My wife disappeared before interview for adjustment of status

[RobbyUSA 26]

Unlikely - if you think about it - you came to US to live with your wife - if your wife is gone, you lost your reason to be here...

right, most of the time foriegn people come to the US because they love the country more than there spouse.

face reality please..... who wants to live in Russia?

[Little_My 464]

I'm pretty sure quite a few of the 143 million people currently residing in Russia are very happy and content with living there..

[jdh 103]

I would advise just cooling down and waiting.

1. She may come back...some ladies just need to have some time to reflect on the relationship.

2. You haven't got your interview appointment yet so you have no idea how long you have to wait it out...you're jumping the gun a bit.

If she does come back to you I would advise being a little more easy to get a long with. . You obviously need her to stick with you if you would like to remain in this country. Relationships work and it's not over till the fat lady sings.

The people saying its over just because she has taken off for a few days may not understand the dynamic of your relationship or her specific personality...even in the worst of circumstances relationships are still reconciled with time and effort.

The reason the divorce rate is so high is because not enough people understand that marriage is not all roses and is nothing like dating or the honeymoon. Marriage is about making a decision that this is going to be your companion forever...if you have an argument you work it out. You don't quit your marriage...what do you think till death do us part is all about?

Hope that she comes back and try to work things out.

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

You didn't clearly stated in your post the reason behind why she left you. Whatever it is or what's happening between you and her, check on the IMBRA pamplet if you can be categorized as a victim of domestic violence. To be a victim doesn't mean only to be physically abused but they are a lot of factors that can be consider as to be one. Try to visit www.uscis.com and search for IMBRA. Read everything related to it and you might find some answers and helps that you may need.

IMBRA is not relevant here. It applies only to the petitioner in K visa cases. You're thinking of VAWA. Unless he's got substantial evidence of abuse then VAWA is a non-starter. The OP said they had an argument and she packed up and left. That falls far short of "battery or extreme cruelty". Unless he's got a truckload of evidence he hasn't told us about, VAWA isn't an option here.

[AmyWrites 593]

right, most of the time foriegn people come to the US because they love the country more than there spouse.

face reality please..... who wants to live in Russia?

I'm an American living in Russia. Thanks. There's plenty of us here, and we enjoy it.

[Alex and Sofya 7]

right, most of the time foriegn people come to the US because they love the country more than there spouse.

face reality please..... who wants to live in Russia?

Did you ever visit Russia? I don't think so, so please don't make comments like this. There are many people who visited Russia and wanted to live in Russia.

[nyc32 0]

what if i apply for spousal abuse that she humiliated me threatened that i would be deported attacked me and stuff

Edited April 3, 2012 by nyc32

[kzielu 1,149]

what if i apply for spousal abuse that she humiliated me threatened that i would be deported attacked me and stuff

Did she actually do that ? Or you're looking for your way out of this situation ? To use that path you need very solid evidence.

[Penguin_ie 5,996]

**** One post advocating violence/ pretending violence and two discussing same removed. These are the upper/ immigration forums. Here, we give advice and stay civil. If you want to joke, we have an Off Topic forum for that *****

Edited April 3, 2012 by Penguin_ie

[ceadsearc 516]

what if i apply for spousal abuse that she humiliated me threatened that i would be deported attacked me and stuff

You will need concrete proof of that, your word won't suffice. Did you call the police? Do you have any record of it?

[VanessaTony 3,567]

what if i apply for spousal abuse that she humiliated me threatened that i would be deported attacked me and stuff

Unless you have police reports, witness reports, photos etc, the likelihood it would be approved is low. Especially seeing you didn't apply until after you filed jointly and after she left you. Screams fraud.

[aosapplicant 3]

Logic of moderator 'penguin' is very difficult to decipher.

OP among other things is asking "what if i apply for spousal abuse that she humiliated me threatened that i would be deported attacked me and stuff".

What kind of question is that?

If she did alleged thing, then why is he only now asking the forum members about it and never mentioned the same before?

And if she didn't then isn't he asking forum members whether he should commit a crime?

Of course this is overlooked by mod, but an obviously satirical response isn't and is defined as 'advocating/pretending violence'.

It takes a very square head to take it that way, I must tell.

[aosapplicant 3]

Unless you have police reports, witness reports, photos etc, the likelihood it would be approved is low. Especially seeing you didn't apply until after you filed jointly and after she left you. Screams fraud.

Vanessa & Tony, both of you are wrong.

WAVA apps are often approved based on testimony of applicant only.

The alleged spouse may never even know what happened, because of strict privacy laws protecting the victim.

The question is not so much whether he has reports, witnesses , photos etc, as whether he is telling a truth or not.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Vanessa & Tony, both of you are wrong.

WAVA apps are often approved based on testimony of applicant only.

The alleged spouse may never even know what happened, because of strict privacy laws protecting the victim.

The question is not so much whether he has reports, witnesses , photos etc, as whether he is telling a truth or not.

Actually is "VAWA" (Which stands for "Violence Against Women Act") not "WAVA" and no they're not "often approved based on testimony of applicant only". Where on earth did you hear/read that? People are regularly RFE'd for evidence. Perhaps there's more involved in those cases that you're not aware of but evidence is required. Just like I require evidence that my marriage is valid, people require evidence of abuse. Psychologist reports are often used for emotional abuse where physical evidence might not be present... but it's not just a statement from the supposed victim, there's a lot more to it than that... as it should be!

[aosapplicant 3]

Actually is "VAWA" (Which stands for "Violence Against Women Act") not "WAVA" ...

You are right about the order of letters.

Your knowledge of how to properly spell the abbreviated letters of the ACt is commendable, although irrelevant to the essence of the matter of discussion.

...and no they're not "often approved based on testimony of applicant only". Where on earth did you hear/read that? People are regularly RFE'd for evidence. Perhaps there's more involved in those cases that you're not aware of but evidence is required. Just like I require evidence that my marriage is valid, people require evidence of abuse. Psychologist reports are often used for emotional abuse where physical evidence might not be present... but it's not just a statement from the supposed victim, there's a lot more to it than that... as it should be!

Goodle is your friend, as saying goes. As to me I have read countless numbers of articles and court decisions , many randomly , never bothering to keep footnotes because I read most of the stuff out of curiosity ,like you read whether there is a life on Mars, and not for research paper.

But I do recall reading about it and how some American husbands lamented the law that provided opportunity for their

foreign spouses to get a GC by making the claim that they could never dispute , since under VAWA everything was kept private and out of reach of alleged party. Go google it, the law DOES provide for benefit based on testimony only (it doesn't mean that everyone is approved , only that in some cases it may suffice).

The real question none of you even try to examine is what exactly happened between the couple?

And lately, since he asked 'what if', the important question is did she do the alleged thing? If so why is he only now asking the forum members about it and not mentioned the same in OP and follow-up posts?

And if she didn't then isn't he asking forum members whether he should commit a crime?

Everything else is secondary.