Cheating wife

[rade2rising 205]

Ok you listen, when this woman decided to do what she did, she is no longer the ONE.

If she kissed somebody in public in a very conservative culture such as that of VN, I'm pretty sure they have done a lot more than that behind closed doors.

So you are saying that if you were to walk in on your wife swallowing dude's face, not only you would be ok with that but you will bring her home, shower her with love to save the marriage?

Marriages are based heavily on "love" and "respect", when one decides to be unfaithful there's no longer any "love" nor "respect", and that would render the marriage meaningless in this particular case.

my point is that he needs to get the whole story there are alot of assumptions even on your part. Its very easy to run with that. I learn a long time ago to be wary of jumping to conclusions especially on important matters. Its easy to dismiss his wife based on some pictures his cousin took. If she was my wife and i spent all that time and money invested in her you better believe i will be going there myself and get the story. It might be over anyways but for something that important you can't just dismiss it with a picture.

You are telling me if he sees this woman, his wife, here in USA kissing someone in a starbucks with his own eyes he will go immediately to his lawyer and file for divorce???

This is his wife not a slave he bought. She deserve to be heard and for his own piece of mind he should at least listen to what she have to say.

[tan&tuyet 15]

I am here to get some advice on this difficult situation not start an agruement between VJ members. I didn't say I was going to just divorce her right away I need to get all the facts straight first. Vietnam is a very conservative country and if she kissed that guy in public like that who knows what they did in private when I wasn't there. All the facts will come out and I will decide. I don't know when but time will tell. Thanks for all the advice.

[quann 26]

sorry OP, i'm not surprised. these types of situation happens alot more than we think.

i don't know the specifics of your case...but generally these girls have longtime bfs and she'd promise to come over, create some kind of drama so she gets permanent status and look for ways to bring the bf over. of course that's the plan anyway. my dad gets plenty of cases where the petitioning husband didn't do anything but the girl claimed battery looking for that loophole to a quick AOS/permanent citizenship.

also your wife did a terrible job of hiding...hcm is not a big city but there are literally thousands of cafes/restaurants. how did your cousin spot her so easily!

[tuandanh 3]

This might be a dumb question but are you sure it is her in the photo, ie you have a crystal clear shot of her in the act? Instead of going to VN, did you confront her on the phone about it?

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

my point is that he needs to get the whole story there are alot of assumptions even on your part. Its very easy to run with that. I learn a long time ago to be wary of jumping to conclusions especially on important matters. Its easy to dismiss his wife based on some pictures his cousin took. If she was my wife and i spent all that time and money invested in her you better believe i will be going there myself and get the story. It might be over anyways but for something that important you can't just dismiss it with a picture.

You are telling me if he sees this woman, his wife, here in USA kissing someone in a starbucks with his own eyes he will go immediately to his lawyer and file for divorce???

This is his wife not a slave he bought. She deserve to be heard and for his own piece of mind he should at least listen to what she have to say.

Vietnam is not the USA. Vietnamese are as affectionate as anyone else, but definitely not in public. East Asian people are very conservative about public displays of affection. In terms of how much it would embarrass other people, kissing in a restaurant in Saigon is comparable to screwing on the sidewalk in San Francisco. I've been to Vietnam five times and only saw someone kissing in public two times. The first time it was a man and a prostitute going into a cheap hotel in Saigon. The second time it was a couple of tourists in a beautiful park in Da Lat. Both times the other local Vietnamese people in the immediate area reacted like it was porn, and looked the other way in embarrassment.

It doesn't really matter how serious this would be for an American man who saw his American wife kiss another man in public in America. It matters how serious it would be for a Vietnamese man to see his Vietnamese wife kiss another man in public in Vietnam. Most Vietnamese people would consider it to be pretty serious.

[ScottThuy 140]

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[lambchop4life 6]

You can withdraw the petition right up until the immigration benefit has been granted. The immigration benefit in this case is not granted until she enters the US with that visa. If you withdraw the petition before she gets on the plane then the visa will be canceled. You want to contact the consulate immediately.

Damn Wassup Jim been two years since I've posted on here,

Um dude you should move on if she come over here just leave her at the airport.

Look let her have the american dream she will figure it out that its not all that crack up to be, and will want to go back.

Trust me I know numerous amount of viet folks that hate it here in the usa: mostly the lazy viet. The hard working one seam to enjoy the US lifestyle of freedom of speech and freedom of the press and of course the safer food.

my thoughts to you guys that want to marry a viet chic, get the ugly homely educated type. They will be somewhat educated and too ugly too cheat on you.

I'm glad my wife is ugly and educated "pretty smart" for Viet Standard.

