we send each other pix and videos often. We share videos of ourselves preparing food, going out and about and other such general activities. She emails hers to me and I post mine on Photobucket and just send her a link.

I've sent her videos of me making Pan de Sal and cooking other foods. I've "taken her with me" while going down the road to visit friends, picking up chinese food, while fishing, while hunting, while running errands, shopping, etc.

And I especially send her videos of what my home is like, the property I have and what life is like here. That way, she has a much more familiar idea of what her life will be like once she arrives.

Photos are great but videos tell a richer story, even if it's a mundane thing like going to the store or cooking. Last week I sent her a 3 minute video of me preparing shrimp fajitas and yesterday I sent another of some landscaping that needs to be done, which we discussed in our chat last night. It was good for her to see what it's really like and important that she be able to interact and put forth her own ideas. Doing so bonds us even closer.

Emails, texting and pictures are all good, but videos are great.

we are in the same boat lol

[bigdog 376]

Skype, and either get up early or stray up late. Fun isn't it. This gives you lots of time to work stuff out and make plans, even if you cant set solid dates. Good Luck.

[BerryNRocco 7]

My husband and I try to skype twice a day for a few hours. I also keep myself busy with school, work, hanging with friends. I also want to find a hobby! This journey has definitely made us truly appreciate one another and increased our ability to grow together. Immigration will definitely put a relationship to the test, and one must remember that it will be over....eventually.