Living with in Laws

[jjbandero 39]

I agree with the posters who said it depends on the in laws. Mine are very respectful of our space, and always willing to lend a hand, *after* they ask us. For instance, my MIL wanted to help us with laundry (for the guest room she was staying in, and our stuff), she asked if it was ok with me if she went ahead and did that (of course, thanks for the help!), the important thing is that she asked. So I do the same when I'm at her house, I'll try and keep things the same as I found them and I check in with her before I did something, even going as far as asking how she would like it to be done. It never hurts to over communicate a little, especially in the beginning. If you don't want them to think you don't know what you're doing, you can always explain your approach first, and then ask, "how does that sound to you?" to give them a chance to chime in. I know sometimes it's nice to surprise someone with cleaning and cooking etc. but it's best to be sure of their personalities before you invest the time and effort.

I actually had a harder time with my own grandparents staying with us when I was younger, they're the busybody, I'm-going-to-go-through your stuff type. I dealt with it by doing a lot of things out of the house always productive things like spending time in the library, looking for a job etc. It's hard to criticize when you're doing something to better yourself or your financial situation right?

Best of luck to you and have a safe trip to Utah!

Cheers

[Reyan 56]

The problem with living in someone else's home (whether it be your in-laws, parents, friends, and etc) is that it is their home, and you have to follow/abide by their rules.

Personally I could not live in my parents home, because my wife and I like our privacy. I understand some of us are less fortunate to have our own place, but try to move out as soon as you can. It's less stressful in the long run.

[amyandjorge 76]

I'm glad to see other folks have had to live with their parents and their foreign spouse (we're not the only ones!)

Long story short, my whole family loves my husband, and he loves them (they like the same food, tv shows, etc). The other day he asked me why I wasn't filling out apt applications... (I've been busy!) We have all been living together exactly two months. Story is, I moved back in with mom, husband came, we all live together and all the while we are looking for a place we like. While it is an ideal temporary situation for us, it is still stressful (in an already stressful time for him). Something that really irks me is how my mother tries to step in and do things that I should be doing for him because she thinks I am too busy or whatever. Also, my husband doesn't feel like he can take food out of the fridge, load the dishwasher, etc (which stresses me).

We are ready to move out! And I am still at an age where a lot of my friends live with their parents.

[paul_kay 31]

I agree it depends on how nice or mean they are gonna be. But to look at the positive side, they might be very helpful in your adjustment here while your husband is working. Im lucky to have very nice in laws and they have helped me go around, who knows, you might get the same or better! lol Just respect and when you feel offended or disrespected, voice your opinions out!

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Just to reiterate from my previous post even though I had trouble with my in-laws, it REALLY depends on the people. We also had a friend move in with us (our house) and he lived here for over 2 months. While I didn't enjoy the lack of freedom (walking around naked if you so desired ) we had no other issues. My only rule was if you take the second last of something write it on the shopping list on the fridge. I hate running out of food/things.

He moved out of his own accord and has his own place now. We're still very good friends with him and he still comes over.

So it won't necessarily be bad.