Big age difference

[shonababy08 1]

You are AMAZING!!!!

Million thanks Catknik. Yesterday, my family and my fiance's family in India are so confused and don't know what to do next. We are all sad and don't know what to do. We decided on getting married. Our family are happy with that idea and you just confirmed it. That's the only option we can take. I am so happy to hear from you and your words of advice. I was so hesitant to post my issues here the other day because I am so ashamed of my situation, and don't want to be judged and I am so sorry I am older. Out of desperation I registered. I am so glad I did. You gave us so much hope. I don't know how long will CR-130 processing take but I hope for the best. I can tell you more about our relationship next time but, for now I just want to let you know how much I really appreciated your time and knowledge about Immigration issues. Once again thank you very much.

First off - I know how much this whole thing sucks. We've been there, we survived, we're now happily settled in the US.

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Certain things can't be "fixed" per say. Obviously you can't change your age. But, you can look at all the information about your case and see how you can strengthen your case...

As to whether or not using an attorney at this point makes sense - in your case, most likely not. The CO wasn't convinced that your relationship was bonafied, an attorney won't be able to fix that.

You can get in touch with the immigration liaisons for both your Congressperson and US Senator. These people will only be able to confirm that your case was sent back to USCIS. In some extraordinarily rare cases, files are kept at the embassy and a second interview is scheduled at the request of these liaisons. I can think of only 2 cases in all the years I've been on vj that succeeded in getting a second interview after a denial. But, no harm in trying...

When you case returns to USCIS chances are it will be expired out - no further action will be taken on that case. You may get letter stating just that [or you may not - VSC doesn't seem to do that]. Your options going forward would be to file a new K1 or get married and file for the CR1 [i-130]. Delhi seems to give K1 mixed race couples a harder time than CR1 applicants. My recommendation would be to marry and file the I-130 over the K1 route.

Total side note - getting married in India is a whole nother mess. You'd probably marry under the special marriage act which has a 30 day posting period. Some regional areas require both parties to register 30 days ahead of time, some regional areas allow the Indian fiance to do this on there own. This means either a long trip to India in some cases!

I personally think one of the hardest parts to this whole process is separating yourself from all the warm and fuzzy feelings you see in your relationship and look at it like a legal case. Your goal is to prove to a 3rd party suspicious government employee that this is a real and true relationship. When you have "red flags" you've just upped the ante on that legal burden.

You'll most likely want to front load your next petition [do a search here on vj for information]. This will help the second petition immensely.

And, again, my #1, numero uno tip for Delhi K1 interviews [or any case that has a messy history - which yours now does]: the USC needs to be at that interview. Be there come hell or high water. It speaks volumes to the CO and chances are you will be interviewed at the same time. Any questions can then be clarified at that time. Interactions between you and your fiance can be seen. Tricky questions about your past can be explored - like if your divorce was a mess due to custody fights...your right there to explain it.

Read the R&S's topic in this forum about inter-racial relationships, it will help you see some of the past/present issues some couples have at the Indian consulates.

If you have any additional questions - just ask! We're here to help!

[shonababy08 1]

Hi Dwheels76,

We are deciding on getting married and that means I have to fly to India to do that and I might be there again on his interview date. I'm still calling

immigration lawyers who can help me. Do you have to go the US Embassy in Nigeria to get a certificate or clearance before you can marry? Thanks

for you help. Good luck to you.

Well I know its a country to country thing but divorce and quick engagement or marriage is a big red flag. And yes it seems alot of what you all are doing seems more like a marriage than Ke 1 engage couple. Like leases and joint accounts. They might look at that unfavorable. I am sure more K1ers can put more light on this and help youan. But I do know now you need to be contacting your state reps, congress person and have them look into this. They usually can get the true low down on whats up. And yes you may have to do the next step and get married and refile CR1/IR1.

I am sorry I am 21 years older than my husband and so you know people like you have a special place in my heart. Don't give up. Now is the time to start making inquiries and getting your ducks in a row and getting your baby home.

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[dwheels76 5,469]

Hi Dwheels76,

We are deciding on getting married and that means I have to fly to India to do that and I might be there again on his interview date. I'm still calling

immigration lawyers who can help me. Do you have to go the US Embassy in Nigeria to get a certificate or clearance before you can marry? Thanks

for you help. Good luck to you.

Mope Nigeria you just go to Courthouse register have passport pics so you get put up on wall of fame and you can marry some places wtye next day. We had to wait 3 days. You get a nice wedding certificate stamped with seal on it after wedding vows. cut and dry.

No problem. Happy for your upcoming marriage.