Age Difference - What induces a "Red Flag"?

[MyJourney1 15]

Please give me an example of how an age difference can cause a "Red Flag" for K1 VISAs when the beneficiary is a Nigerian.

[NY_BX 397]

Please give me an example of how an age difference can cause a "Red Flag" for K1 VISAs when the beneficiary is a Nigerian.

Usually the red flag is when the lady is beyond child bearing age and the male is significantly younger. So, if the male is 27 and the female is 47, that's a red flag. If the male is 30 and the lady is 39, not so much.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

If you went to school with his mother you are in trouble.

Seriously , producing a child is very important in the Nigerian culture. If he doesn't have a child and you are over 40 you are talking about a huge red flag. If he already has children it isn't so bad about the replacement generation but they will still question why he would want someone significantly older because it is not what the average Nigerian ( the obvious reason is that you were the first one to offer to get him to the US ) Many men actually cruise the internet looking to the green card and the success rate in getting interest in getting an over 40 female to foot your green card journey is a lot higher than a 20 something female. The average length of a marriage from a young men to older woman is also much much smaller.

[MyJourney1 15]

If you went to school with his mother you are in trouble.

Seriously , producing a child is very important in the Nigerian culture. If he doesn't have a child and you are over 40 you are talking about a huge red flag. If he already has children it isn't so bad about the replacement generation but they will still question why he would want someone significantly older because it is not what the average Nigerian ( the obvious reason is that you were the first one to offer to get him to the US ) Many men actually cruise the internet looking to the green card and the success rate in getting interest in getting an over 40 female to foot your green card journey is a lot higher than a 20 something female. The average length of a marriage from a young men to older woman is also much much smaller.

What about 38 (woman) and 30 (man)?

Edited March 31, 2012 by MyJourney1

[Penguin_ie 5,993]

What about 38 (woman) and 30 (man)?

Have either of them married before?

Do either of them have kids?

What do they plan to do about kids of their own?

[MyJourney1 15]

Have either of them married before?

Do either of them have kids?

What do they plan to do about kids of their own?

- Her 2nd marriage; His 1st marriage.

- Her teenagers (Set of Fraternal twins).

- plans to have at least 1 child.

[patient2010 93]

you should be ok.......

[favored 31]

don't allow too much negative thoughts in... just prepare well for all angles.. lagos might be approving large age gaps that day.. no one can predict them

[MyJourney1 15]

don't allow too much negative thoughts in... just prepare well for all angles.. lagos might be approving large age gaps that day.. no one can predict them

You're right; No one can really predict....

[MyJourney1 15]

you should be ok.......

If you went to school with his mother you are in trouble.

Seriously , producing a child is very important in the Nigerian culture. If he doesn't have a child and you are over 40 you are talking about a huge red flag. If he already has children it isn't so bad about the replacement generation but they will still question why he would want someone significantly older because it is not what the average Nigerian ( the obvious reason is that you were the first one to offer to get him to the US ) Many men actually cruise the internet looking to the green card and the success rate in getting interest in getting an over 40 female to foot your green card journey is a lot higher than a 20 something female. The average length of a marriage from a young men to older woman is also much much smaller.

I'm "under" 40 and we will be making a Baby after 1 year. He's 30.

[dwheels76 5,468]

don't allow too much negative thoughts in... just prepare well for all angles.. lagos might be approving large age gaps that day.. no one can predict them

I love the positive attitude. Thanks for this. I needed this.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

Joseph and I have a bigger difference and we made it so it is possible.

[dwheels76 5,468]

Joseph and I have a bigger difference and we made it so it is possible.

It seems all we are to do is prove a Bona Fide relationship. Than all these other components of judgement gets into the mix. Chidi and I are 21 years apart. I didn't go to school with his mum only because we were on different continents. But yes we are exactly the same age. But to see Chidi and I together is to see we are so well matched and compatible. Not because I look so young or we are such a hot couple but as you know on paper no one seems what they really are. That's why I so wish they would grant spouses and fiance'/fiancee's in the interview. Just so they could get the best picture. thats why I made sure my Passport picture they saw is me at my most attractive hottness. Because bottom line we are dealing with people who make judgements based on their own opinions of what they think.

But bottom line its ALL in God's hands. he is and will always be in control.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

The problem the consulate has is that almost everyone that is getting taken by the romance scammers is in the over 40 bracket. They get so many calls every week from some poor soul that is sure their lifes love has been trapped in some hotel there or in the hospital. It creates a mind set that every over 40 person has been affected in the same manner, lured into love by a sweet talking youngster , with intents of coming to America to establish the begining of serial immigration for the rest of his family. To some extent it is true as we see by the number of Nigerian/American relationships that last only months after immigration. But for those of us with valid reverse age realtionships it is an uphill battle with Nigeria which probably won't change as long as the first thing that comes to mind when Nigeria is mentioned is 419 and romance scams.

[dwheels76 5,468]

The problem the consulate has is that almost everyone that is getting taken by the romance scammers is in the over 40 bracket. They get so many calls every week from some poor soul that is sure their lifes love has been trapped in some hotel there or in the hospital. It creates a mind set that every over 40 person has been affected in the same manner, lured into love by a sweet talking youngster , with intents of coming to America to establish the begining of serial immigration for the rest of his family. To some extent it is true as we see by the number of Nigerian/American relationships that last only months after immigration. But for those of us with valid reverse age realtionships it is an uphill battle with Nigeria which probably won't change as long as the first thing that comes to mind when Nigeria is mentioned is 419 and romance scams.

I hear ya and well what can you do. His brother already lives here and got his green card just in November. His sister will be here next week for a work conference. No one else wants to live her one aunt would love to visit. So we'll see

All I can do is be me and well God knows our heart.