[lambchop4life 6]

Vietnam is not the USA. Vietnamese are as affectionate as anyone else, but definitely not in public. East Asian people are very conservative about public displays of affection. In terms of how much it would embarrass other people, kissing in a restaurant in Saigon is comparable to screwing on the sidewalk in San Francisco. I've been to Vietnam five times and only saw someone kissing in public two times. The first time it was a man and a prostitute going into a cheap hotel in Saigon. The second time it was a couple of tourists in a beautiful park in Da Lat. Both times the other local Vietnamese people in the immediate area reacted like it was porn, and looked the other way in embarrassment.

It doesn't really matter how serious this would be for an American man who saw his American wife kiss another man in public in America. It matters how serious it would be for a Vietnamese man to see his Vietnamese wife kiss another man in public in Vietnam. Most Vietnamese people would consider it to be pretty serious.

I whole heatedly agree Jim. Most Vietnamese are ultra conservative.

And Like tan Said he was told that she was doing some PDA. That is definitely red flags. Heck I be piss if my wife gave another dude a hug here.

maybe that just me. But hell i went through a lot to get her here. That guy can get his own viet chic to hug you know what i mean.

[Sayha or bust. 71]

Vietnam is not the USA. Vietnamese are as affectionate as anyone else, but definitely not in public. East Asian people are very conservative about public displays of affection. In terms of how much it would embarrass other people, kissing in a restaurant in Saigon is comparable to screwing on the sidewalk in San Francisco. I've been to Vietnam five times and only saw someone kissing in public two times. The first time it was a man and a prostitute going into a cheap hotel in Saigon. The second time it was a couple of tourists in a beautiful park in Da Lat. Both times the other local Vietnamese people in the immediate area reacted like it was porn, and looked the other way in embarrassment.

It doesn't really matter how serious this would be for an American man who saw his American wife kiss another man in public in America. It matters how serious it would be for a Vietnamese man to see his Vietnamese wife kiss another man in public in Vietnam. Most Vietnamese people would consider it to be pretty serious.

So true, its hard enough to get my wife to hold my hand in public, definitively no kissing, maybe my wife's old fashioned but any kind of tank top or low cut shirt too is out of the question.

[ScottThuy 140]

I hug my SIL and I catch hell... nopDA's with anyone let alone someone other than the SO... A huge VN no no..

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

Damn Wassup Jim been two years since I've posted on here,

Um dude you should move on if she come over here just leave her at the airport.

Look let her have the american dream she will figure it out that its not all that crack up to be, and will want to go back.

Trust me I know numerous amount of viet folks that hate it here in the usa: mostly the lazy viet. The hard working one seam to enjoy the US lifestyle of freedom of speech and freedom of the press and of course the safer food.

my thoughts to you guys that want to marry a viet chic, get the ugly homely educated type. They will be somewhat educated and too ugly too cheat on you.

I'm glad my wife is ugly and educated "pretty smart" for Viet Standard.

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life

Never make a pretty woman your wife

And for my personal point of view

Get an ugly girl to marry you!

[lambchop4life 6]

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life

Never make a pretty woman your wife

And for my personal point of view

Get an ugly girl to marry you!

oh my god that is clever

ROTFLMAO

Edited April 14, 2012 by lambchop4life

[luckytxn 2,264]

oh my god that is clever

ROTFLMAO

Been a long time Lambchop.

[Dai. 7]

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life

Never make a pretty woman your wife

And for my personal point of view

Get an ugly girl to marry you!

My wife is hot!! She's a 9, I am a 3 (being generous to my self). I know I am lucky as hell. I am lucky we are both catholics and have the same views on divorce. We built a big tree trunk with our marriage. Thats the key for us to be together for good.

[Teacher Mark 53]

I'm sure she'll have a logical explanation. She''ll explain everything to you and make you see that it's really not her, it's you.

I dumped my cheating ####### 3 years ago, merely a month after we moved into our first (and last) apartment. I threw her, her sister, her brother-in-law and her 3 year old niece out of my apartment (the sister and kid were welcome to stay, but they opted not to). She thought I was stupid and would never find out about her b/f, but I did. I confronted her via the internet and told her we were getting a divorce. Then, after thinking long and hard about it, I decided to play along with her and act like I believed her story, because she had one that was designed to make me see that it was me, not her. I moved here, got a job teaching English and gathered more evidence. When I felt like the time was right I confronted her again and threw her out.

My advice is to get on a plane and surprise her with chocolates and flowers. Then show her the pic and dump her on the spot.

Edited April 14, 2012 by Teacher Mark